Do I go for the venue I have fallen in love with and have my wedding on a date I am not keen on (October 18th 2014 - cold, yuck, longer to wait!) OR Stick to my guns on the date I want and find another venue (for April 12th 2014, spring time and sooner! tehe)
What would you do?? HELP!!
CommentAuthorTori
I picked my date round my venue but it really is personal choice x
CommentAuthorSamanthaG76
Yaaay my date is April 12th 2014!! We chose based on the venue but our original date was in February so it wasn't a huuuuge difference (like between April and October!) I'd write a pro's and con's list but remember with the weather that we are having lately, an October wedding could be nicer than an April one (hope not though! Lol) x
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CommentAuthorCrawf
haha yeah I hope not for you hun! BUT hope so for me :P I am just having a bridezilla moment as I held off on booking as OH hadnt seen it and another bride got in the day before I called to provisionally book :( win some, you lose some!
I love the venue and the views and i got "that" feeling when I was in there... and I suppose, I went to see it on the 19th October this year and the weather was OK.. but move forward a week and its horrible and foggy which would spoil the views!!
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
Lately October weather has been lovely (apart from the last week or so!) and April showers are also called that for a reason! lol You have to decide what is more important to you. Your wedding date will be special no matter what day it is as it will always be the day you got married. Similarly, you only get one wedding day (hopefully) and one wedding venue, so that is always going to be the place you get married. So could you justify to yourself getting married somewhere else that you don't love but having your original day, or would you rather know you got married in a place you love, but on a different date (which as said earlier will always be special anyway). Hope you can work it out hun, keep us updated on what you decide :) xxx
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Haha don't worry, we live ages away from each other so the weather will be different anyway :-) Ahhh that's SO frustrating!! I believe that things happen for a reason though and so would wonder if it was my perfect venue after all! You've got to go with your gut though and if it means changing the date then that's what you may have to do! x
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Weather can be pretty terrible in april too though - the joys of Britain! I'd think you are as likely to get crappy or good weather in either month.
Personally, I'd go for the venue over the date, if you can stand the waiting!! Plus more time to save of this is an issue...
Could you maybe book for October and ask for first refusal on any cancellations up to, say, June 2013 which gives you enough time to sort everything out if an April date does become available? Xx
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CommentAuthorCrawf
ooo LauraJo87 - do places let you do that??? That could be a good idea! I have to say, in the nicest way possible, I have been *silently* hoping the other bride changes her mind and moves the date! Not for any bad reason, just out of KINDESS to me lol xx
CommentAuthorSamanthaG76
Hahahaha that's so funny! Got my fingers crossed for you :-) x
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
I know some do, as a friend did that, think it would depend on the venue.
It's a sad fact, but something like twenty to thirty percent of all wedding bookings get cancelled, which is why most places demand such hefty deposits. A lot of people get understanderbly excited and book their dream venue as soon as they have a deposit saved without working out what their overall budget is, and then when it comes to looking at how much they can actually save, realise they can't actually afford it.
Also, some places out a lot of pressure on brides to book there and then, before they have time to think about it...then in the cold light of day, it doesn't seem like such a great idea...
Xx
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CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
We wanted early sept - but venue was mor important - at the end of the day, would u prefer the right date with a horrid venue?
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CommentAuthorCrawf
very true MrsWright290912 - I think I would prefer to have the venue I have my heart set on and have time to save up properly for it and make it more special. I am warming to the idea of October (I hope the weather is too!!) Although, my birthday is November and then Christmas and then 11 whole months before more presents!! hahahahaha
I am going to continue to be horrible in my head and hope to god that this bride cancels for April (nasty Katie!!)
xxx
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Plus autumn weddings are stunning! and as its outside of peak times you are more likely to get the suppliers you want that are free on that day xx
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CommentAuthormym72
I suppose it depends if the dates have special meaning to you, or you've picked these for a specific reason.
I work in a school so we needed to have a summer wedding. We chose 6th August as it worked out good for us - we picked our venue and luckily got our first choice. However, if we hadn't have, we'd have just looked for somewhere else, as we knew there would always be venues just as good in the same area (Gretna).
Personally I think date is more important as there are plenty of places to get married/have a reception, but your wedding date is the thing that stays with you all your marriage.
CommentAuthorCrawf
So girls... Back to this again haha
I have managed to get the 9th August 2014 which was actually my ideal date before all of this drama(!) thanks to a lovely cancellation (wedding coordinator assured me that they have booked another date and it is all under GOOD circumstances!)
Now, I am concerned that if I book this - which is 3 weeks after my cousin's wedding that I will sort of be doing to her what she has done to me? I don't want to be a hypocrite... It is 3 weeks after, so its not like I am jumping in the week after, but is it a faux pas in the same family?? Thoughts?? I'd really appreciate it!!
CommentAuthorJoanna
This is just my opinion but I wouldn't book my wedding for 3 weeks after a family members wedding. It's a short amount of time between them. Also, two weddings in a short space of time might be difficult for family as guests. Two outfits, gifts, possible time off work etc? Xxx
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CommentAuthorCrawf
grr Joanna, you are so right... :( I suppose I didn't really think of my grandparents and aunt and uncle who will have to go to two weddings in a month. hmmmm
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I agree with Joanna. You may end up with half of the people coming that you want to come as they simply cant afford to go to two weddings within 3 weeks of each other. Plus, your cousin may be on honeymoon by then so that will be another 2 people off the guest list. And unfortunately, as yours would be after hers yours would probably be the one that family members declined the invite to. I think you need to turn the situation around and think how would you feel if she had booked her wedding 3 weeks after yours, after already knowing that you have everything booked for your date? xxx
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CommentAuthorJoanna
Aww sorry I didn't want to upset you. Something will come up :)
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is just to love and be loved in return
CommentAuthorAmyP7
The date for me wasn't important, we choose the venue and then choose march as its cheaper then. That's just me, some people like to have it on a special date. X x
CommentAuthorCrawf
Joanna you havent upset me! I am just frustrated and annoyed that because she had the rudeness to jump in and book a date that I am still forced to keep moving my wedding about. I'm just so lost. One second I am on a high and then I am on a low again.
Thanks linzi-jo for the advice too :) I suppose I would be upset if she had jumped in and booked 3 weeks later, (bearing in mind she already booked hers for when i wanted it!! lol)
xxx
CommentAuthorJoanna
Have your dream venue not got any other available dates? Xxx
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
I only wanted one venue so picked my date around that.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorCrawf
Joanna they have the 18th October but, and i know this is silly, but I don't want a winter wedding...
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
The weather 4 the past few years in July have been WORSE
Marrying "the 1" on 4th Oct 2013
CommentAuthorNicholaP44
SORRY DUNNO WOT HAPPENED THERE, july is worse than september or even october,,, lovely British weather eh?? lol
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CommentAuthorLulu1388
You can't win with British weather!! ours is on a bank hol but in May!! and this year because it wasnt officially bank hol it was beautiful so *touch wood* we will have nice weather for ours next year! Saying that this years 'summer' has been god awful!
In my opinion i'd go for the October one, its mid october which isnt quite winter but just turning into Autumn and October can be quite a nice time of year! its also that far off from your cousin's so noone will be too worried about them being close together. but again as others have suggested maybe speak to your venue and ask to be first refusal on any dates that may get cancelled etc. If you had the feeling about the venue, and if the date has no specific meaning then I'd say venue over date! as you can choose plenty of dates, but you dont necessarily get the feeling with more than one venue??
xx
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CommentAuthorDawnK21
I had friends that got married in October. Everyone thought it would rain so we came prepared with umbrellas, but aside from 30 seconds of 'spitting' it stayed off. They had a gorgeous day and the photos were stunning.
