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    • ErinV
      CommentAuthorErinV
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      Posted: Jan 31st 2015
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    Hi guys,

    So we went wedding ring shopping this morning and I now know what I like, but wanted to ask about the difference in carats. My engagement ring is 18ct and one of the jewellers said that I would have to get an 18ct wedding ring otherwise a 9ct ring will get rubbed down. However another jeweller said that it wouldn't matter as much these days as 9ct quality is better than it use to be. What do u guys think/know?

    My problem is I've found 2 rings I like in 9ct but not many in 18ct. Also the price obviously differs by quite a bit and may take us over our budget.

    Any thoughts?
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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    I have heard that if you have different carats, the harder one will eventually wear the other one down. I'm sure you would hardly notice and it would have to be over a long period of time I would have thought, but I avoided the risk and bought my wedding band in the same carat as my engagement ring x

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    • InDreamland
      CommentAuthorInDreamland
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    I've heard the same, I'd get the same carat.

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    • KatieH
      CommentAuthorKatieH
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    Yep I agree too. The 9ct will discolour more too than the 18ct although you still have to have the 18ct polished etc every 1 - 2 years or whenever you feel the need to (that is for white gold, not neccisarily for yellow gold) I would go with the same carat as your engagement ring x

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    • leasa
      CommentAuthorleasa
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    I've spoken to a few jewellers who had different opinions.

    They all said there will be wear and tear and rubbing even with the same carat, and this increases faster with different carats and even more so with different metals...but it will take years to really notice.

    One advised to stick to the same and the others all said if ones 9 and ones 18 then it will wear down slightly faster but not enough to worry about. Replating, especially for white gold might need doing every 2-5 years or so depending on the wear.

    It's only about £30-£50 for replating and some rings come with a guarantee that will cover the cost of this anyway.

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    • Linzi-jo
      CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
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      Posted: Feb 1st 2015
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    I was told to get the same carat by every jeweller we went to so I had mine made in the same carat as my engagement ring. I don't think it's worth risking it with different carats really, you will hopefully be wearing the ring for the rest of your life and I'm sure you would be heartbroken if one day you could no longer wear it because your other ring had worn it down too much xxx

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    • Donna2501
      CommentAuthorDonna2501
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    I've been told to go with the same carat, my engagement ring is 18ct so just gonna stick with that xxx

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    • ErinV
      CommentAuthorErinV
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    Thanks for your help ladies. H2bs been looking into at well and says it'll take 20 years plus for a rub to really be noticed. I'm torn, I don't won't my ring to be rubbed down if I go for a different carat, but the difference in price is about £300-400 so quite a bit more which is really pushing it up. I did ask the jewellers to see if they could do either the 2 rings I like in 18ct, they will find out for me on Monday. I'm hoping they can and the price won't be horrendous - that would fix my problem :(
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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
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    Have you gone through a chain? It might be worth showing the ring to an independent jeweller to see if they can make it for you at a lower cost.

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    • Sprucey
      CommentAuthorSprucey
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    Yeah the 18ct because it isn't mixed with as many metals as the 9ct it has more gold in it which is a very soft metal so it's easy to bend etc than a 9ct so a 9ct will wear against the 18ct.

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    • ErinV
      CommentAuthorErinV
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    Rang this chain jeweller today to see if theyve any news on my query about the 2 rings I like. They stated they did call it through but have still not heard back and will chase them for me. Since seen 2 new rings I like 18ct which are in the sale but not in a lock store, may ring to see if they can get them sent to my local store for me.
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
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    Sounds positive. Especially the sale word. Means your ring won't wear but is affordable:)

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    • iluvcakes
      CommentAuthoriluvcakes
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    When we were looking for our rings, we were told to go with the same carat / metal as our engagement rings due to the wearing of the metals if they were different. We were told this by both high street jewellers and 2 sets of jewellers that come to your home.
    Fingers crossed for the rings in the sale!! Am sure that if you gave your local store a call, they would be able to get them in for you to t:

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    • ErinV
      CommentAuthorErinV
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    Have not really heard back from the store with a price for the rings I queried getting made in 18ct. However I did manage to find an 18ct one I liked that was in the sale for just £50 over budget so we've ordered it. H2b also got his the same day which is slightly more as well but nevermind. We are both so happy, just waiting for our ratings to come in now.
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    • CharlotteE98
      CommentAuthorCharlotteE98
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    I was going to say that 9ct is harder than 18ct. I went for a 9ct engagement ring because it was cheaper than 18ct. I would try an independent jewellers rather than a chain, as you could get a great deal. We got our wedding rings from an independent jeweller and we got both rings for £850, free engraving (we had both done and they look brilliant), my engagement ring cleaned up for free and 3 free silver bridesmaids pendants. We were originally quoted over £1000 for both rings but we got quite a big discount.
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    • EmmaG
      CommentAuthorEmmaG
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      Posted: Mar 29th 2015
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    my friend is a jeweller and I asked this as so many people always ask this question I have seen on here and other site . I also wanted to know for when I get mine and I have been told regardless of what carat is the rings will rub and could potentially could cause the metal to wear down anyway, . and while its also true that 2 different metals could cause one to wear down quicker rubbed next to it, could be 30 40 years to make any notice or not at all.. they told me the jewellers that tell you otherwise they just wanting to make more cash out of you. Go for the 9 carat :)

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    • CamilaL
      CommentAuthorCamilaL
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    Ok. My ER is a 9 carat, however I do want my WR to be 18. Here in Brazil is really hard to find rings under 18 ct (and it's really cheaper than UK!!!). I've found some simple rings, white gold, 18 ct, for about £200 the pair! So, really going for 18ct, even if I have to pay for cleaning and replating more often.
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    • ErinV
      CommentAuthorErinV
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      Posted: Mar 29th 2015
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    Well I did find an 18th one I love on sale so got that one. They did say the wear of 2 different rings would take over 20 years but at least getting the same as bought me more time.

    We actually ordered the rings in Southampton about 3 weeks ago and when they came in last week I asked if they could send them to our local store in Salisbury as we were unable to get to them for a few weeks which they said was fine. I've since been waiting to hear for when they arrived locally. I asked h2b in passing earlier today if he had heard from them (we ordered them under his name), at first he said no and was then like let me think, oh yes they did they are in. Honestly he has the memory like a sieve. Needless to say we got in the car and went to collect them. They are beautiful and fit really well, so happy.
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    • MrsThomson2B
      CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
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    what I would say is if you have use a chain like 3rnst j0n3s which is where i got my engagement ring which is 18 carat white gold i fell in love with an engagement ring to the point where i was going to get the 9 carat version of my ring, however they reguslarly do a deal where if you buy 2 ring at 18 carat or platinum (mix and match) then you get a 20% discount. I was lucky enough to also be able to get a further 12% off through a discount scheme at work where i could buy a gift card and pay 12% less than the gift card was worth so in the end my rings were 32% off so try and find ways off reducing the cost of the ring if it is the cost that is an issue. For me doing this I got the exact ring that I want without compromise and still came in under budget with rings that should have been £300 more than what I had budgeted xx
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    • WilliamP80
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