Well just found out that mil2b has been threating t try n cancel our wedding! Now I know that she cant but I just cant understand what her problem is! she's never liked me, always slagged off me/my family/where Im from but Ive honestly never done anything to hurt her, her family or her son, so I cant understand why she hates me so much. But if you ask her she wont give a reason! so anyway now her n my h2b have had another massive fallout and they are apparanly not comming 2 the wedding n his sister isnt going to be my bridesmaid. I realy dont need this so soon to the wedding :( sorry to rant girls, but had to get it off my chest xxxx
CommentAuthorx ashlil x
ah hun just ignore her, your marrying her son not her xx
CommentAuthorButterflyDreamer
OH MY GOSH How evil! Sending you bugs hugs hun xxx That is so spiteful! xx
CommentAuthorVicky
Do you know why she is treating to cancel your wedding??
CommentAuthornic_87
I know hun but she's the kind of person that will stop at nothing to get her own way. I can actually see her jumping in when they ask if anyone knows why we shouldnt be married! lol x
I feel for you hun, how can she be so nasty? What happened to weddings being happy opccasions that brought two families together?
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CommentAuthornic_87
The only reason I get is that she doesnt want him to marry me. but I dont know why. She not exactly bin the best mum to him either so its not like she's that protective of him. she rarely bothers with him and falls out with him all the time over nothing. He asked her if she would help him with the suits because he's a bit worried about paying for them and her reply was "why cant nic's parents pay for them?" !! xx
CommentAuthorEmsy5000
you poor thing!! that is not acceptable at all! have you confrounted her about it. she needs to get over the fact that you are who her son loves and wants to marry and accept you!!
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CommentAuthorLisa Ramos
OMG she sounds like a nasty piece of work. I would have a cut off period for things to be sorted out and if she hasn't apologised I would ban her from the wedding. You really don't need the stress of worrying that she is going to course a scene, you've got enough on your plate.
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CommentAuthorMadam Butterfly
How horrible. Can't she see her son is marrying the woman he loves?? She wants to miss out on his big day because of nothing thats been said or done wrong. She needs to realise that the wedding will be going ahead whether she likes it or not!! Good luck with it.
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CommentAuthormcquire81
Thats awful, what does your H2B think? Has he tried speaking to her?
CommentAuthornic_87
He's furious with her, has tried speaking to her on many occasions but she's not bothered. Its hard to understand until youv'e met her but she's like a stroppy teenager 24/7 but shes a grown woman. she's never says anything to my face tho which is the most annoying thing. she tried once n I stood up to her which probs made her hate me even more lol. and I dont think she even knows how to apologise! Thanks for the support girls, I would love to have a mil that I get on with but its h2b that I feel most sorry for. he deserves better than her xxx
CommentAuthorCroc
just put her in a home...lol
this happened to me mum as my nan didnt like her she wasnt degree educated to marry my step dad and too common .. and she couldnt see it lasting... well shes dead now (she was a horrible gran) and mum and step dad have been happliy married 25 yrs this year... my mum had it for the last 23years but for the past 2 nothing as she has been dead!! but ay opertunity she would make my mums life a nightmere... but my mum used to be bitchy back and get her really rubbish xmas pressies and stuff or give her horrible food when she came to stay ...
so i really really feel for you xx
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CommentAuthornic_87
hmmm a home sounds good lol. thanks hun. good to see that your parents are still happily married :) I know she'll never win. I treat him with respect, something she seriously lacks. Thanks for letting me rant girls and being supportive. I know Im not the only one on here with nightmare inlaws! hehe. I feel better now Shes not worth the upset xxxxxxx
CommentAuthorRhiannonollie
Have you tried to sit down and talk with her? I mean it sounds like she wouldnt be an adult about that , but it might clear the air.
If all else fails, just stop bothering with her. Just say to your h2b that you will tolerate her at social/family gatherings but other than that you will no longer have anything to do with her.
the last thing you should do is let her bother you though. Ignore her. I know that is easier said than done, but do try
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CommentAuthorAli
sounds like my mil2b and h2b's family. Just do what i do ignore them. Yes its upsetting, but really they are not worth the bother. At the end of the day you're marrying her son and there is nothing she can do about it. Yes she can try and ruin your day, but you won't let her as its your day. One of the reasons we're marrying abroad is h2b's family!!! x
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CommentAuthornic_87
lol yeah Im just gonna ignore her, she probably wants me to lose my temper then she can go around telling people, making me look bad. shes not ruining this for us. cant wait till may!! hehe xxx
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
It sounds like your h2b has shown which side of the fence he is on so if she wants to be on her own then that is up to her. That is her loss not yours and will serve herself right for being so silly. Don't let her silly childish acts get you down as you guys are much better than that. x x
CommentAuthorJilly17
It is so sad that so many people try to make weddings about them rather than the people it is really about...a celebration of the couple!!! I really feel for you and your h2b because after all it is his mum and he must be so disappointed in her (my h2b us incredibly disappointed with his mum too). It is too easy to say just ignore her and dont let it bother you because these are real emotions that affect both you and h2b. If there is a way forward with some resolution that would be wonderful but other than that it is about acceptance and the knowledge your day will be wonderful with or without them. It has suprised me how many silly women there are out there who would risk realtionships with their sons and DIL2b's just to prove a point or gain some control...just so sad!
CommentAuthornic_87
well said ryhope! your exactly right she is only managing to further destroy what relationship she still has left with him. Its ridiculous and at the end of the day I know the people at our wedding are people that care about us and our happiniess. I just hope that one day she realises what a great son she is pusing away. Its her loss xxx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
she will prob still turn up. Just wants attention. she doesnt like someone else being in the limelight and stealing her little boy.
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CommentAuthor*D*a*n*n*i*
she just upset coz your taking her lil boy away or she jelous becuz she wants to be centre of attention and shes not !! MIL's PLEASE DONT GET ME STARTED LOL!!!! I had my rant last week about mine lol
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CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
its her that will regret it when she misses her own sons weddin!! its terrible! hugzzzzzzzzzzz
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CommentAuthorHappilymarried Mrs G
Without wanting to worry you, i would suggest maybe calling round your venue suppliers etc.... just to be on the safe side to ensure she hasnt sabotaged anything (thats if you havent already) She sounds like a nasty piece of work, but try not to let her upset you too much, you are marrying her son not her. xx
CommentAuthorJill
You really have to wonder about some people dont you?? That's ridiculous! She's probably jealous of the relationship you have given that she's not been all that close to him and, typically, thinks you're the reason that is instead of having a look at herself. My GRAN used to be jealous of the relationship I had with my grandad (we were very close) and you wonder what goes through their heads - they're never going to have the relationship YOU have whether you're there or not lol x
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CommentAuthorVicky
I bet you she will turn up and make a fuss just ignore it, Its your day and nothing will ruin it. You are marring the man of yoru dreams. Thats all that matters
CommentAuthorKerrylou
hahaha do you have the same MIL2B as me? Lordy, I honestly thought you were writing about Lin then *shudder*
Your hubby loves you and that is all that matters. I've spent 2 years in knots because of the way my wicked old witch has treated me, my oldest daughter and the way she treats our wedding with the utmost of contempt but after her last little paddy I realised something - here lies a sad woman who wants to be in control of every aspect of Ross' life, she'll always despise me for taking her baby boy away from her but I'm not with Ross as part of a popularity contest. Leave the daft cow to it my lovely. Our Ushers are on standby on the big day so that if she does kick off she'll be 'removed' - might be worth you speaking to your WP about doing something similar.
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CommentAuthorAvril
oh my god!!!!! i would tell her she is not invited!!! i would honestly say that to her....... its so sad when people try and ruin something and she is really trying to do that aint she? mil is being very naughty and i honestly would not let her come......why should she be there if she does not want you to marry her son? and as for your sister in law not wanting to be bridesmaid......say FINE! i wouldnt let her change her mind. if it blows over before the day and she expects to be bridesmaid, id tell her its too late. she lost the right to be that when she sided with your MIL without giving you a chance! you dont need her........all you need is H2B! x
CommentAuthorJulie Walker x
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As for the church send out another invite with a different venue, tell them the church was double booked lol Let all suppliers know that any instruction to cancel must come from you or H2B and a phone call to check must be made before anything drastic is done.
I consider myself lucky as far as that is concerned, my H2B hasn't spoken to his mum for 11 years, and I had loads of trouble with my ex mother out law but we are really good friends now and she and ex fil are coming in the place of my own mother! I guess some mums just don't think anyone will ever be good enough for their little boys!
you poor thing!! that is not acceptable at all! have you confrounted her about it. she needs to get over the fact that you are who her son loves and wants to marry and accept you!!
