So! My hen night pay by deadline was yesterday and my sis and moh has just called me to at that mil2b and her daughter (h2bs sis and my bm) have not paid so has to assume they aint coming (she said on all messages if payment isnt received she will assume you arent coming) despite moh sending numerous reminders and they've had 7 weeks notice when it needs to be paid. Moh needs to pay venue TOMORROW! and my other bm is not coming. So out of three bms only 1 YES 1! Is coming on my hen I feel like telling them all to foff... H2bs stag: NOTHING PLANNED! Despite having FOUR groomsmen and With 6 weeks till when it's supposed to be and 26 people he wants to invite there slim chance of finding somewhere to go now, I've got family asking me what's going on and my sisters fella wants to come and they live in Scotland and want and are making the effort! I'm so so so angry right now.... And worse h2bs blo@dy family are coming to ours TONIGHT for tea, I'm saying sweet f/a pair of bizzles....
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CommentAuthorKatya
i feel for you hun i really do! Im so sorry you are going through this.
I know its not the same but my h2b invited his parents (2 people) for dinner for his birthday the other year, when they turned up they had brought his brother & brothers girlfriend with them too. I didnt have enough food, chairs, plates etc... all because we had two uninvited guests. My friend was staying the week with us and she ended up playing host offering tea & coffee etc, i was fuming i wouldnt even be in the same room as them until i served dinner. ended up having to send h2b & his dad to the shop for more food, borrowed chairs from next door neighbour etc... i know its not the same but i too was fuming & had to sit there playing house with them. pisd me right off!
regarding the stag, maybe his mates have something planned but they are not telling you or h2b?
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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Thanks Hun... I don't think so because otherwise my sister fella probably wouldn't be asking questions :( I feel so deflated, rejected and like no ones gives two shiny's about me or h2b xxx
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
That sucks! One of my bridesmaids has said she cant afford to come on my hen do because its down here in the south - although if it was "up north" she'd come - theough itll only cost about £20 pp rtn to car share here so I fail to understand why she wont come. My H2Bs brothers girlfriend was coming too but shes announced she preganant and due the wekend of my hen do (excellent timing!) haha x
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
Thats ridiculous hun, all bms should make a special effort and make sure they are there for all these things as far as they can.
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Aw no! I can totes understand if they had no money but they do! And my hen comes to a grand total of £40 an that's for a five course medieval banquet and four goblets of either ale, wine or mead and table water is inc and a disco! so even if they drank water for the rest of the night my hen is pretty dam cheap! And were car pooling so that's free! X
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
Thats damn right rude. £40 is an utter bargain for a night out. I understand why you feel so angry about it. xx
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
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Ooh that's including an extra fiver my moh has asked for to go towards hen nigh accessories and buffet food and drink while we get ready... Mil2b and that bm said no as they don't drink and won't want any food... Erm... Wtf!?!?! So moh said ok and suggested a fiver between them just for accessories but they declined to reply
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
Do you get on well with your MIL2B? Maybe you'll have much more fun without these sourpusses there - they can join up with my BM and have a pity party with the £50 between them they've saved! x
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Usually yes I do but I think ts because she doesn't like my sister or my mum and right now it's mutual and my mum and sister are civil and at least making an effort with them but it's not being reciprocated and it's not about all of them! The two days of my life that are about me lol x
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
Exactly - its your day and your party so they need to suck it up and pretend to enjoy it at least. We're taking my future in laws to meet my dad in March - he lives in France, so I hope they get along otherwise its gonna be a loooong 5 days! Sadly my mum died 4 years ago so she wont be coming on the hen do, but my MIL2B is very excited......maybe as she has 3 sons and no daughters :-) x
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CommentAuthorAna40
That sounds like a great deal your moh had got, is a shame they can't reply even to politly decline. X
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
They deffo not coming
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CommentAuthorBecky1608
Oh hun, sorry to hear that! You'll still have an amazing time and they'll realise that they've missed out on a really special event xxx
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CommentAuthorDonnaH39
I'm sorry to hear that, but at least now you can concentrate on just having a lovely time
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It's such a shame for you their not coming. So what Donna and Becky say though and don't let it spoil your party. You'll have an amazing time with the people who care about you loads x
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CommentAuthor**MrsFarrelly2B**
Oops ...that's DO what Donna and Becky say! X
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Have they said why they aren't coming?
I know for a fact my MIL wont be at my hen do she never went to her own daughters. No skin off my nose tho she hates me lol.
You will have a great time whoever goes with you xx
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
It was H2b that brought the hen up, if he hadnt they wouldn't have even arsed themselves cz I don't really know whts going on anyway and she basically said she didn't feel that she being included and in not so many words she thinks My moh is a cheeky thing and a bit snotty and abrupt (I've seen ALL msgs, texts and emails not one thing was snotty, moh asked for an extra £5 from everyone for accessories etc and mil said she would buy her own and moh said "I'd really like to get them all to match if that's ok" mil did not reply to this) I was like well she does have a lot of people to organise and has had to collect a lot of money off people and she is far away from home and with her job she is here there and everywhere and doesn't have time to hang around and I also said that my mum hasn't been involved with the organising of the hen either and that it's Mohs baby. She also doesn't feel confident at driving that far and on an email That was sent out had a car plan on and she said she didn't like that they were at the bottom of the list in car 7 with just The other bm and she's like well it's subliminal msgs to me that in not welcome! Moh had written that this could all change and that that was only an example and if people needed lifts then to contact her... Mil didn't. I'm thinking then why didn't you say anything???? And she throws in the classic line "I am the mother of the groom!" Oooooo my lord! So the short of it is she doesn't feel welcome, doesn't know anyone and doesn't want to drive there and back. Xxx
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CommentAuthorFranM76
Oh lordy lord!!!! How do you cope?! I'm lucky to have a fantastic FMIL, more like a friend than anything. She's there if I need her help but stays out of the way unless I ask. Haven't got round to organising a hen do yet (and my BM's are all a bit young to take that as their baby) but god help anyone who tries to be awkward!!! Just enjoy you party hun - sod em!!! It's not her hen do, it's yours. Shame they don't want to enter into the spirit of it all but at the end of the day it's their loss. Have a wonderful time xxx
CommentAuthorDonnaH39
OMG-As if she was in the car which was numbered 7.... I can't believe it..... had they not booked her a separate limo?
Sorry about that, couldn't help myself. All sounds very petty and if she has that view then you're better off not having her there as she would probably only cause an atmosphere.
CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Omg sounds like my mil sod them, let them get on with it. The way I write lists is my family, friends ohs family it's natural. tell her to go boil her head. I'm sorry but this has made me so mad, who does she think she is the mother of the groom ha shouldn't she start acting like it then, xx
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CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
That's horrible MissWeedles :(
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aww thanks girlies! i dont know how id cope without all of you! we went to see them in their new house yesterday after going to town and the house i have to say is beautiful, grrrr lol anyway... sat in their kitchen mil2b asked what we got in town and h2b was like ooh ive got a new phone and his sis (aka bm from h£ll) asked what i got (mil2b was hovering in the background) and i was like oh just got my dress for my hen night, mil2b just looked and then walked off and didnt say a word, neither asked what it was like... so they then went into the living room and h2b was like come one well got through - at this point i just wanted to go home as it had been a mega long day in town which was heaving! So goes through and sits down, after about 10mins she did ask what it was like - got the feeling it was jusw because she "had to ask" out of duty and not that she was genuienely interested. anyhoo the dress is FIT! i love it, from m0ns@@n so a little £££ but h2b paid half for me bless him........
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CommentAuthorDonnaH39
Ooooo it is lovely :) can I ask how much it was?
I wouldn't worry yourself about them, they're just being petty and selfish. Don't let them ruin your excitement or fun.
CommentAuthorMrs T. 2 Be
Oooooo pretty dress!!
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
Dress is lovely x
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CommentAuthor*The NewMrsMalin*
It is so pretty :)
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CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Oooh it was a splash out dress lol £109 :/ but it's pretty on... What kindve shoes do y'all reckon? X
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CommentAuthorDonnaH39
Blue, pink or green peep-toes with a nice heel? (colour to match one of the colours in the dress) or a nice rounded toe one in one of those colours?
..... I like coloured shoes btw :/
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
So h2bs stag is finally making progress and they're going to a comedy club...
All three bridesmaids have bras and shoes! So relieved! Took them for alterations today and neither need anything doing! Just got one more to sort x
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CommentAuthorLauraK7
Dress is lovely and try not to dwell on the ones not coming have fun with the ones who are xx
CommentAuthoralmost a year wife!!
Men!!!! More specifically GROOMSMEN...
Utter kak! I've spent this morn helping h2b by buying 2 set of 4 tickets for a comedy show in our city... But there's a problem and the club won't accept the tickets as there's 16 of them and they've said they will only allow them to use 2 sets of the tickets so we've wasted £20... Besides I should be no where near his stag but the men jus arent doing anything about anything!!! It's supposed to be in 3 weeks time!
Fuming
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CommentAuthorWhovianbride
im confused, why won't they accept the tickets? and if they won't accept them , should you not be entitled to a refund?
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CommentAuthorElizabethF49
the comedy club around here doesn't allow same sex groups at the weekend have no idea why butits the rules and they will not budge on it.
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