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    • RebeccaD842
      Getting married in 4 months
      Posted: Oct 26th 2020
    Hi everyone,

    I asked 5 girls to be my bridesmaids in Feb this year (I’m getting married May 2021).

    With the prospect of potentially having a cap on guests like 15 or 30 it will mean either my bridesmaids can’t come or only 3 would be able to come. I’m looking for advice on handling this! How on earth do I un-ask them to be bridesmaid and how would I pick only 3 to come (if it was 30 guests)

    Thank you!
    • BryonyEminson2Be
      Getting married in 6 months
      Posted: Oct 27th 2020
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    I'm sure your bridesmaids will all be very understanding of any decisions you have to make - the reduced numbers allowed for weddings are well known and have caused problems for so many people that I'm sure they won't expect you to have them all at a wedding with reduced numbers.

    I would have an honest chat with them, tell them how upset you are that you can't have them all and maybe arrange something nice separately - a meal if it's possible at the time, a nice gift. Something thoughtful and possibly still lets them feel included.

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    • IonaG92
      Getting married in 5 months
      Posted: Nov 25th 2020
    Hi -I’m so glad I’ve come across your thread I’m having the same issue and I feel so sick about it as I feel it won’t go down well. I’ve felt so alone in this.

    I guess under these circumstances you hope your bridesmaids will understand as it is out of your hands with Covid etc. Maybe talk to them sooner rather than later and just get it done so your all clear of how to go forward. If some of them are family maybe just scale it back to family? So your not choosing between friends. It’s so difficult I know. Keep in the back of your mind it is your day and your doing it once and you want it to be the best day ever. If you have a group chat maybe write out a big message describing what your up against And how you’ve thought it all over.

    Wishing you all the luck but you maybe be surprised with how they handle it maybe they have been expecting it.
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