We are getting married i less than 5 weeks and i don't feel ready... H2B is unhappy with the planning and the day in general. He was in charge of the evening but due to my interference it seems that even that is not what he wants but what i have insisted on. I know he desperately wants to play at the reception but as i was so against it i can't even persuade him to do that... I now feel rubbish over that whole thing and want nothing more to do with the day. I just don't know what we can do to turn it into a day day we Will both enjoy...
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Sit him down, and have a chat with him.
From the sound of it, you feel that you have maybe 'taken over' the things he wanted to do? If that is the case, (and apologies if it's not, it's just how I'm reading it) apologise, and tell him you want it to be a fantastic day for both of you...then ask him what he wants to do...
If its any consolation, I think a lot of couples go through a similar phase like this...I had a moment a few weeks ago when it just felt like everything was spinning out of control and it no longer felt like 'our' wedding day xx
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CommentAuthorVelcro
What does he want to play....? In a band kind of play?
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CommentAuthornugget80
He is a fantastic guitarist and a great singer. He plays alot of pubs so would have done a shorter version of his set with some special stuff thrown in...
CommentAuthor*KelBel*
I think it's better if he relaxes and just enjoys his guests rather than playing as part of the entertainment, x
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every couple seems to go through this, I certainly did I went through this with h2b at the start of the year things were getting out of control and I even said (in an argument!!) I would call the wedding off! that's when I let off steam and me and h2b sat down and looked at the bigger picture.
Anyway without blabbering on I think im trying to say every couple goes through this but there is light at the end of the tunnel.
CommentAuthorBrigitteB
Depends on what type of wedding you're having but personally i'd convince him to play. As you said, its something he desparately wants to do....
CommentAuthorsarah
Can you take a break from the wedding? No planning, diy, or wedding conversation in general for a day or two or even a week? Just go back to being a couple in love (rather than stressing over wedding planning). After that let him make some decisions on his own with no interfering, including convincing him to play. It should be his choice freely made and not something you told him to do or not to do.
CommentAuthorCoconut
I agree with Sarah :) hope you get it sorted Hun xx
CommentAuthorPoPoem
Personally,
if he is really good and hes a natural, let him play, my best friend had her husbands best man play a guitar and sing at the wedding. It was amazing. It made everyone at ease and set the right atmosphere. If not compromise, play a recording of him during your signing of your register or during your drinks reception....
All about compromise....you both should be happy with your day.... : )
CommentAuthorAna40
If he would get satisfaction from playing then I'd let him play. X
CommentAuthorBecky1608
I definitely think that you need to sit him down and have a chat. Maybe you could have a nice romantic meal and just let him know that you want the day to be perfect for both of you and that you didn't mean to make him feel like you were trying to take over. Maybe he wanted to play at the wedding and dedicate it to you? I think it's important to have elements that reflect both the bride and groom and if it means a lot to him to play then would it be such a bad thing if he did a couple of songs? I think it will make it feel really personal if he did. A couple of friends got married back in September and one of the best parts of the day was a mutual friend playing and singing. It really got people in the mood and was a special added touch. Fingers crossed it all gets sorted out xxx
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CommentAuthornugget80
Thanks for all the advice. He has got a friend acting as dj and there Will be karaoke for an hour or so. As alot of guests are in bands it should be good. Am hoping if there is a guitar there and all set up he will be unable to resist! Especially after a few beers. :)
