Sorry to hear you are depressed hun, firstly.. have you seen pics of previous weddings at your venue? im sure they will do a fantastic job you must have picked it for a reason, secondly...there is nothing you can do about people dropping out unfortunately but how about creating a short list so you can fill the spaces and then its not money wasted as such maybe friends of your parents you have known a while?. you could explain to them whats happened and just leave the seating plan but do new name cards? just a few ideas to try to help a little bit, dont forget the most important thing is that this is your wedding day, enjoy it and try not to let the little things get you down. x

THanks JOanneF, I know there is nothing I can do, I am not stupid. ANd secondly I already thought of others to fit in.... And when I booked the venue there was a diffrent organiser, since then I have had 3 organisers and all telling me diffrent things and rearranging my plans, it drives you made!!! Having to change all seating plans cause a it wont look nice if I have on the wall linda and its acctually pips place. How will see know its her place. And I have now added 4 others that were spare seats! You have 12 months to your wedding, beleive me when you get to 2 months before you will start panicking and 2 weeks before is stressfull. You have lots to learn, specially if your on a low budget like me ! I am thinking positive right now and bought some Karms! If your not stressed then there is something wrong! Thanks Mrs clarke to be, if you need any advice or help after my wedding is out of the way. let me know... You don't relise how stresfull planning a wedding is till you do it! I will enjoy my wedding day and am lookingforward to it, doesn't mean you don't stress and wrroy about other things before the day! x

Joanne was only trying to help. I would have suggested the same about the short list as I have that in mind as well. I know it can be stressful. At the moment what is stressing me out is the fact that I am doing the table planning, and I have three people that I need to be sat on a table that is already full, and I have a couple of tables with one seat spare. The table where I want the three others on it (which are young teenage children of the parents on there) have couples on them who all know each other well so thought it would be nice to put them together. Such a blooming nightmare. Will probs end up having the split the table and have two smaller tables.

Thankyou for the support ladies x

Like others have said i would of suggested same and that was a bit of a harsh reply to JoanneF and completely agree with RaggedyAnne.

Just becuase some of us are not getting married for a while doesnt mean we dont stress about things etc and that it all going to plan and yes it prob does get worse the closer you get to the day but you have posted for advise and have just been mean to people who are trying to help as you have asked

Mrs field wind your kneck in and mind your buisness. You don't know me or what is going on in my life. ALl you know is what I wrote on here! I could be suicidel for all you know, and all the negitive comments and angry words could be making me at breaking point! Becarfull what you say to people, I said I was depressed and stressed with everything and then you rant at me how horrible you are!!!! You need to get you head out of your ass girl, now that is being rude. "SORRY" but you have peed me off. Non of you know me!

WOW josoap what did you want people to say when you posted ? did you want help or just or did you just want to rant and get it of your chest and no one reply to you if its the second maybe you should type yourself a letter and not share it.

that being said i dont want to offer you advice as i'm not sure if thats what you want. but i do wish you luck for your wedding x

we lost about 6 evening guests.... they didnt even tell us they werent coming but trust me when it is your special day, you will enjoy yourself so much you wont care about other people. We had the attitude that if people want to be there then they will be and if they dont show up, well it works both ways and we wont go to their events etc

im sorry but iv had depression in the past so i know how it feels n i now hav panic attacks please dont post on here for people to wind there neck in n then try make us feel guilty with u goin on bout been suicidel uv been a b**** at end of day n need to say sorry no need to take ur s*** out on people on here !!!!

TOTALLY agree with the others you have been very harsh and as someone has stated all we really know about each other is what we right.

To be honest im surpries the Mods havent removed or commented to be honest!!

No thats true i havent seen them either to think of it

No their comments from them on other post just think case of not seen this one yet

THINK YOU WILL FIND THAT WHEN SOMEONE IS SUFFERING FROM DEPPRESSION, THERE IS NO RASHNAL THOUGHTS! I WORK WITH PEOPLE WHO SUFFER AND ANY DIGGS JUST MAKE THEM WORSE. I AM SURE ALL DEBBIE WANTED TO DO WAS RANT! EVERYONE DEAL WITH STRESS DIFFRENTLY AND JUST CAUSE YOUR COPING DOESN'T MEAN SOMEONE ELSE IS! hOW DO YOU KNOW SHE hASN'T GONE TO THE DOCTORS AND EVEN WORSE HOW DO YOU KNOW, BY YOUR COMMENTS SHE HASN'T DONE SOMETHING WORSE. PLEASE DON'T GIVE ADVICE ON THINGS YOU DON'T KNOW ABOUT! iF i WAS DEPPRESSED i WOULD PROBABLY OF TKEN COMMENTS WRONG WAY TOO! jUST KEEP YOUR COMMENTS TO YOUR SELF PLEASE. dON'T MAKE THIS GIRL FEEL ANY WORSE! aND YOUR WRONG ABOUT KARMS, THEY ARE GOOD TO KARL PEOPLE DOWN AND IF SHE IS JUST FEELING STRESSED ITS GOOD WAY. AND A DOCTOR WOULD ADVICE THIS BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE. MY FRIEND WAS THE SAME HAS DEBBIE AND KARLS WORKED A TREAT AFTER THE STRESS SHE FELT LOADS BETTER... SO DEBBIE, I DON'T KNOW IF YOU WILL COME BACK ON HERE AFTER THE DIGGS YOU HAVE BEEN GETTING AND I CAN SEE YOUR VERY UPSET. BUT PLEASE KNOW I UNDERSTAND AND HAVE DELT WITH LOADS LIKE YOU NEAR THEIRE WEDDING. HOPE YOU ARE OK AND FEELING LOTS BETTER! IF YOU NEED TO SPEAK PLEASE INBOX ME... GOOD LUCK FOR YOUR WEDDING DAY... NOT ALL PEOPLE ARE LIKE THESE PEOPLE ON HERE WHO HAVE GIVE YOU NEGATIVE COMMENTS TO THE WAY YOUR FEELING HAS THOUGH YOU SHOULDNT FEEL THIS WAY... LOTS DO, BUT COME YOUR WEDDING DAY YOU WILL HOPFULLY BE FINE AND FEEL A RELEIVE! AND EVERYONE WHO IS COMMENTING AND TELLING HER WAHT TO DO, PLEASE STOP YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT ADVICE SHE HAS HAD, WHO SHE HAS TURNED TO AND IF SHE HAS GONE DOCTORS, DO YOU!!!! TAKE CARE NOW DEBBIE! X

Don't think Debbie was being rude. No rudder than everyone else. And stress and deppression can cause people to act out of character. But your intitled to your oppion.

Oh dear. I think Im just going to stay out of this one! The nastiness of some people!

Firstly, I think Josoap and job94 are the same person........they both spelt KARMS incorrectly.......its KALMS. everyone else here spelt it correctly. The whole post also smacks of the same kind of attitude too.

Secondly, job94 is asking us NOT to give advice on things we dont know about....
HOW does she know we dont know about these things? There are many of us here that DO know and some have offered advice, just to be told wind your neck in......

And the comment about keeping our comments to oursleves? fine....then its pretty damn stupid to ask for advice then isnt it?

And thirdly.......''Not all people are like 'these people''............

THESE PEOPLE? what's that's supposed to mean? I then suggest that she/you should bog off and find other people to p1ss off then, because its pathetic. If you need help then seek it, but maybe you have p1ssed the doctor off too.

I agree with you RaggedyAnne there are far too many similarities between the posts.

To Josoap/Debbie/job94 I hope you don't treat the people in your life the way you've treated these women here. No one deserves to be treated that way; they were only trying to help. If you are suffering from depression you need to get help, the kalms aren't working. Go for a walk, a run, do something active to get all that angry pent up energy out. See your doctor. You could try some cognitive behavioral therapy. The next time you need to rant by all means do so, but if you don't want a response please rant in private.

I thought the same RaggedyAnne there are similarities between the two posters which makes me feel even worse for the lady because she is obviously suffering a very low mood. Hopefully by this point her wedding will have taken place and gone to plan and she will be feeling better about everything.

im surprised this post is still going... been away for two weeks and its still being commented on. I think the person who asked for advice obviously doesnt want to hear the advice so best for us all to now leave her well enouigh alone and hope she sorts herself out. Reading through this, and if one person has been sad enough to create 3 usernames, then we are wasting our breath. I hope you do seek out medical help.... if you dont, you only have yourself to blame for your situation. Everyone has the life they choose..... yes things may come along and knock you off path but that is the point... it is how you react to the bad and this helps you move forwards and grow. If you choose instead to dwell on things, you wont move forward and can end up trapped in the cycle and in a depressive state and need help getting out of it. Choose to get help and always try in future to choose how to overcome obstacles instead of just crying and winging about them. If help is offered, even if its not what you want to do,say thankyou but say you would like to try a different route. Thats all im saying as I think I have wasted a few minutes there but I am hopinh some of that will sink in. Bye and hope you CHOOSE the help you need