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Weddings abroad: URGH someone please help :)

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- CommentAuthorxbeckix88
Ok so im posting on here as ive been getting unhelpful comments where ive posted it on a forum before.

Really does annoy me when you ask for advice and have people forcing their opions apon you how its "tacky" "a cheek" and how rude i am to ask our immediate family to come abroad for our wedding. URG

So please can some one help me out -

Me & my fiance are looking at going abroad with a few close family memebers & our bridesmaids & best man for our wedding, then when we get back to the uk having a party for all our other family memebers that couldnt come, afford, or couldnt travel etc so they can still join in with the celebrations.

The ones weve looked at dont look that pricey compared to having it in the uk, but i could be wrong, as we havent completely looked into it properly!

Has anyone on here been married abroad? Was it pricey? all go to plan? If anyone can help me out at all id be soo grateful

The idea of getting married on a beach somewhere hot sounds so picturesque
- CommentAuthorkrazykitty
i have looked into this too but we decided against it as my parents wouldnt be able to afford it and others wouldnt be able to come either but it can work out cheaper dependiong where you go and what you want. teh cost of wedding is a suppliment to the cost of holiday too (you probably know this anywys but ...) we wanted to go cuba cos we want our honeymoon there or crete but it was gona be an extra 1000 nearly on top of the holiday and there were mininmum residency requirements too not to mention all the legaldocs you need!! i would have a chat with the people you want there with you and see if they can afford to come too and ring upp a travel company and have a chat about it all with their weddings team xx

hope that helps xx

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- CommentAuthorMel D
  
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We looked into doing this, but h2b decided that he wanted a big party, so this was decided against. To be honest, if I had my way it would be just us somewhere sunny, and a big party for everyone when we got back.

We have some friends who are doing this next year in Jamaica. They've said it is loads cheaper. Go into a travel agent's and speak to them about it, they'll have loads of experience and be able to answer all you questions.

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- CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I haven't been married abroad BUT I have been to a wedding abroad. My h2b's brother got married in Portugal last september, can honestly say it was the most amazing beautiful wedding I've ever been too, the location was out of this world and the ceremony was just perfect thanks to the staff! It cost them half the amount it would cost over here and it was amazing.
We all went over to Portugal for a week, 10 of us hired a villa and all split the cost, it ended up being 100 quid each for the week and flights were about 100 quid maybe a bit cheaper!
We then split food etc and it just worked out so cheap.
It was a holiday and wedding in one and I don't think anything can beat that
xxx

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- CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Oh and when we were back, they had a big party for guests who couldn't come out to portugal but it wasnt many, 50 people flew over for the wedding!

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- CommentAuthorxbeckix88
Thankyou for all the replies :D
Mrs-walker-2be thats excatly what i was just thinking! Instead of them forking out alot for some package holiday all chipping in and hiring a villa for the week, that way cuts costs alot! Plus we were looking to have it out of holiday season (eg sept or oct) so prices wil be a little cheaper then in mid summer!
I guess a good place would be to get quotes and speak to immediate family and see how they feel :) x x
- CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I don't think it is tacky at all and it does save you a lot of money getting married abroad. There are pros and cons to doing it either way so do your home work and then work out what is best for you. Its not like you are springing this on people at last minute so people have time to save up. It also means that the people who are there with you are there because they want to see you get married and not there just for a free meal. Don't let other people put you off from what you want to do as you can't please everyone so the best thing to do is to do the right thing for you and the h2b.
- CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Yes, speak to people who you really want there, the ones you couldn't imagine getting married without.. as if they can't do it, it may change your mind but looking at sept oct is a great start, prices will be much cheaper, get everyone to hire somewhere together. The villa we had was amazing, looked like a footballers pad Ive never seen anything like it, had 8 bedrooms, a pool, shauna, everything! And it was just over a grand for the week but we managed to knock it down as we said we won't need a cleaner lol we ended up just cleaning up after ourselves. It was just brilliant, we had days out, went to a water park the day before the wedding lol!! It was great xx

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- CommentAuthorbarbie86
Guess this is directed at me lol. I don't think marrying abroad is in itself tacky, but I think asking people to PAY to come to YOUR wedding, is, sorry... Put it this way, would you ask guests to pay to come back home? I doubt it. That's just my personal opinion, I just really think it's off to ask people to book time off work and pay to come to your wedding
- CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
but you would ask people to pay to travel to your wedding and to pay for hotels etc and its not as if they fly abroad for the wedding then turn round and go home ....most people would make this thier annual holiday ......at the end of the day people can alway say no

we are getting married abroad with only 4 other people

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- CommentAuthorxbeckix88
Mrs-walker-to be - ooo sounds lovely! Ive just found a villa that was huge, had swimming pool, games room,masssssive bath tubs haha was really spacious looked really posh for 1k which isnt bad seen as it was a 8 bedroom villa :), plus was near beach & town & tourist attractions so guests could get out and enjoy theirselves!

Lalabunni - Excatly! We have family all over the place so even if we did have it in this country they would still have to pay for travel to get down here then hotel, meals etc it would roughly work out the same as going out of season abroad and getting cheap flights and a cheap villa :) but with the added bonus of hot weather
- CommentAuthorbarbie86
That's another one of my issues: you'e kind of making people make your wedding, at the destination you've chosen, their annual holiday, I think that's a bit of a cheek...

Hiring a villa and paying for it is a compromise IMO as then people only have to pay for flights, but, you'd need to then find someone and somewhere to hold the ceremony, and would need to organise catering or a restaurant for the evening.

As far as travel goes, not many people are having to travel for ours; those who are staying overnight will be mainly the bridal party, because we want to continue the party (we have exclusive use of a hotel at our first choice); and sorry, but you can't compare travel costs and staying 1 night in a Travel Lodge to forking out for a flight, hotel, and spending money while away; you're looking realsitically at £500 for 5 nights somewhere like Cyrprus.
- CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
no -one is making anyone go to a wedding .......they all have the choice of saying No .

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- CommentAuthorCroc
ive been to a wedding abroad and didnt bother me to pay for my flights etc and hotels....

ive been to many wedding in this country ... all where i have had to travel to and pay hotels for 2-3 nights and petrol for the car ....

so to me not much difference... you have to pay to go to near enough any wedding ... unless everyoe lives in the same town!!

the guests to my wedding are 80% from kent and there coming to liverpool... so 2- 3 nights accomodation is about £150 per night plus food except for the wedding day....book time off work... petrol money say £100-£200 or train fair £150 ish (was the last time i went to ket about 2 weeks ago) so everyone coming to my wedding will be forking out £500 plus befor a new outfit and have to take tim off work ... oh and it will prob rain...

however if we got married abroad at least it would prob be sunny !!!

the only reason why we havent gone abroad is h2b nan cant fly she has spine cancer and will be in a wheel chair etc and he desberatly wants her there they are very close... so my french chateux was cancelled and we are doing it in the uk for double the cost! not that that bothers me

so sod em ... go for what you and h2b want and if people dont want to come thats their choice... life is about choices after all!!

"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
- CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Barbie, do you not think that you could express your opinion in a not so "rude" way. Calling her idea for her wedding tacky and cheeky is a little harsh

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- CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I don't think it is cheeky at all Becki, they have the option of saying yes or no, as they would in this country.

I had the time of my life at my brother in law's wedding in Portugal, it was fantastic and cost us pretty much what we would of had to pay if they had to in this country.

You can do it cheap and NOT TACKY..

Good luck hun xxx

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- CommentAuthorCroc
tbh abroad weddings are less tacky than weddings in this country and ive seen a good few tacky weddings... but never commented and kept it to my self because that is what the bride and groom wanted...who is it for me to say that something is tacky just because its not my taste... i just drank more till i couldnt see but i still had a good time!! what is ones persons tacky is another persons dream..... and life would be very boring if we all had the same on our wedding days

"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
- CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
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- CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Well said croc! xx

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- CommentAuthorbarbie86
Again, I don't think marrying abroad is tacky in itself: beach weddings can be beautiful, as can ones in the grounds of villas, and as others have said, weather is pretty much guaranteed. I've seen weddings in Cuba and Mexico and they are VERY nicely done, beautiful gazebo, lovely grounds for photos, beautiful tropical flowers, etc etc; very nice and I do like that aspect. What is tacky for me is asking people to pay.

Obviously it depends on the situation; but, we've had a few people already saying 'Please don't get married abroad'; so, I would certainly start asking if people would object, in such a way that they can give an honest answer ie there's no pressure. Again, it depends: our absolute minimum numbers are 30 and Ijust couldn't ask all those people to pay to come, plus I'll be teaching so we'll be marrying peak season, esp when all our family and friends live close by so won't have to pay anything out if they don't want to.

Crocadillo: £150 per NIGHT for a hotel?! Where are they staying? I live near London, everywhere round here is very expensive, but you can get accommodation for £45 per room per night... Also disagree people need to stay for 3 nights; maybe 2 nights, but not 3 unless they're coming from abroad. My aunt and uncle and cousin are travelling the longest and will likely just stay the night of the wedding, setting off early on the morning.
- CommentAuthorVicky
I have been to loads of wedding aboard and we never except the Bride and groom to pay for my flight over, I think that would be all most like buying your friends.

My wedding is kind of aboard in Guernsey, its wear I was born and couldn't afford to pay for everyone flight to come over. At the end of the day it is up to your friends whether they want to come. But by the time my friends have paid for flight or boat and accommodation people will not get any change out of 250 per person.. Therefore we have mad it a bit of a weekend.

The whole reason why they are coming is because they like / love H2b and me and want to see two people join together.

I do think its up to the bride and groom what they want to do as a couple - whether you get married in England or aboard they will always be a few people that disagree
- CommentAuthorxbeckix88
Thankyou all :) We havent 100% agreed on what we'll do yet, we have so many different options were just going to have to way up the pros and cons of each i guess.

And do ALOT of research & get quotes / ask family :D

Basically most of our guests will have to travel, we both have a few family members here. But then my fiance has family in spain & we both have quite few family memebes in london. So either way theyre going to have to fork out.
Seen as most forked out alot just to travel down for our engagement party i dont think theyll mind too much :)

xxx
- CommentAuthorCroc
yes £150 a night .... its the price at the venue and also a few city centre boutique hotels... the people that have booked these have wanted to and paid for them themselves... not meant in a snobby way at all but if we go away anywhere me and h2b want to stay 5 star and in a nicer place than our house and have great service same on holidays even a night away ... and his and my family and friends feel the same... everyone has booked their accomodation and they have payed this price... infact the venue price is £220 a night

alot people coming to our wedding do need to stay 3 nights .. the night before (rehersal dinner) plus guests need to be at the venue for noon.... the wedding night and alot the night after as we have linned up a surprise for the guests the day after the wedding when we are on honey moon... a few are statying 4 nights!! (abroad folk)

again if me and h2b go to a wedding we stay the night before the wedding night and possibily the night after if its somewhere we havent been before and want a day out or night to our selves and a nice meal ... or to recover from a stinking hangover or to catch up with friends and family that have atteneded.... yes people dont need to do that but our family and friends do....

we have friends and family coming from NZ and greece and portugal so they will spend longer... but all are willing and more than happy to do it they are happy to come .... infact no one has said they cant make it

but thats just my wedding...

"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
- CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
hey becki,

i agree u ask who u want to go! when weddings abroad first started inittially it was just the norm that they go alone or mayb one or two go with them! i have mate sthat have got married about and asked 40ish people to go wiv them! the whole idea of gettin married abroad to me is that its cheaper wiv limited guests!

i think wat that barbie is sayin is that its not rite to expect people to pay all that to go abroad for sum1s weddin1 i missed my own sisters weddin cos they decided to do it abroad and she booked it on my exam week so i cudnt go and i was a uni student so couldnt afford!

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- CommentAuthorVicky
Same as me Crocadillo
- CommentAuthorMcDonnell Images
  
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My wife & I got married abroad ten years ago, in Paphos, Cyprus.
We arranged it through First Choice Holidays.
It was fantastic. The wedding organiser at the hotel did everything for us, just asked what flowers we wanted, colour scheme, etc.
We didn't have to lift a finger.
I was booked to photograph a clients wedding in Cyprus last summer, and they had a similar experience.
For us it cost about a third of the price of marrying in UK, and it was wonderful. Highly recommended.
Like anywhere else, you have to choose the venue carefully.
We had a "do" when we got back to England, and Debbie got to put her dress on again, and we hired a car for that too.
Go for it, its a great way of getting married!
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- CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
croc we paid £160 for our hotel room at a weddin we went to in linton near wetherby

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- CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Mcdonnall lol need a photographer!

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- CommentAuthorMcDonnell Images
Sorry, couldn't help it!
- CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Don't worry, I'd do the same lol!

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- CommentAuthorxbeckix88
HAHAHA!
Is it best t book through a travel company such as first choice/thomson/thomas cook? or a independant comapny?
- CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
yes i wud especially wiv all bankrupt ones now adays

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- CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Yes, I'd book through a travel company!

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- CommentAuthorJilly17
I would be getting married abroad if a) I was up to the travelling and b) the in laws 2b werent such a disaster and I most definately would not be paying for everyone to travel over. We would have probably spent more on the reception and had a few more treats or suprises for our guests but thats it. In fact I think I most of my friends would have loved it as they have to travel here anyway and I am not paying for them to do that either, just like they did not pay for me to travel to all of their parties and celebrations. The only thing we considered about getting married abroad was doing it in Europe as people could just come out for a weekend and long haul can be cost prohibitive if you want a few people there.
- CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
we are having 2 "dos" ........
num 1 abroad ....the legal marraige with 4 yes 4 guests
num 2 here .......we are reapeating our vows infront of family and friends (150 guests)

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- CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
lala i agree wiv the 4 guests only, its wat weddins abroad used to be before every1 else started to go

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- CommentAuthornini
I think if you want to get married abroad then you should.
My brother in laws brother got married in Spain. People were told of the date two years in advance so they had plenty of time to save if they wanted, and if they couldn't afford it the couple completely understood why and nobody got upset or offended if they couldn't make it or weren't asked.
I think weddings abroad can be lovely and intimate as you tend to only have very close family and friends there, plus you get to have another celebration when you come hone with everyone who didnt make it first time round.
Go for it if it makes you happy.

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