I’m getting married next June, and although I can’t wait and I’m excited to be marrying the love of my life, I can’t help but feel let down by my family. My mum, dad and sister seem less than interested. They never asked how plans are going or get excited when I tell them something I’ve done or got or give compliments when I’ve done something towards the wedding. I have been saying for months, I need to go dress shopping can we set a date or confer diaries and yet no one has come back to me. I have my dress now, I went with a friend I love it and I felt amazing in it and I truly think the experience would’ve been a lot different had my mum and sister have come along. So in a way I’m glad they weren't there but at the same time feel sad that they’ve not been more supportive. I know that my mum will make a big deal about it when she finds out I’ve been and done it but I feel I gave enough chances and hell; shouldn’t they be excitedly urging me to go shopping? My sister has yet to try on her dress, I’ve been asking and asking, if it doesn’t fit I’m sure it’s gone past being able to send it back now too, she said oh well if it’s not right you can sell it on....not really the point? I feel really down about the whole thing and feel like it’s having an affect on the way I am acting around them now. I don’t want it to spoil our big day, but my mum has a tendency to make anything about her. She never compliments me or praises me if I say I’m tired, she’s more tired, if I’m feeling down she’s depressed....but if I do something good or my kids to something good, she’ll make out like it’s because she had some input. They’ve not offered to pay for anything towards the wedding, we’re funding it all ourselves, I’ve organised my own hen, which my mum won’t even call ‘a hen’ it’s her weekend away. I don’t know what to do, I don’t like confrontation but I feel I may soon burst. Has anyone else had a similar scenario?
CommentAuthorItsjustkay86
I've had something similar but not with my mam, shes been great! Its been my best friend. When i told her we got engaged she seemed happy and when i asked her to be my maid of honour she was happy and i thought she would be an amazing MOH. How wrong was i! She hasn't helped one bit. I had to practically force her to plan my hen do and she did such a rubbish job at it, one of my cousins had to step in and take over. The hen do was absolutely awful and i ended up leaving in the middle of it in tears and having a huge anxiety attack but thats a whole different story! Everytime i ask her to do something relating to the wedding (alteration appointments etc) she makes it very clear that everything is such an inconvenience to her and the other night my fiance had to take my phone off me because i was so worked up by her and was so close to just telling her to F off and not bother.
It's such an upsetting moment when you want someone to be super happy for you and they just arent because i bet if the table was turned, they would expect you to be happy and stuff.
I think as long as youve got your friends around you, they'll be happy for you and if your family cant get on board, thats their loss!
