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    • HollyJ24
      Getting married in 22 months
      Posted: Feb 7th 2020
    Hi all
    I’m feeling really down lately about the fact that my family aren’t interested in my wedding. I’ve always been the “let down” of the family and now something finally good is happening to me, none of them are bothered. Some of them even see my wedding as a joke or just a party. Not an actual life event. When I announced the engagement, the only “congratulations” I got was from my deadbeat dad and he was being sarcastic because I didn’t tell him specially, before everyone else. Some of the reactions/comments from family when they found out were literally “cool”. I have my next dress appointment tomorrow to look at the two dresses I was stuck between. My mum has decided she can’t make it because she’s working night shift, which I’d normally understand, but through the day before her nigh shifts she’s always going to get her hair done or she’ll happily stay awake when my sister got an award for working hard. But when it comes to my wedding she can’t spare the hour. And the store is 5 minutes from her home too. I have no friends that are free, it’s like everyone is too busy. So I’m going to a wedding dress appointment alone.
    I’m starting to feel really down and not even excited about my wedding anymore. I’ve even considered telling everyone it’s off.
    Does anyone have any advice or even similar situation? How did you deal with it? If you’re going through it can we rant together? Haha.
    I just feel so down. And like I’ve “failed” the biggest day of my life.
    • Itsjustkay86
      Got married 4 months ago
      Posted: Feb 10th 2020
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    I was kind of in the same boat. But it was more to do with my hen do. Nobody wanted to go so i cancelled it and then everyone wanted me to have one because it was like a right of passage so i had one. Biggest mistake of my life. It was so bad i left my own hen do and travelled home alone, crying the entire way. It sucked. I've learned that the only person you need to worry about is yourself. As long as you and your partner are happy it shouldn't matter about anything else. Would your partners mum not be able to go with you instead? If your family seem uninterested, F 'em! Spend time with your partners family instead if they're more interested. They're going to be your family one day too :)
    • AmandaW734
      Getting married in 11 months
      Posted: Feb 12th 2020
    Reading this made me almost cry. Getting married can be so triggering if you have a turbulent relationship with your family. You're not the only one who feels like this and it isn't your fault. My mum cancelled on my dress appointment too, my dad doesn't want to do a speech at the wedding. They are both being much better lately, but it was really hard and I still have my wobbles.

    Are there people outside of your family who you can turn to for support?
    • KerriR86
      Posted: Mar 4th 2020
    Hi Holly,

    Reading your post really pulled at my heart strings. How are things at the moment?
    i would literally do what Kay suggested and F'em! If they cant be happy or excited for the best day of your life, then why should they be a part of it. The last thing you want is to feel sad on your wedding day by having people there that do not care and see it as a party, or a p**s up.
    I wouldn't waste my money on them if they cant make the effort.

    Do you family like your fiance? how are you with your fiances family?

    How are your friends helping you with the situation?

    Where abouts in the UK are you based?
    • AlexE56
      Getting married in 8 months
      Posted: Mar 8th 2020
    So sorry to hear that holly! I'm feeling a bit the same, I have friends that have done this all before so I seem a bit too late to the party and they aren't bothered. They're on to having babies etc I dont feel many will come to the hen. My family live very far away so can be difficult and also my brother and his wife are trying for another baby so timing wise they may have another baby before the wedding or be due or etc so am.worried my parents will be focused on that instead of the one time I need them for me and would actually like the focus. It does get me down but I've had to just stop and think why am I doing this, it's the guy I'm marrying that matters most so just try to make the.most of everything. It does make you think who your real friends are x
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