Well I spoke to my Dad last night. I have now decided not to put him at the top table. I actually think it's my step mum making a fuss. Dad said he doesn't want to sit at the same table as my mum even though they would not be sitting together. I could hear my step mum saying in the background that she wants herself and my Dad sitting together. To be honest when we were kids she was always a bit touchy around us when we visited and used to go and lay down with a headache. My dad and her don't have any children so I think it's jelousy.
My dad is giving me way but also he feels uncomfortable making a speech so he won't be doing that either.
I have decided that he can give me away then my eldest brother will take my dads place at the table and make a speech. My brother is up for it and my brother's wife is fine with it too.
The whole problems stems from years ago when my elest sister caused a massive row with my stepmum and then dragged my mum into it. My mum and dad never spoke before that and since it happend my sister don't talk to my dad. If anyone starts on the day I can place a bet it will be my sister. If she does I will book a cab and send her on her way.
Seating problem sorted, pain in the butt sister to deal with. She will get a warning before the day. If she throws a strop and says she's not coming I will agree with her. We are not close at all so to be honest it will be less for me to worry about if she stays at home.

Glad you've sorted it honey.... i am doing the same, seating my parents separately with their partners so everyone is happy xxx

glad you sorted it hun. good luck with your sister. xx

Aw it's a shame your dad is putting his OH ahead of his own daughter on her wedding day, but as long as your happy with it it's all good.

atleast you got it sorted hun i agree that he shouldnt be putting his gf first what difference does it really make he doesnt have to talk to your mum although its a happy day and he should be making the effort, even if he sat with you for meal then went to sit by oh its obviously her making things hard x

Can't really imagine a father not wanting to sit pride of place next to his daughter on her wedding day myself but if it makes life easier for you then go for it. If I was in that situation with my dad I'd probably inform him that my brother will be giving me away also. I hope your guests aren't too confused by one giving you away and another making the speech.

Thanks guys for all your support. I think if I hadn't asked my dad already then I would have asked my brother to do it all. When I got married the first time round my step dad gave me away as he has been in my life more. My dad hasn'y given any of us girls away so this would be his first. I just think my dad's wife is insecure. Spoke to my mum tonight and she is happy to be ate the top table or at another table with her parnter, either way she don't mind.I may put her with her partner too then it won't seem so strange. xx