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    • Lulu1388
      CommentAuthorLulu1388
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    So went to check the post... had couple of RSVPs (YAY!!) and a card....
    now I recognised the handwriting and thought perhaps is this a wedding card.... as knew this person wouldnt be coming to the big day... not until May though.
    I opened anyway. It was a wedding card & cheque. I am extremely grateful & im actually seeing her next week so will thank her personally. We haven't even ordered our TY cards from the printers yet!

    I kind of wish I hadn't opened it, even thought wasn't 100% sure what it was, I should of gone with my gut and put it to one side.

    How long before your big day did you start receiving them, and did you open them?

    xx

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    • Vickie
      CommentAuthorVickie
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    Had a few guests offering cheques already, had one who can't make it so sent RSVP to parents house and card with cheque in to us as an apology (they were going to come, but Husband booked a surprise holiday). A very generous cheque too, not sure what we are going to do with it, to cash it or not.

    xxx
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    • Vickie
      CommentAuthorVickie
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    Found this:


    Thank yous
    Dont Forget to Say Thank You

    Having a wedding does not stop with the last dance at the reception. As any couple knows, the honeymoon soon follows and then the dreaded Thank You note phase waits upon returning from the honeymoon. Several companies offer this service as part of their wedding package, but you may feel it is much more personal and meaningful if you fill out the notes together. The guests who bought you a gift put time and thought into what they bought from your registry, so the polite thing to do is to personalise your appreciation of their kindness before you forget about it.
    The Best time?

    The best time to send your Thank You notes out is within two weeks of returning from your honeymoon. This serves two purposes. It shows the gift giver that you appreciate their thoughts and gifts by thanking them in a timely manner. It also ensures that you do not forget to do it. The longer you let them go, the easier it is to make excuses not to do them. Forgetting to send Thank You notes to friends and family in a timely manner after your wedding can cause many problems in the future, so be sure to do this as soon as possible.
    Exceptions?

    The exception to the two-week rule is if somebody sends you a gift before the wedding. If they are thoughtful enough to ship a gift to you and your soon-to-be spouse before the wedding, you should send them a Thank You note immediately. It will only take a minute to sit down and write a short Thank You message to this person and they will know that you appreciate their thought. When filling out your Thank You notes, mention the gift that the person has given. If you open your gifts at the reception, it is a good idea to have a close family member next to you when opening the gifts so they can write down who gave what. This speeds along the process and keeps your guests from getting bored.
    Make it Personal

    If you open the gifts at home, be certain to keep some type of record of the gifts and who gave them. It is important to mention the gift in the Thank You note so the giver knows that you filled the cards out personally. It will give it that extra touch that will ensure that the giver does not feel slighted by an impersonal message. One of the most important aspects of a wedding is being able to show appreciation for the things that others have done for it. This includes the people who show up for the event and the people who bring or send gifts to you and your spouse. They have put thought into their gift and it is only proper manners to thank them for it. To follow correct etiquette, it is also important to send the Thank You notes quickly to show your appreciation.
    Etiquette for gifts of money

    For gifts of money, it is bad etiquette to mention the amount in your Thank You. It is proper to mention that it was a gift of money, but mentioning the amount is not called for. Simply say that you and your spouse have put the money to good use in starting your new life. You can even say something specific that the money was used for, such as “Your gift of money was used to buy a new refrigerator for our new home.” As long as your money was not blown on something foolish, the giver will feel that they have helped a new couple just starting out in life.
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    • Lulu1388
      CommentAuthorLulu1388
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    Yeh of course I'll be thanking her immediately. problem is we are having our TY cards printed to match invites etc and havent put the order in to the printers yet!! Will have to see whats best.. was going to order them along with menu inserts/table plan/names/cards etc....

    Luckily im seeing her next week so can thank her personally and let her know a TY card will be making its way to her in due course!!! x

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    • *Claire*
      CommentAuthor*Claire*
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    Thanks Vickie, that is so informative




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    • natalie2614
      CommentAuthornatalie2614
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    That's really handy Vickie. We've had a cheque from his nan to help pay for catering and then in one of the RSVPs there was another cheque. So we've done thank you notes already for them and they will get a proper thank you card when we have a nice wedding photo to order them with xx

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    • Joanna
      CommentAuthorJoanna
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    Wow that early to send a wedding card!
    Could you pretend you haven't opened it yet and send a thank you note with the rest? Lol x

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    • Lulu1388
      CommentAuthorLulu1388
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    I could do but as there was a cheque in there, and shes an older lady as it were, i want her to know its all good and taken care of etc. I'm seeing her next Tues so will thank her personally but will sort out TY cards in mean time or in a few weeks!

    Yes i know its a bit early, she sent her RSVP yesterday, surprised she sent the card too... hmm! x

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    • Mel D
      CommentAuthorMel D
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    I bought some "Thank you for your wedding gift" cards, and sent them to anyone who sent gifts before the day, just so that they knew it had arrived. We did TY cards after we got back from Honeymoon when we had the photographer's pics so we could use one of them on the TY cards.

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    We're planning WELL in advance!!
 

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