Wedding Forum - Uninterested Family...

Hi all
I’m feeling really down lately about the fact that my family aren’t interested in my wedding. I’ve always been the “let down” of the family and now something finally good is happening to me, none of them are bothered. Some of them even see my wedding as a joke or just a party. Not an actual life event. When I announced the engagement, the only “congratulations” I got was from my deadbeat dad and he was being sarcastic because I didn’t tell him specially, before everyone else. Some of the reactions/comments from family when they found out were literally “cool”. I have my next dress appointment tomorrow to look at the two dresses I was stuck between. My mum has decided she can’t make it because she’s working night shift, which I’d normally understand, but through the day before her nigh shifts she’s always going to get her hair done or she’ll happily stay awake when my sister got an award for working hard. But when it comes to my wedding she can’t spare the hour. And the store is 5 minutes from her home too. I have no friends that are free, it’s like everyone is too busy. So I’m going to a wedding dress appointment alone.
I’m starting to feel really down and not even excited about my wedding anymore. I’ve even considered telling everyone it’s off.
Does anyone have any advice or even similar situation? How did you deal with it? If you’re going through it can we rant together? Haha.
I just feel so down. And like I’ve “failed” the biggest day of my life.

Reading this made me almost cry. Getting married can be so triggering if you have a turbulent relationship with your family. You're not the only one who feels like this and it isn't your fault. My mum cancelled on my dress appointment too, my dad doesn't want to do a speech at the wedding. They are both being much better lately, but it was really hard and I still have my wobbles.

Are there people outside of your family who you can turn to for support?

So sorry to hear that holly! I'm feeling a bit the same, I have friends that have done this all before so I seem a bit too late to the party and they aren't bothered. They're on to having babies etc I dont feel many will come to the hen. My family live very far away so can be difficult and also my brother and his wife are trying for another baby so timing wise they may have another baby before the wedding or be due or etc so am.worried my parents will be focused on that instead of the one time I need them for me and would actually like the focus. It does get me down but I've had to just stop and think why am I doing this, it's the guy I'm marrying that matters most so just try to make the.most of everything. It does make you think who your real friends are x