H2b and I are planning to go to Vegas for our bachelor/bachelorette parties, and because we are going at the same time, I thought we were going to plan what we were going to do in a sort of together way (obviously we'll do some different things, but the idea was to inter-twine the events so some were gender orientated and others were less so. But now it seems that the Best Man is taking over the guys planning - without even considering that the women are coming too...
I don't know what to do and if I should be feeling as rubbish as I do about it all - Am I overthinking it? What do you ladies think? Should I just let him do his thing?
At the risk of sounding like a brat - It was *my* idea to go to Vegas in the first place... feels like I've been pushed out :( Hmmpf
Sorry for the rant, I'm just a bit confused and upset.
xx
CommentAuthorLittle Kettle
Hmmm, tricky one. I guess the traditional idea is that you have them separately, so i can see where the BM is coming from tbh. Did you and H2B talk about this before his BM started arranging stuff for the guys to do? How long are you out there for. Is there any way that you could do a couple of days separately and then a couple of days of together stuff? I guess it depends on how good a relationship you have with the BM as to whether you could raise your concerns with him, but I'd suggest you just be honest with him about your feelings/expectations Hx
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CommentAuthorBarbieBride
Thanks hun! That was the plan... to travel together and then do our own things. It all started when I said I always planned to have my bachelorette party in Vegas from when I was a 'little' girl, and when we got engaged h2b said he thought it would be fun to do it together at the same time but do our own things, meeting up for meals and stuff. We thought it would be more fun to travel together and stay in the same hotel but different rooms and then do our own stuff.
I guess my main worry is that the best man is taking over fully and will go ahead booking the travel tickets for the blokes and not considering the women folk and we are going to be left... It seems its about him splashing the cash when h2b and I wanted to do it our way. I think I will have a chat with h2b soon and see what he thinks about it all..
I'm not trying to be controlling, it just seems that its not how we always talked about it. :(
