I have this dream wedding location for the ceremony of my wedding which I have set a date for 1st May 2015. The venue is an outdoor botanical garden in my home town and it is spectacular. There is an avenue of giant redwood trees which make the most perfect aisle.
Anyway, I have had numerous correspondence with a lady who works at this venue and she told me I would be able to have the wedding ceremony outside on this 'Avenue of trees' and she also advised that I could hold the wedding in an old Courtyard building should the weather take a turn for the worst.
I went to visit this courtyard building and it is perfect. Kind of looks like an old renovated Church.
I asked the lady if she could please confirm that I could hold my wedding on 1.5.15 at the avenue of trees and use the courtyard building as back-up. She took an age to get back to me but when she finally did she told me that I could provisionally book the avenue of trees but would need to secure a priest/minister or registrar and also an alternative venue, should the weather turn. Once these have been secured she will then confirm the booking of the avenue of trees.
In addition, she told me that she would only be bale to let me know if the courtyard was available by February 2015....3 months before the wedding.
I am absolutely raging and so upset. This is the first thing I am trying to organise, before I do anything else and I feel she is making it impossible. I also don't see what the priest/minister has to do with her and feel booking an alternative venue would be a complete waste of money!
What do you advise I do girls?
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
tell her you want to book the avenue. But you need to have the barn as back up...why would she suggest it if it wasn't an option. They should not be able to give you the option and then take it away. If need be you may have to book both venues xx
CommentAuthorMrsThomson2B
also if it ends up raining and blowing a gale and she wont let you book the barn, will she refund if you cant get married there???? xx
CommentAuthorStephanieM71
Why can she only let you know in feb 2015 - that seems weird. Surely if you book it it will be available for you? And why would you need an alternative venue, if there is a courtyard building you could use if the weather is bad?
It does seem odd that she is not taking your booking until you have booked the registrar. I mean you need a venue to book the registrar I doubt if they would take a booking from you if you said it might be at the botanical gardens but I haven't booked it yet.
Have you been to see her at the venue itself? Maybe you could go and have a chat with her face to face, it could be a miscommunication issue?
I personally wouldn't book the venue if I wouldn't know until 3 months before if I could actually get married there. I can't even imagine the stress that would be
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Firstly I'm not sure why she said you could have it in the avenue of trees as the law states that a marriage ceremony has to be conducted in a permanent structure
Secondly to not confirm the other option till 3 maths before your wedding is ridiculous ... What happens if the answer is no you can't have it
I meant to mention that the reason she cannot guarantee the courtyard is due to the gardens using this courtyard as a gallery to showcase art work. She is not sure if there will be an exhibition on at that time or not.
I know, I can't take a chance and find out 3 months before the wedding. I would be under so much stress at that point anyway.
I thought people were allowed to get married outside?
Sinead x
CommentAuthorvicki
It depends on where you live. As far as I am aware if you live in England then no you can't get married outside unless it's under a permenant structure but if you're in Scotland then the rules are different and yes you can get married outside. Hope that helps
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
Sinead we cant nosey at where you are as your profile is restricted
In English law you have to get married in a permanent structure (not sure if that's the way it's referred to in the law) but basically you and your groom and the registrar have to be inside a building. BUT venues seem to be starting to get some clever ideas of getting round this and are building things like gazebos or tree houses which makes it legal.
