Does anyone think it's rude to write the above in the invitations? Because we're getting married in France I don't want people to have to shell out on travel then buy us a toaster. I have been told though that people will think this is rude - I would be chuffed if I got a wedding invite that said they just want us there (saves having to scroll through John Lewis and Debenhams websites )
Toria x
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I've wrote exactly the same thing on my wedding website under the gift list section.
It's your presence not your present's that's important to us, having you at our wedding is the best gift you can give us but if you would like to follow tradition and buy us a gift we would love and appreciate Thomas Cook holiday vouchers! Please do not feel obliged to buy us these, as we said, you are our gift
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorRachie :D
I think thats a good idea - if they really want to give you a gift they could give you cash or vouchers
9th June 2012 when two worlds collide
The Crazy Cat Lady and the Transformer Man!
CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
we've bought honeymoon money poems to go in our invites but they start off with 'the most important thing to us is to have you share our day' and we've made it clear that we don't expect a gift, we're not inviting people for the gift, but that we would love some money towards our honeymoon if people want to give us something. So no, its not rude!!! I imagine most people would think thats lovely of you but would still get you something anyway :o)
CommentAuthorGuessWho
Ahh nice to see I am not alone ladies - thankyou xx
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
good idea were doing a money poem as we definately dont need any household items so we can put it towards the honeymoon
CommentAuthorJilly17
I do not think it is rude at all especially if people are having to travel but be prepared for people to want to get you something anyway
CommentAuthorPeach
Don't think that is rude at all hun xx
CommentAuthorLiz3yy
It's not rude at all, we'll be doing the same. We would prefer people (if they want to) give us money towards a honeymoon than things for the house we already have
Can't wait until the day I become Mrs. Johnson :)
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i think its fine i have put a little card in the invites basically asking for money x
soon to be Mrs Berry 26.11.2011
CommentAuthorLiz3yy
Can't wait until the day I become Mrs. Johnson :)
CommentAuthorAli
When i had my 30th birthday party, i used exactly the same line and no one found it rude, likewise with the wedding, people have asked what we want and we've said nothing as we have everything we require and are not getting married for gifts x
Happy to be Mrs Holt, love my husband and love the memories
of our wedding day
CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
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We also put Money poems in our invites.
But ppl wrote to us asking how much we wanted.... i wrote back saying we did not want anything apart from them being there, however and kind gesture would be greatly recieved!
CommentAuthorMel D
We did the same. We didn't have any gift list, but loads of people told us that if we didn't ask for anything then we'd get a load of toasters and electric carving knives ... so we asked for Thomas Cook vouchers towards our honeymoon. To be honest, we got some presents too, but mostly people got us vouchers or gave us cash.
Got married Sat 28/05/2011
Renewing vows Sat 29/05/2021
We're planning WELL in advance!!
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Everyone has different levels of 'tolerance' should I say when it comes to weddings and gifts. For some people even mentioning the possiblity of a gift is rude, others prefer it to be done subtly through close relatives, others prefer to ask the couple, some people I know would turn down an invitation that contained a poem! So its better to be guided by what close friends and family say is usual for weddings in your circle then what is 'generally' thought to be acceptable.
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i like the idea of a poem but i only want a really short one, we want money for our honeymoon but we don't want to put that as we don't want people buying us vouchers in case we aren't with that airline or provider, so we're not really sure what to put.
I like this one which might do for you?
We havent got a gift list for all of you to see, because as you all know we never can agree! But if you'd like to help us start our married life, cash or high street vouchers, would save a lot of strife
8th September 2012 I married my best friend
1st September 2014 our little family grew by one
Women are made to be loved, not understood. - Oscar Wilde
CommentAuthorGuessWho
Ha ha I love that poem!!!
Engaged 20th May 2011 - Times Square, New York
Wedding 18th May 2013 - South of France
CommentAuthorValentinaK
I've been wondering this... I like the play on words! I think I could use that to good effect!
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthorShirleygirly
It's not rude at all, I've had lots of invitations from people saying the same. I usually get them something anyway or give them some honeymoon money. We were doing a similar thing but my mum convinced us to get a gift list because people had already started asking her what we needed. So we've made the statement but also said if they feel they would like to get us a gift we're registered at etc
I can't wait until 29/06/2013
The day I marry the man of my dreams!
CommentAuthorAmyP7
No it's not rude at all x x
CommentAuthorbex
I will be doing the same although I did worry initially too x
marrying the man of my dreams
we have 2 perfect children together
the day i become mrs clifford can't come quick enough
26/08/2013 :-)
CommentAuthorKimD7
We have not asked for gifts but if guests want to we have a family holiday fund they can give to as this would be amazing to be able to go away as a family. We have been Bought a honeymoon by friends which was more than we ever expected and they are looking after the children for the whole week are are traveling across France, Holland Germany and Austria. If we got nothing else it would not be a problem.
CommentAuthorsarah
tbh, I don't like it when people say they don't want gifts and then list an acceptable gift if you must give one. I prefer when invitations include no mention of gifts at all. I know I am very much in the minority on this one.
CommentAuthorKimD7
We have not mentioned gifts but people have asked and we have been honest and said we have all we need but we would love a family holiday. The wedding is taking our saving and some people want to give something so this for us works well. It is hard as the other way is being given a huge wedding list and having to decide what to buy. Last year we were given a list and the cheapest thing left was £75...a lot to spend on someone my OH worked with.
CommentAuthormrsV2013
We've gone with honeymoon poem too. We've lived together for 10 years so don't really need much. It's not rude to tell people not o give anything but still give them the option but ask for cash x
hicory vicary dock i will be mrs rachel vicary :)
CommentAuthorMrsMoran
no that's not rude at all hun :-) xxxx
CommentAuthorMariephiz
This is the poem we've used in our invites:
For a couple of years we’ve lived in sin, We have a toaster, a kettle and a stainless steel bin, Saucepans and towels we have many, Corkscrews and flannels we don’t need any, We just want you with us on our special day, But if you insist on a gift anyway, We hope you don’t think we’re being funny! But we’d really appreciate a gift of money, We’ll put it all together and buy something that’s best, As a reminder of our day and our wonderful guests.
CommentAuthorSianyCaitlin
We're putting this too, I can't see how it's rude? I'd love it if I received an invite with that haha xx
Got together 06/07/2009
Got engaged 16/07/2012
I marry my best friend 08/06/2014
Can't wait to be Mrs Sharp x
CommentAuthornadia13
It's not rude, I don't like the idea of asking people for gifts, although I'm more than happy 2 get gift 4 other people's wedding!! We have told people when asked, that we don't have a gift list and we not asking but if they feel the need then money or vouchers but really no need, just a card will do!! X
CommentAuthorNearlyMrsFountain
I'm impressed by that, we'll.... It would make me smile anyway :) xxx
CommentAuthorBobsi
I think I might pinch that little rhyme for my invites. I'm only having a small day and was thinking it would be pointless to put in a gift list when we'd only be putting about 15-20 items on it. Everyone at night would either bring money in the card or nothing anyway.
X
Got together June 11th 2006
Getting married June 11th 2014
8 years to the day and I'll be Mrs T.
CommentAuthorVickie
We used:
We really hope that you can join us On our special day You’ll make our memories complete In every single way We do not have a gift list And we know you’ll understand Our house and contents are complete With pots and plates and pans But should you really want to give And celebrate this way Then we would appreciate your help To send us on our way A contribution to our honeymoon In a land quite far away But most importantly, we request, You come to our wedding as our guest To share with us our special day And have some fun along the way
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