I was so shocked to read this last night that had to share. So rude and ungrateful it is unbelievable!! I have the link for the article if anyone wants a read xx
Last weekend I attended a wedding of a not-close friend with my boyfriend and as a gift we gave $100 cash. This was generous considering my financial situation. I just finished university with $40,000 in student loans, and have only found part time (12-18 hrs per week) minimum wage work. I gave as much as I could and attended to show my support.
Today I received a rude and condescending message from the bride via Facebook messenger: “Hi Tanya, how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike’s and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each? In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn’t expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well. As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you’ll know what I mean. I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything.” [all sic]
It’s infuriating that she had the nerve to make assumptions about my finances, and assume that I or my boyfriend had an extra $400 lying around. Those $100 were hard-earned and she didn’t show an ounce of gratitude for what she did receive. That money didn’t grow on a tree. If she had a minimum gift requirement, she should have specified it...or asked everyone for income statements before inviting them.
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CommentAuthorMrs D2B
I'm not sure how true these are as I have read a very similar article about a bride who was extremely ungrateful about a £100 gift from a former colleague that has come from mum5n3t. I'm not doubting that something along these lines has happened and it is disgusting of the bride to act in such an ungrateful way, but there appears to be a couple of stories, very similar to each other but not quite the same, emerging atm.
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CommentAuthorNicoleW665
If these are true stories, could you just imagine being so rude, if I received 100 from each couple i'd be more than over the moon! some people expect too much lately, i honestly would make sure they got nothing from me again.
When we met: August 2009
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CommentAuthorMrs Jones
If it's true, that is just awful. I would never expect people to get into debt or give what they can't afford. I just want people to come along and share in the fun and celebrations.
First Date 26 April 2014
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CommentAuthorFlossie
Absolutely shocking if true! It's one thing to feel a bit disheartened over the amount someone has given you, but to actually confront that person is sooo rude!!! You should never book/pay for a wedding under the presumption that you will get the money back - if you can't afford to do it in the first place then don't!!!
Thats just so rude, not long read the article that Mrs D2B mentioned, can't believe that some people can be so ungrateful, for my gift request we're politely asking for money IF they wanted to give anything, I would never consider confronting people about what they give, if I received £100 from a couple I'd be so grateful :O x
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
The one I read was a cheque for £100 as well. Seems strange there is two stories and one with $100 cash. At first I thought how ungrateful, I was grateful for anything as it all mounts up, but after seeing this different yet similar story, I'm thinking it's not real.
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CommentAuthorStephH96
Extremely rude - its as if she expected the guests to pay for their own food etc! If you don't want to pay for it then don't invite people.
Having read that there is another similar story though I wonder if this is just an amalgamation of several ungrateful/bridezilla stories.
CommentAuthorMrsToniKB
OMG the cheek of some people!! I would be grateful for any gift recieved from any guest! She was the one who chose to get married if she couldn't afford to pay that amount for her reception she should have booked a cheaper venue! Not expected a gift of that amount!! Joke really I agree with everyone on here very rude bride indeed!! Xx
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CommentAuthorStephanieM158
Oh my goodness. We literally dont expect anything and to just have £10 from a couple would be more than enough for us! I dont know if this story is true, as Ive read similar ones but I do believe that there are people like this in the world, which makes me sad.
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CommentAuthorSuper4ac
I'd be over the moon if anybody gifted us 100 quid! We're asking for money instead of gifts in our invites, but going to make it clear that we only want a few quid for a drink on our honeymoon kind of thing. Obviously not expected, just if people feel like they would like to gift it to us. If we got a tenner from every guest we'd be up 1500 quid! I can't believe anybody would expect money gifts essentially forcing guests to pay for their own meal at a wedding!!!
CommentAuthorMrs T Hurley!
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I like how she is also expecting an invite to her future wedding! I would've messaged her back and tell her that she's ungrateful and not to expect an invite. I don't understand how people are like that.
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CommentAuthorLoz K
If this is true, it's disgusting behaviour on the part of the bride. You don't plan a wedding expecting to be reimbursed your costs by the guests! If you can't afford it then maybe you shouldn't have it in the first place and scale it down! We're making it clear to people that we expect nothing other than their presence but if they want to give anything, no matter how big or small, we'd appreciate money for house renovations/the honeymoon.
If someone did this to me I'd demand the money back - it's obviously not gratefully received!
