Wedding Forum - WE DID IT! RECAP with Student Photographer...

To save searching for it again...

I have changed my tactics now.....

GOT/PAID - £2046.07 (Average of £35.28 per month Apr 2009 - Jan 2014)
Engagement Rings - £119
Inserts - £10
Invites & OOS - £22
Photoframes - £2.97
Flowers - £10
Favours - £6.93
Centre pieces - £17.50
Guestbooks & Pen - £48.76
Wedding Rings - £1032.96
Veil - £28.25
BM's Dresses - £14.96
BM's Alice Bands - £5.78
Cufflinks - £1
Mens Ties - £3.78
Garter - £1.67
Tiara - £4.50
PB Ties - £3.98
Dress - £695
Shoes - £5
Wedding Certificate - £4
Drinks - £8.03

From now on I have worked out how many of each coin/note is needed for each item, I am starting the savings with the smallest coin & working to the largest (no higher than £20 notes). I have put £20.53 aside this month & will be putting the rest towards a new car as our van has broken down. Next payday (two per month two every 4 weeks) I will put aside £90, then from then on I will be putting £80 each pay day.

The following dates are when I should have all money for that particular item, there will of course be other items on the go due to getting all the smaller amounts out of the way first.

11th February 2014
Name Change - £30
My License - £35
H2B's License - £35

11th March 2014
Ceremony Room - £170

15th April 2014
Grooms Suit - £100 (estimate - hopefully cost less)
PB Suit Jackets - £20
Photographer - £50 (college student)

13th May 2014
Reception Hire - £160

29th July 2014
Caterer - £358.50
Videographer - £50 (college student)

5th August 2014
DJ - £100

23rd September 2014
Cake - £250 (unless I settle & do it myself)

13th January 2015
Honeymoon Camper Van Hire - £585

10th March 2015
Honeymoon Spending Money - £415 (to include fuel, meals, activities etc)

Sorry hun I have only just seen your message.

I have not secured one yet, however, if you call your local college, ask to speak with the videography, or filming department, ask you speak with the head of that department, let them know that you would like a student to video/photograph your wedding. Tell them you are willing for them to use your wedding video as part of their portfolio, will pay for their time & whether or not you would provie them with a meal or not, all you require is that they turn up on time, film the parts agreed between you & them, and do what they need to do to have it put on disc, you would like them to ask their students to find out who would be interested in an opportunity like this. Leave your name & contact details & request that they pass them on to any student who would be interested so that you may further discuss your requirements. give them a time limit to contact you by.

When they contact you, discuss all your requirements, ask to see some of their work (remembering that they probably have not filmed a wedding before), come to an agreement & write all of the agreement down, draw up a contract stating the names of you, your partner & the student, the timings, the specific parts you want filmed as a minimum, what you have agreed that you will provide them (how much money, if you are providing a meal etc), what they will provide (video, stills, disc, print offs etc) the wedding date & time, the venue/s, the time the finished product is due. have all three of you sign the contract.

Ok, so hopefully we will sell the van tomorrow, guy was supposed to come tonight but hes been held up so has rearranged for tomorrow. In the mean time h2b is going to help a mate fix their brakes then our mate will take h2b to go get his new Landy! Then its all go with the saving for the wedding! I also have just realised I got my dates slightly wrong, & therefore should have all the money one week before all the dates mentioned! woohoo!

Wedding Planning is so frustrating with a h2b who has had 6 years to decide on a best person & still hasnt made a decision. He has admitted his choice is between two friends, one female that hes known since school, we dont see her very often but try to see her and her wife as often as possible. Or our friend Charlie who we've known for about 3 years but we see weekly. personally i dont know who he should choose. i have suggested having one as his witness & the other give a speech, but if he does that he needs to let me know so i can buy another tie to match & make another button hole. but all he is saying is "I'll let you know yeh" but still nothing, hes had 6years already! grrrr

Ok having thought about it...

Valentines:
1. Heart shaped chocolates (did a trial run last night h2b loves them - he ate the whole lot!)
2. Wallet (thats hes been after for a while)

Anniversary:
1. Jar full of bubblegum sour bottles
2. Boudior lyric photo of the song i am recording to walk down the aisle to - as a symbol of it being 1 year tll we get married.

Wedding day:
all gifts as explained in previous posts plus
lyric photo of us & our first dance song printed on canvas as per the photo in this post

Eeeek exciting!!! When are you going?

Well it looks like the choice is going to be easier for h2b now, my BM Lovely Leesa, asked him if he had chosen a best man yet, this was in front of one of his options (Charlie), we all got to talking & Charlie asked who the options were so we told him outright... You or Steph, well Charlie was loving the fact he was in the line up for it & then mentioned "I can't do a speech, I will slip up somewhere along the line, I will swear, mention god or some stupid stuff neither of your families would need to hear about, so i can't do a speech"

knowing the sorts of things that he would mention we all ended up laughing, & much as h2b still has not come to a decision yet, it looks like Steph will be the "Best Person" & Charlie, the witness. This will make Steph happy.... as she has already (a few years ago) made her arguement as to why she should be Best Person lol

Now just to get h2b to agree to this....

WOW after an entire day of trying to find contact details for someone my h2b knows via car forum.... I found him a police spec car! The car will turn up, I will tell someone to look out for the car & start filming, they will then tell my h2b that the police hve arrived and are asking for him. They will film his reaction. He will be really annoyed (he hates police), then he will see who it is & be much happier, will be a lovely surprise! The guy in question is also really excited & is going to try to get permission to drive to the wedding without having to cover up his lights etc. He has agreed to keep it a secret from my h2b. I really cant wait & hes only charging me the fuel cost!

ooo exciting!!!!!

yeh 2 forms of id, and proof of address

I like option 2 best

Out of them 2 is best

i think so yes hun, this is part of the email i received....

Documents
When giving notice of marriage, each party will need to produce the following documents at the time of giving notice. Documents must be originals; photocopies are not acceptable. Any documents in a foreign language must be accompanied by a translation into English carried out by a third party. You will need to provide the name and address of the person who has carried out the translation. Please note that your notice/s cannot be taken if you do not bring the required documents with you to your notice appointment.

Current Passport or (in the case of UK citizens only) full UK birth certificate
British citizens born after 1 January 1983 who do not possess a current passport must provide their parents' full birth certificates as well as their own
Proof of your current address in the UK (eg UK driving licence, Council Tax bill, utility bill or bank/building society statement).
For persons previously married or in a civil partnership, either the decree absolute bearing the court seal or the dissolution of civil partnership document. If the divorce/dissolution took place in a foreign country the original document(s) should be produced, together with a certified translation if necessary.
For widowed persons and surviving civil partners, the marriage/civil partnership certificate and death certificate of the former spouse/civil partner.
Non-EEA persons under military orders must produce their original military orders.
Persons aged between 16 and 17 years of age must submit written consent from the appropriate parent(s)/guardian(s)/authority. Registration Officers have forms for this purpose.

Here's how it looks so far....

Stationery - £32, Guestbooks & Pen holder - £48.76


Flowers - £10 (my bouquet will be completely black & red with single blue rose), Centre pieces - £17.50, brooches for mothers £8


Bridesmaids Outfits - Dresses - £14.95, Alice bands - £5.78


My Outfit - Dress £695, Shoes £5, Garter £1.67, Tiara £4.50, Veil £28.25


Rings - £1032.96


Mens Outfits
Cufflinks - £1, Suit - £29 (not bought yet), PB Suits - £47.96, Ties £3.78

Just had a lovely phone call with my grandparents.... they asked how the wedding plans are going & if we are going to tell them a date yet, I told them I have found a 3 tier cake usually costing £250 plus, but have been quoted £100 fr it to all be done using ingredients that my son can have.... the next thing I know my nanny (whos not feeling well & will randomly say "hang on a minute, then come back a few minutes later") told me to "hang on a minute", few minutes later she came back & said "just spoken to grandad, we'll pay for it" so they are paying for my cake plus a little extra pounds.

Aww that's nice! I LOVE your shoes BTW, not sure id be able to walk in them tho lol xx

There is no way i could get married if my amazing family and friends hadn't offered to help with things! They're doing them as wedding gifts, so to say thank you to each of them, we will get them a small gift each! It's the least we can do!

FUMING!!!!

I found some reviews last night about my venue, there are 3 reviews by 3 different people, within minutes of each other, all about the same event. So this morning I called my venue to see what they had to say having told them i had seen some negative reviews. turns out the venue is no longer taking bookings, well i was already booked i just havent paid anything, all bookings have been cancelled.

So now I am going to have to find a different venue! It was such a good price at £160 for the entire building for the entire day, which gave me a chance to set up in the morning.

Sorry to hear about your bad weekend hun, but Congrats on winning the cake :) I am pleased you have had something to make you smile!

thank you ladies, now i just need to speak with them (which i will try doing tomorrow), regarding my sons food allergy & hope they are happy to swap the ingredients for me. If they can, I will need to contact the company who have sent me contracts for the cake I was planning on getting to explain the win :-/ I have to admit I'm not looking forward to telling her as we got quite friendly over the last few weeks. But never mind...

Rather than paying for the cake my grandparents are now paying for my alterations on my dress instead.

Congrats on winning the cake! I'm sure the other supplier will understand, like Donna says you're not gonna turn a free cake down are you?! Xx

Well done on winning the cake, always nice to hear that one of us girls have won something x

I've been on here for about 4ish years, never won anything in my life, never thought I would win anything either.... but low and behold.... (picture stupidly exciteable voice) I WON A CAKE!!!! lol

Sorry about the car, that sucks but congrats on winning the cake!!! It's so nice when a regular wins rather than a nobody we've never heard of... We can all get excited properly!! :D xx

Congratulations on the cake Katya, but such a shame about the car. Surely vandalism is against the law? I think you've got the same dress as me, except mine is in champagne. Is it Alfred Angelo?