Hi
I'm not sure if I'm overreacting really so want some impartial opinions if possible!
I've always wanted my Dad to make my wedding cake (he used to be a chef), when we got engaged we asked my Dad (3 times) he said no or laughed....so we decided to have something different and have doughnuts but still have a cutting cake which we were just going to buy and decorate it.
We told my parents this and they were quite obviously not happy with it. One day we were round theirs when my Dad starts talking about the cake and completely denies ever saying no to making it. I got excited as thought it was really nice and he had done a few rough sketches. My Dad left to do something and my mum basically tells me he's doing it because he hated the doughnut idea so much (something she felt the need to re-iterate to me over the phone) so that put a bit of a dampener on it but I didn't say anything.
Next thing we're having a 3 tier cake with the bottom tier fruit cake (we don't eat this but my dad said this was easier so we went with it). We were meant to have cake tastings with the sponge cakes but this has never happened (my partner goes away which they know and hes now not back much before the wedding to cake taste) so that's a bit disappointing.
When we discussed the cake I said I wanted buttercream icing as I don't really like other icing, this was agreed but now my Dad is saying it can't be done and we can only have fondant icing.
He's now also saying he'll be making the sponge cakes on the Tuesday before our wedding on the Saturday (the fruit cakes made)...does anyone else think this is too early?
My parents keep mentioning 'tradition' etc but this only seems to rear up when it's about something they want; my mums even told me my wedding isn't as important as the Grandkids etc (my brothers children) which to be honest hurt as I'm not expecting to be center of attention always but my wedding days pretty special! I would have hoped it was to my mum as well but doesn't seem to be (I'm her only daughter but she didn't come wedding shopping with me as she wanted to spend the day with my Dad as it was a Saturday and she normally works Saturdays)
I really wish I'd never said yes to Dad making the cake :( Wondering whether just to say something or accept it's gone too far?
Sorry this turned into such a long post but this is the only thing getting to me at the moment!

Making the sponges the tues before your wedding is fine Hun ..... Ours was made a week before then the last layer to be filled n covered was the one that was filled with fresh cream ..

Personally I would let what was said before disappear into the distance ....

well we were going to have a dougnut stack and then one small cutting cake but decided not to purely because my brothers girlfirend also my bm has offered to make our cake for free so the only reason were going for cake is because it will save us money lol if you want a doughnut stack have a doughnut stack dont listen to anyone else
as for it being made on the tuesday is fine my engagement cake was made a whole week before my party as she was going away on holiday n it lasted ages too that was sponge x