has anyone else been suggested you go on one, our vicar suggested we go feb next year, it gives good advice aparantly and if you go to it you dont need to see the vicar so much as most of it gets done there?
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
I've heard loads of churches insist on it to see if your being serious.
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CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
were going 12 feb next year, its a whole day apparantly :)
CommentAuthorSharyorks
never heard of it! although i am not looking at getting married in church x
CommentAuthorlelbel1
Never heard of it, but we're having a civil ceremony, might be why.
Sounds like a good idea unless you regularly attend the church already maybe
CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
yer we dont regulary attend church, they do it once a year apparantly
CommentAuthorLynz_9
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Yes, we will be going to a few classes with other couples who are marrying in the smae church next year.
Go to the house of a couple who were marrie din the church years ago, and they basically share their secrets of a successful marriage (I imagine minus any making love chat - well I hope lol) and get you to talk to each other about what you what to get from marriage.
I thought it was more common for catholic marriages.
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CommentAuthorEmsy5000
we are having one with our minister but we are the only cupple preparing for marriage at the mo we are doing it on our own. its a good idea i think
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CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
we have to do questionaires about each other etc and discuss our answers apparantly and various other things
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
Not heard of anything like this before... almost sounds like that thing they have in the States... pre-marital counselling lol.
Don't think it's something I'd do, can't stand things like that. You can get advice from family and friends, this would be useful for couples maybe who don't live together before marriage? Cause I'm sure living together would be classed as prepared for marriage as nothing would really change, it's just a bit more official? o.o
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CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
our vicar told us if we go to this a lot oif the stuff gets done there, if we dotn go we need to see the vicar more to sort paper work etc?
CommentAuthorTattieSoup
We haven't been asked to attend any but I would like to if we were offered the chance, I think it would be interesting.
We did our own version instead last year - we watched all seven series of Sex and the City together. My Mum gave it to me for Christmas and I really couldn't be bothered to watch it but she kept asking about it, so eventually I agreed to watch Stargate with David if he would watch Sex and the City with me. I'm so glad we did because I think it was a really valuable experience for us. Every time a big relationship drama came up we discussed what the issues were and who we thought was in the right and why. It really gave me a lot of insight into how my H2B thinks and what his expectations are for things in the future, I would definitely recommend it, I bet it was far more worthwhile than a marriage counselling course!
@Ataraxia - I don't think living together can be classed as preparation for marriage, because statistically it makes you more likely to get divorced, so it isn't very effective!
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
tbh if your not a church goer or regular church goer, its prob there to make sure your getting married in a church for all the right reasons and not just "cause its beatiful" like many brides tend to use as a reason!!! you got to b serious about the faith or at least show interest..hence why these classes are put on for the bridegroom!
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CommentAuthorGregorysGirl
We are getting married in church next June and our vicar hasn't mentioned anything like that, didn't know it even existed! But at least I now have a heads up if he does mention it. But we had our children christened at the same church and from chats we have had about faith I think he knows that we want to get married in church for the right reasons, not just because it looks good in photographs. Have fun if there is fun to be had! :) x
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CommentAuthorOuttahere
Yes, our vicar mentioned it to us at the time of booking. We also have to go in February. She told us it will last 4 or 5 hours and it is a 'getting to know you' session as well as talking to others getting married next year. Ours is optional but h2b really wants to go! MEN! lol x
CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
ours is optional as well, but we said we would go, as shows your doing it for right reasons and vicar said tis easier as you dont have to go and see him so much one to one, ours is also a get to know session. he said we coul;d do it feb 2012 but as were getting married april 2012 he said would be easier if we did it next year and then its done and we havnt got that stress close to the wedding
CommentAuthorMrsB
I want to do it I shall investigate if my church does one x
CommentAuthoremster
Our minister told us to go on it and I'm glad we did. We learnt quite a few things. It was fun too. We worked through everything from our goals in life to the service :-) x x
CommentAuthorKerrylou
We sort of did something similar with our Reverend at our first meeting with him. Basically because a marriage in Church is taken so seriously most Vicars/Priests/Reverends want to know that you're getting married for the right reasons, this is their way of sussing out whether or not you take marriage seriously.
Geek time (lol!!) The Bible states that marriage is the holiest of unions between a man and a woman and should not be undertaken lightly but with severity and reverence. It is a binding in the sight of God and should be made in chaste with pure and honest intentions. In laymans terms that means that you need to be 100% sure and you must take marriage as a serious lifelong commitment. Another little known fact is that if your Vicar/Priest/Reverend doesn't believe you're marrying for the right reasons then they can actually refuse to allow you to marry in their Church, the head of the Diocese is then informed of this decision and all the other Priests/Vicars/Reverends within the diocese can instantly turn down your request for marriage.
It's a good learning/bonding exercise that teaches you things about your relationship that you may not have known and really helps with dealing with compromise
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CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
thanks for that kerrylou!! :)
CommentAuthorKerrylou
You're more than welcome - glad my geekiness comes in handy :D xxx
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CommentAuthorAtaraxia
In other words - Don't annoy the priest, he won't let you get married otherwise... :D
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CommentAuthorhaylsmccrone
haha ataraxia, very true, better tell david to behave lol x
CommentAuthorbagpuss
yeah mhy church rang last week to say i'd get a letter in december inviting me in feb. are they compulsory? the word he used was invitation. i'd like to go but i know my non catholic partner will moan. if it's 'compulsory' there's nothing to be done!
CommentAuthorKerrylou
bagpuss - from what I gather the Catholic church 'invites' you to go but seriously frowns upon you if you don't go. Tell the hubs you HAVE to go :P xxx
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