Im so very annoyed at some of my H2B family....It started like this,
Last weekend we went to sheffield for an 80th birthday party (now baring in mind everyone suffering bad with hayfever). My H2B looked terrible at the party and his family just jump to conclusions that it was me making him miserable day in and day out, yet he was suffering. His family then started to question him about weather he was happy, Ok that annoyed me as that kept pulling him a side or asking him while i wasnt there. Then thursday i found out that his brother sent him a text telling him i was with him for all the wrong reasons and that all i wanted to do was have kids and him to work forever, Then i had ago at his brother telling him to keep his nose out of our business and how dare he slag me off to my H2B. Then out of the blue i get a message of his brothers girlfriend telling me how dare i have a go at her other half and that they and my H2B family will never be there to help me again (Yet they never helped us in the first place). And before you know it im getting slagged off on facebook by my H2B step-brother saying the world doesn't evolve round me and i needed to grow up. I said to my H2B it was pointless trying to save my back and get my story across (as there are 2 side to every story) and before you they have already told everyone that im the bad one by telling him to keep his grubby nose out of our business in the first place. And now none of them want to know me.. I didnt start all this but now im public enemy number 1 with his family..
Sorry for the long post xx
CommentAuthorSusie
Public enemy number one but only with those who's opinions no longer matter. If they cannot see that your H2B is ill and have the audacity to not only shabbily privately and very publicly slate you, they are not worth your stress.
Look after your hunny, buy shares in Kleenex and antihistamines, and enjoy your life together. After all, the only opinion that matters is H2B, and perhaps he should have a "loving family" word with each and every one of them!
HUGGLES
CommentAuthorBev
Oh my word! What happened there?!
As long as you and other half are happy that's all that matters xxx
CommentAuthorGemmaP11
Thats so awful of them! Has h2b spoken to them? X
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
If they are like that then try not to stress; you can't choose yours inlaws unfortunately (I'm lucky); they will just have to accept that you are with him- end of story and that you love him and he loves you. If they can't handle that then they aren't worth wasting time or stress on.
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Got together on12th May 2011, proposed on the 12th May 2013
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He was thinking about speaking to them...But i told him don't bother as they have already done the damage...His brother gets married next year and was thinking of asking my H2B to be his best man...Don't get me wrong i shouldn't say this but after all this, i don't want him to be his best man now if they cant respect either one of us...I told my H2B that i'm not going to the wedding. x
CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
That's fair enough but I guess it is your h2b's decision whether he takes the job of best man or not. I can see your point though :S
Met in 2009
Got together on12th May 2011, proposed on the 12th May 2013
When you get knocked down; smile and pick yourself up again!
Fight for what you believe in!
CommentAuthordisneylove
As long as u and ur h2b r happy that all that matters, I also suffer bad from hayfever which makes me wanna scratch my eyes out at times cuz itchy and sore and in end looks like I been cryin as eyes then go all runny and nose all stuffy it a nightmare :( xxx
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
awww , its horrible when something like this happen's , obviously they made are being idiots, hope your ok hun x
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CommentAuthorHappyBunny
I dont know why in laws think that they can be rude and hurt your feelings like it doesn't matter! I wouldn't want my h2b to be a best man to someone who didn't support us but only your h2b can make that decision. As long as your both happy try to forget them xx
CommentAuthorbendy_jendy
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Well my h2b doesn't think he will get asked now...but he owned up and said he doesn't really care lol... Definitely had my fair share off heartache from both sides now....only about 5 people from my family I talk to...others don't want to know me yet they live 5 mins away... My h2b family wasn't keen on us moving either..kept questioning him weather it was the right decision for him..I had to move to get away from my parents and siblings and my h2b wanted to come with me..xx
CommentAuthorHappyBunny
Awww dear hun doesn't sound a lot of fun. I know moving can put a strain on a relationship but if you two are happy then it is none of their business and they have no right to treat you like that xx
CommentAuthorBecky1608
They sound awful! Have you always had problems with them? Xxx
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CommentAuthorbrilly
All that matters is that you and your h2b are happy hun stuff the rest of them if they have nothing better to do then meddle then to be honest you dont need them and if they have nothing better to do then call you then they seriously have too much time on their hands. You just concentrate on you and your h2b hun xxx
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CommentAuthorbendy_jendy
We been together 8 years and still they anit happy...his brother never liked the idea of us being together anyway! 8 years and he still can't get over it....we are very happy with our relationship, even planning getting married abroad now so it's just us..x
CommentAuthorAna40
I wouldnt let it get to you, if you two are happy then thats it. If they have issues with it then leave them to it, your never going to satisfy some people or change their opinions. X
CommentAuthorValentinaK
What an awful situation to be in. Unfortunately, facebook is the devil... people write things on there that can be misinterpreted and or wrong assumptions made and then it's all too easy to say something nasty to someone on there as its not face to face. I deleted it, partly for that reason. It seemed like every bit of good news I had to share on there was criticised or shot down by at least one person or brought down by soem sarcastic comment. Best thing I've ever done.
Personally, although they're making your life hell, both you and your H2B know you're together and getting married for the right reasons and family are just the facts of life you have to deal with. I know its tough, but be the bigger person and don't rise to their crappy, bad mannered and idiotic behaviour and comments.
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
hunni just ignore it all ..... dont respond to any txt or calls .....
i`l quickly tell you my story and hopefully you will see you are not alone
my mil .....
questioned me about why i split with my ex ,saying she had a right to know had a got at me when we wouldn't have Mr lalas nieces as bridesmaids ( were having my daughters only ) told Mr lala that i was getting everything my own way said Mr lala was paying for everything ( in fact i paid more than him .. but np to us ) told Mr lala i was only marrying him for his money ( been on joint account for 7 years , never touched it ) told me that my children would be better off if i was dead. called me names to mr lalas face
then i was blamed by one of his sisters for upsetting her .
upshot .... he didnt have any contact for over 18mths.... and says he will only have contact now when he needs to i wont speak to her until i get an apology ( that wont happen anytime soon )
You had it rough lala! I can't belive we have human beings on this Earth that think like that and throw those sort of accusations around willy nilly!
And we lived happily ever after!
CommentAuthorHappyBunny
Sometimes I think people only see what they want hun so sometimes nothing you do will ever be enough to please someone xx
CommentAuthorKatya
I'm going to sound like Jeremy Kyle now.... Bloomin Facebook! Who really cares?!
I don't mean to sound harsh, but... theres a delete & block option for a reason.
I completely see why you are annoyed, this is my in-laws... - hated me from start - think im a sl*t cos i got pregnant 3 months into the relationship (yet it was me who made him wait for it! & used 2 forms of protection) - state im only with him for his money (i refused to accept money from him when we lived seperately cos it was MY flat, MY bills even tho i was in hospital for a month & he was staying there, i got into debt & still refused his money) - accused me of not taking my pill cos they "found a tablet" in the spare room after we stayed (h2b watches me take it everynight when in bathroom brushing teeth - h2b got annoyed & threw a glass bottle against garden wall after a phone call of them bitching & slateing me for over 30mins) - mil assaulted me after calling me a liar (all i did was state "im not a liar, now keep me out of your arguements - it was all over a car seat she bought that was faulty that needed returning - we found out a week later that i was pregnant again)
Results we didnt tell them i was pregnant with youngest, didnt see them, ignored all correspondance, turned up when i was 8 months pregnant due to h2bs grandads ill health (we wanted to see he was ok)
Conclusion: It doesnt matter what anyone thinks or says. If they hate you... tough.... only your h2b knows why he's with you & he is who counts! Delete them from bloomin fb! FB is nothing but a big pool, it has spoons called status' and the people are stirers! People are too chicken to say what they want face to face knowing they will get laid out for it! Be the bigger person & ignore the stirers!
Find out who you are & do it on purpose!
CommentAuthorCoconut
Good post Hun. Just ignore them and move on :) xx
CommentAuthorHappyBunny
Brill post hun xx
CommentAuthorKatya
who has a bril post? im confused?
Find out who you are & do it on purpose!
CommentAuthorHappyBunny
You katya xx
CommentAuthorKatya
sorry.... blonde streak.... I'm very similar to Mr Kyle regarding FB..... there was an incident at my home last year where a girl slit her arms elsewhere, came to mine & i bandaged her arms, then she started kicking off at my mate who was here at the time, one minute she was fine, the next she just snapped and started making threats, she had previously claimed she had a "split personality" (i grew up with a step-dad who was tri-personality - theres no way this girl was split!) Anyway she got booted out my home. 4wks previous my stereo packed up - it stopped playing cd's whilst she was here - it does it every now and again so we leave it a few wks then it starts working. So the following day Im spring cleaning... decide to try out my stereo... it worked... the first song was "pink split personality" i "shared" it on FB... Suddenly im taking the mick out of her?! well no... i bloomin love the song and shared that amongst others..... she started kicking off on fb... I deleted her.... i then got private msgs... i blocked her.... i then got texts.... i ignored her.... i then got phone calls... i called her "a cheap skank" hung up and changed my number.... now she crosses the road and walks in the oposite direction when she sees me...
have i lost out? Nope do i care? nope
i just cant stand that FB has become such a huge part of peoples lives... i really am like a version of Mr Kyle only without the testicular cancer :-/ (glad hes ok now)
Find out who you are & do it on purpose!
CommentAuthorEmmaI93
Sorry to here all this has happened to you!!
However I'm going to be perfectly honest and that I must point out (in my own opinion) You have made it worse by going round yourself and telling them to butt out and keep their nose out of your business and you yourself dealing with all this negative gossip. Keep in mind this is HIS family and the text was sent to him so in their head you could be nosey and manipulative which probably isn't the case. Your OH knows exactly how to deal with his family and so follow his lead. If he takes the whatever approach then do the same because he clearly knows that's what he is and I'm hoping that he can stand up for himself and ensure everyone that he is happy with you.
Hay fever is hay fever and fb is fb can't do much about it but just remember your a team. You have to use each others strengths instead of storming away and blasting through doors and having a go at his side of the family. Has you OH said anything? If not think about why not?!
Hope this helps...Take a step back and look at it from a different perspective.
CommentAuthorbendy_jendy
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Facebook is just a website i keep in contact with family is all, as i have family up and down the country. If i remove them them to them they have won and i would hate to see that.
I'm sorry but I told his brother to keep his nose out for good reasons, 8 years we have been together and 8 years we have had to put up with his rubbish against our relationship and i got fed up of him doing so...We have no secrets and they know this and i said he shown me the text..I didn't rise to his step-brother remark on facebook cause i'm better then that. But it did wind me up even after 8 years they are still against us..
I told him not to say anything and just to leave it as they have already done the damage of making me look bad. I know i shouldn't care but if we are suppose to be getting married, i have to care as he would like his family there for his big day. I cant just stand back and let people mock our relationship after everything we have been through.
CommentAuthorKatya
listen to shania twain - looks like we made it - this song is perfect for me & my h2b & we will be having it at our wedding whilst we are signing the register. rise above them, yes its been 8 years but if you ignore it, it shows you have moved on, evolved better than them! stop worrying about what other people think, its not about them. you will lose nothing, they will lose your h2b!
