I don't know if anyone can give me advice on this one. My fairly close friend from work has a boyfriend that causes all sorts of trouble when drunk, and usually encourages my friend to and she can be quite embarrassing! I really don't want him to come because if he does, it will make my day an anxious one. Any ideas of what I should do? I dont want to upset or offend my friend but her and her fella could really cause a scene. HELP!
CommentAuthorJEm1905
Just blame your budget! Or say very politely what you just mentioned to her and say your grandparents or something don't like that sort of behavior and if he promises he wont go stupid and stay respectful then he can come but if it gets out of hand then he is to go home. It will always be a sticking on but you have just over a year to go and things can change many times in that space on time :) I hope you get it sorted x
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CommentAuthorSarahB814
I think Jems ideas are good, either say due to budget you can only have x amount of people and they are going to be mainly family, be truthful with her. Explain that due to older relitives that sort of behaviour would be disrespectful.
Hope you get it sorted :)
CommentAuthorJennyHeather
As above, I've got the same problem with my sisters boyfriend he's an alcoholic/druggy, so we've agreed not to invite him, he just encourages my sister all the time so if they're both there then trouble will be let loose because I can gurantee he will start a fight with someone for no reason. Even had to tell my mum not to invite him on her own accord she's like that!
CommentAuthorTori
Last thing you want is your day ruined. I wouldn't invite them and be honest and tell her you are responsible for your guests actions. Hopefully by then she might have seen sense and got rid :-)
I had an issue with a family member who would have caused issues so I didn't invite them the last thing you want is drama on your day so avoid it from the start.
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
It's a tough one - but I can totally see why you wouldn't want him there.
Find a quiet moment and explain your concerns - after all, you don't want to be on edge all day waiting for there next stunt!
Maybe she could come with another friend instead?
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CommentAuthor*Claire*
Oh thanks guys, lots of good advice. Hopefully my friend will get rid before invitations go out! He's no good, and only a matter of time lol
Or, I was thinking that he could accidently get locked in a cupboard on the big day? just a thought ha ha! xx
CommentAuthorMichelleB2b
I have the same sort of problem, but unfortunately due to who this person is, I have no choice to but to invite them. I have already started to feel anxious about it now :(
CommentAuthorMrsWright290912
Blame it on your budget and if she can't accept it - tell her not to bother either
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CommentAuthor*Claire*
Oh no DrMichelle, maybe you need someone on hand to keep an eye on them and drag away if needed. It's not the thing we want to be worrying about, weddings are stressful enough! :(
CommentAuthorKistHall
DrMichelle have you explained your concerns to the person, or set some boundaries for them. I know that some of the ladies here gave me some good advice about setting boundaries to keep the behaviour of guests in line. That way you are inviting them but they know he rules, and if they choose not to come you aren't the bad person??
CommentAuthorJanie
thats the last thing you need on your big day isnt it. I would personally be honest, but not in a nasty in your face way, if you get what i mean lol
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CommentAuthor*Claire*
yeah, I want to be honest, I hate the thought of upsetting or offending anyone, but what a tricky subject matter! Your basically saying 'you're a possible embarrassment' ha ha! But, I suppose lifes to short and this is the only time I'll get married so stuff it, I'm just going have to do what I feel happy with :)
CommentAuthorNevlar
i know how you feel... i have a few guests that tend to strip off after a few drinks one of them being my BROTHER! .. id try explaning that they need to behave or they will be asked to leave! x
CommentAuthorMrs Wilson x
I wouldn't mention it to her at all. Just put her name on the invitation then on the invite you can put something like:
Due to numbers, we are only able to invite those who this invite is addressed to. We hope that you understand and we can't wait to celebrate our special day with you.
This then covers unwanted children and/or disruptive boyfriends when it comes to all the guests!! Easy :)
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CommentAuthor*Claire*
Good advice Mrs Wilson. Very diplomatic! Thank you :)
CommentAuthorbrilly
I agree with Mrs Wilson I think thats a great way of expressing you dont want them there but in a nice easy way where they know you are limited to a budget so dont think you are being personal or singling them out xx
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CommentAuthorKimD7
It is so hard. I am worried about my bro in law to be. At Christmas he had had a few while at the in laws2b and I found him obnoxious to say the least. Not an attitude my family will liken to.
My family are real salt of the earth people, down to earth, hard working and not the sort of people to want to listen to someone bigging them selves up. The fact my parents family are refusing to stay in the travel lodge is already a bone of contention
I am so worried he be loud and over bearing that at the wedding.
With my dad only so recently passing away I feel there is the potential for people being more sensitive than usual.
CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
kim i expect everyone will conduct themselves with great decorum you will have no problems
