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    • SandraW0
      CommentAuthorSandraW0
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 4th 2014
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    Ok here goes nothing..

    My brother and H2B do not get along at all.. in fact my H2B hates my brother =( thats my first issue with my wedding my partner wont want my brother there and tbhy i don't blame him.. but he is still my brother... My other siblings can be a bit over powering too.. so me and my H2B and my parents have discussed going abroad on a "holiday" And having our wedding abroad but not telling anyone else just ky and his parents... I LOVE this idea as i also have epilepsy which can be worse under stress and suffer bad anxiety and hate being centre of attention so never wanted a BIG wedding.. bridesmaids would be our 2 girls.. Has anyone done this before?? did you get much backlash from family??

    If i can't sort something out soon i may just cancel the wedding altogether as right now feel i cant plan anything as im worried when they find out after our holiday siblings and family will stop speaking to me.. but don't feel i can explain before we go as i know they wont understand =(

    Just need a luft, my h2b and myself have been together almost 5 years engaged for 2 and i just want us to be married now but getting so disheartened and don't know what to do for the best...


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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 4th 2014
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    I have family members who went on hol and then announced when they returned that they were married and everyone was shocked, there were a few upset people like mums and dads but after the initial shock everyone realised it suited the couple and were happy for them. What was funny was 2 weeks later me and H2B were actually going to the same location but for a different relatives wedding and everyone kept winding us up saying we would get married there too (we were not engaged at this time) .

    All I would say this is yours and your H2B day so do whatever is best for you guys and what would be the most stress-free and happiest :)

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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Sep 4th 2014
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    Just have a celebration party when u get back that everyone else can go to. Not everyone can always go to a destination wedding anyway x

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    • Whovianbride
      CommentAuthorWhovianbride
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 4th 2014
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    On of OH's cousins recently alloped with just there parents and siblings, Personally we were upset at the way we found out, (Via fb from the cousins SIL) But if they had Personal messaged or called people in the family after to let everyone know , would of been alot better. Im waiting to see if we even get to see some photos.
    It was not that long ago, but we have more or less gotten over it.

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    • SandraW0
      CommentAuthorSandraW0
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 4th 2014
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    I'm thinking keep it a secret then when its done phone immediate Family (siblings uncles aunts ect) And post a wedding picture online for friends... would this be ok?

    I hope my siblings understand (i have suffered with mental health) and i cant cope with the stress my daughter also has ASD and doesn't cope well in busy situations.. surely what i want is the most important thing?? xxx


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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 4th 2014
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    I think what upsets people most is when something like this is posted on social media and they find out through others so if you call to tell them and maybe wait until everyone who needs to know is told then I would say no probs with putting pics online x

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    • AprilS61
      CommentAuthorAprilS61
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 5th 2014
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    I think it would be lovely to get marred abroad. It would be much better for your health without the extra stress and for your daughter. However I wouldn't announce it with pictures on social media as it could be taken as rubbing it in their face. Tell them either in person or call them. Maybe start with parents and work your way along to anybody close that should know, as it could go either way if everyone was in a room at once. As its a shock some people may be instantly thrilled and some shocked and a little upset, so tensions could clash x

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    • SandraW0
      CommentAuthorSandraW0
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Sep 5th 2014
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    My Plan is to take my parents with me, and call my siblings and other family members when its done... Its then up to them how they take it i don't wanna be mean but i know i wont cope with a big wedding x


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    • KayleighS46
      CommentAuthorKayleighS46
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 18th 2014
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    i think that sounds like a lovely idea! I'm guessing your parents are aware of the situation? Or would they only find out on the holiday itself? As long as your doing this for you and its what you want to do then i see no problem. Both my sister and H2b brother arent invited due to issues going on but that's their problem now not ours lol xx

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 4 years ago
      Posted: Sep 18th 2014
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    Go for it! It's your day and you should be able to have it exactly how you want it without having to worry about what everyone else would think. As already said, I think it's fine if you make a call to everyone who you would like to know about you getting married before putting anything on social media as it wouldn't be best for people to find out that way. Good luck with the planning xx

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