Well of rhyope knows i have been having difficult time lately with siltb first it was because she banned me from her daughters christening then i was unbanned, then we arranged to meet her for coffee and then she cancelled, we then had a misunderstanding between us ( me and htb) and his other sis ( who i love to bits and she loves me!) Anywaysthe siltb im having probs with made it out to be my fault we had to cancel and kicked off its like hang on you can cancel twice but when we do its a BIG ho ha -.-
Anyways we got past that till 3 weeksish ago when my htb mark was attending his aunties funeral where suprise suprise the siltb kicked off again
"Youve never been a real brother to me blah blah blah you shouldnt be marrying ashleigh your not ready"
Htb responded by saying fine if you feel that way you wont want to be at the engagement then will you (He in effect uninvited her ) anyway in mean time shed been slagging her own mother off as well on facebook as well as me! She doesnt even know me!
So sunday it all came to ahead mark said he was inviting her again for his mams sake which i was fuming with as i cant stand her so i made conditions of
* if she doesnt behave she leaves *she so much as looks at me wrong way ill say something * she says anything or makes it about her shes gone and NOT at wedding
Which he agreed to i didnt think she would come anyways as she moaned several times that she couldnt afford it ( we asked people coming to pay for their own meals rather then us pay) so suprise surprise again today she kicked off saying "you can have the deposit next week etc etc" when we told people we needed it by wednesday as we need to pay deposits to resteraunt and confirm numbers!
No his other sis ( he has 3) the one i also get on with has sent him a nasty facebook message and is now saying she wont be paying till next week either!
So hes now not inviting them both and their kids ( fine by me less goody bags to do for the kids!)
Anyways this all came to a head sunday between me and htb and i lost it and said fine well end it and cancel everything ( of course i didnt mean it ) so i havnt seen htb since sat and wont be till tomorrow im missing him like crazy :'( ment to be seeing him while hes at jujitsu but for sake of 5 mins isnt worth it :( me and htb are slowly building bridges again all because of his moo of a sister Im not going round his for a while as i feel like the bad guy where his parents are concerned :(
Anyways it all came to light according to his mam he didnt wanna talk or do wedding stuff and i confronted mark and he said hed tell me if i didnt ( hence part of the fall out too ) turns out apparently i was doing everything i wanted :'( and mark just didnt wanna burst my bubble hes now said hes learnt his lesson and i said it hurts MORE him lying than telling the truth:(
Cant think of another word for anyways! - when i talk to my cbm as shes my BEST friend he says he doesnt see why i need to so i kicked off saying right so basically i need to shut up and not say anything then and just take it and "grow up" ( it hurt so so much when he said that)
So we get to today now hes got to sort his 2 sisters out ( his other sis paid deposits right away no probs!) And sort it with his mam etc as hes only inviting them to please his mam which is fair enough i KNOW theyll end up coming but i just know siltb whos causing the most hassle ( will all her J) J will try make it all about her on the night try steal our moment and ruin it :'(
Thanks for listening girls i just sooooo needed to get it off my chest as sad as it is i dont have many friends i can talk to about this and i cant bottle it up ill end up making myself bad again ( i struggle with self harm ive been ok for 2 yrs but recently ive had slip ups :( ) so i cant not say how i feel :(
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I would say give them the rope and let them hang themselves. I know its hard to do but just don't react to them. Stay calm and it will drive them up the wall even more and there is nothing that they can do against you are you are not giving them anything to have a go about.
The only people that can get in the way of you and the h2b are yourselves. You know what his sisters are like but that doesn't mean you have to take it out on each other. Sit and talk to each other and be open and honest then they can stir it all they like and it won't make a difference.
Show them you are the better person and they won't beat you down and they will soon get bored when they realise that they are not getting anywhere with it and will find someone else to go and annoy.
CommentAuthorLeanneDickson
uuugh why can familys be like this? Those sisters are being very immature. Wedding bring the best and worst out of people it seems. I don't have any advice I'm sorry you're going through this xxx
CommentAuthornicksy
Awww I'm sorry to hear your having such problems hunni believe you me you are not alone! so many people cause problems with weddings it is unbelievable everyone seems to think they have the right to have their say and stick their oar in! I think its usual for brides and grooms to fall out through planning a wedding due to family problems but at the end of the day you have to remember you and mark are the two people that matter and you just have to basically stuff the rest of them if they want to be nasty and cause you problems then they should bugger off!!! I know it's easier said than done but the two of you need to stay strong for each other and don't lose sight of what the wedding is about - your love and thats all that matters just be there for each other hun xxxx
CommentAuthorsk8rpunkbarbie
Me and my mam talked about it and weve worked out that J has amandonment issues, shes selfish, self centred and jealous shes getting married herself in feb next yr and date keeps changing since shes just had another kid and shes said herself and i quote
"I wish id never had this kid we can afford her and a wedding" :o shocking! So we think its jealously but my mam is on J side! My mam doesnt under stand why my cbm is coming to engagement and 4 friends from halifax all in all theres 15 coming on my side and 22 on marks 19 now and even less is V and * arent invited i love K to bits!! Im same shoe size so can nick her shoes! :p
Well we knew this one had not been put to bed and it was bound to blow!!! Just keep talking to h2b because it is only you 2 that count when it comes down to it. People are selfish and rude and there is nothing like a wedding to bring the worst out in someone! x
CommentAuthorsk8rpunkbarbie
I know ryhope! Htb txted me and rang and were missing each other badly i was at westlife concert last night and i couldnt concentrate ( possibly because the atmosphere wasnt as electric as usual as weve never been on a monday before in ten yrs of seeing them!) Anyways im seeing him tomorrow and i cant wait i just want a big cuddle off him hes going to sort things tonight and ive said leave me out of it its your decision but stick to it x
CommentAuthorJilly17
Ah good idea .... let him sort it, keep you out of it so his family know the decisions are coming from him and not you. My h2b is off to have it out with his mum tonight and I am really worried about it. I feel sick as am so worried about it all going wrong.
CommentAuthorsk8rpunkbarbie
It will be fine hun and youve got my number if you need to talk ok :) x
