When I first started my planning my wedding I had all sorts running through my mind about how I look "I have to loose weight, improve my skin, change my hair" bla bla bla.. so much so it got really stressful, I was obsessed with trying different lotions and potions and I was trying all sorts of diets. It got to a point where I hated the thought of me in my wedding dress, I was still way over weight and my skin was still looking awful and it just wasn't good enough! With 5 weeks to go I have totally changed my perspective. My dress will fit, albeit a squeeze but it will fit, I haven't lost weight but my dress will fit, I have to keep repeating that because I can't believe my dress will fit (lol) my skin has improved but it's not perfect and I have grown my hair and changed the colour.. Nothing hugely drastic, I'm still the same old Melody I was when I started planning and I'm glad I am. My OH asked me to marry him when I looked rough as hell, it didn't put him off so why should I changed just because I'm walking down the aisle and sticking a ring on my finger. He loves me the way I am, if I was to change it would be for my guests and why should that matter? I don't mind looking at my wedding pictures and seeing myself the way I am because I'm comfortable and my OH loves me. Basically what I'm trying to say is, don't put yourself under so much pressure to loose weight and to look amazing. You already are amazing, your h2bs want to marry you, that's what matters...
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
5.11.11
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CommentAuthorJill
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorWifey2be
i love this post!! so true you go girl!! x x
CommentAuthorNicsquared
Very good post although im sure most of us wont see the light like you have just yet :( It is crazy what we put ourselves through!
There are so many people out there who will tell you
what you can't do.
What you have to do is turn around and say, "watch me"!!
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Bit of a pointless post but I've seen quite a few posts about growing hair or loosing weight and just thought I'd scream "don't put yourself under so much pressure" planning a wedding is stressful enough without trying to change yourself at the same time x
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
5.11.11
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I'm finding that the more I stress about losing weight for the wedding, the more I eat. I've put on 1.5st since I first went to try on dresses, and each time I think I'll book another appt so I can see a particular dress again with a few lbs off... still not happened x
29th September 2012
Cant wait to be Mrs D!
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
I'd like to look good on our wedding day - hence all the skincare and growing my nails and trying to eat a little better etc but I'm not going all get out on it, because like you say, it's no good looking at your wedding photos and thinking 'I look nice, but I don't look like ME'
I think it's about being happy with yourself without overdoing it!
Got married 27th June and blessed on July 5th 2012
Finally Mrs M :3
Love, love... Here we are.
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
So stop stressing about it, just accept yourself for the way you are and if your body does change then brilliant but if it doesn't, it doesn't matter. You'll still have a beautiful dress, I'm a size 18, my dress is stunning and I look amazing in it, you don;t have to be tiny thin to look great in a dress. xx
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorNicsquared
I totally agree with you and its so easy to step back and see what we are doing is often really stupid! It is just really hard when you see the pictures of slim brides with perfect hair to not want to be like that too!
There are so many people out there who will tell you
what you can't do.
What you have to do is turn around and say, "watch me"!!
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I was exactly like that, I wouldn't even look at wedding magazines. We have so much pressure on us already, why give ourselves added pressure of trying to improve ourselves? why not be happy with ourselves like our h2b's are happy with us..
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
5.11.11
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CommentAuthorlaurab-gtobe
what a lovely post, it puts it all in perspective. i do want to lose a bit of weight thought, i've got a 5month old baby and still carrying a tad of tummy flab!! but i agree that it is added pressure if its all for the wedding,its me, its who my h2b knows, who my family know and at the end of the day who i know as myself!!
CommentAuthorMrsHardy2be
I completely agree with what your saying, but for instance with me when I was pregnant I went from a size 10 to a 20, so I do really want to lose weight in general, I've only got 4 inches to go I just want to feel proud of the way I look, I've never had gd skin so I'm just trying to look my best, at the end of the day these are the pics that my grandkids will see
CommentAuthorsuzky123
WELL SAID MELODY :)
cant wait to be Mrs Evans less than 3 weeks woooo
start weight 10st 1.5 lbs
weight now 8st 4.5 lbs
total loss to date: 24.5 lbs now need to maintain!
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
MrsHardy2be, I was trying to loose weight to look good in my wedding dress and now I'm trying to loose weight so I can be referred for IVF, We're always trying to loose weight for something. What I'm trying to say with my post is don't put yourself under pressure just for one day and remember why we're getting married in the first place, because our men love us, love us the way we are x
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
5.11.11
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CommentAuthorLegoWife
Good post indeedy! We all want to look amazing on our wedding day, but we have to remember to enhance the beauty we have and show it off, rather than trying to change ourselves completely :)
~Wedding made of Lego~
*Married 30/03/13*
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
Oh Holly, you put it much better than I did lol!! x
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorkimmy
Well said Melody, lets have lots of positive thinking girls!!!
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
When I walk down in the aisle, in 5 weeks ahhhhh, I am going to look amazing because when we're happy we glow and feel amazing and we are going to be extremely happy, we're marrying men who love us unconditionally x
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorGazza 122
love it! xx
CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
aw this was a great post :)
i worry all the time about how i look and i really really want to lose wait and get rid of my bingo wings. i panic about looking at the wedding photos and picking faults with everything and ending up hating myself for not trying enough :( but every time i want to lose wait i eat more CRAP!!! and when i want to get fit, i move less!!! lol all my own fault
my aunt keeps telling me that i can't lose wait coz my dress fits me now!!! that has taken the pressure off a little, but i also have problem skin. it's not very bad, but to me it feels like evveryone in the world is looking at my 'imperfections'
anyhoooooo i think the moral of the story is that if we stress out too much, then it takes it's toll on us mentally and physically
I'M MARRIED!!!
I am now Mrs Bananaman!!!!
13/09/2012 in Peyia Town Hall, Cyprus
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I've just been looking at your pictures and you look incredible in your dress, absolutely beautiful!!!
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
5.11.11
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CommentAuthorpennieb-MrsRiley
Excellent post Melody! I have to admit that I have lost weight since we got engaged, about 2 1/2 stone in total, but I had already started on that journey because I waasn't happy with the weight I had gotten to before we got engaged. I've had highlights put in my hair, but that's a usual thing for me over the summer - only difference this year is that I'm leaving them in until after the wedding before going dark. I have pretty good skin and great nails already, so haven't been worried about that at all. But more than that, when I chose my dress, I chose one that felt right and those who have seen it so far have all said that it's very me, and I'm going for understated hair, makeup, jewellery etc, because that's the type of person I am. My MOH has said throughout my planning that everything about this wedding, even my attitude towards planning it, has been completely in character, and I'm hoping that as a result we will have a great day that is special without us feeling overwhelmed by it all :)
Now, finally, Mrs Riley
I hope you don't mind that I put down in words
How wonderful life is while you're in the world
I have the greatest husband!
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I don't think it's wrong for anyone to prepare for their wedding by loosing weight or doing a new beauty regime, I have done it myself and I still am I just think people shouldn't put so much pressure on themselves to do so. You've done it the right way hun, a wedding about yourself and your h2b and not people who you think you should be just for one day. xx
Remember as soon as you put on your wedding dress, you'll look amazing. Doesnt matter what size you are, what your hair or make up looks like, if you have a spot, you'll look incredible. Its your wedding day, your going to be on cloud 9, glowing, radiant, happy and LOVED!! xx
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorloustew2012
love your post melody. i got really really upset the day b4 i tried and chose my dress cos i was afraid i wouldnt find the dress and i would loook stupid etc. but i listened to what my mum said and i just play it in my mind when i think and get down.
1. i have a medical condition so the weight issue is not my fault, im not a lazy person i dont eat bad so i shouldnt get upset 2. the right dress is there for me if it takes time it takes time and i will be beautiful and it will fit 3. h2b marrying me not cos of the way i look but because of who i am. 4. stop moaning ha ha ha
so theres my wee list of things to remember when i worry bout certain things.
xx
All the ways of my life id rather be with you.
Theres no way without you.
10.11.12
CommentAuthorMrsKisywisy
thanks melody :) i feel like a princess in it
we will all look like princesses
...even if we don't lose that couple of pounds, or get a massive imperfection on the day!!!
I'M MARRIED!!!
I am now Mrs Bananaman!!!!
13/09/2012 in Peyia Town Hall, Cyprus
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I love your list!
I'm exactly the same, I have a medical condition which does not help my weight. Its not because I'm a lazy lard and everyone at my wedding knows this so when they see me in my dress I know not for a moment will any of them think "she could of at least tried to loose weight" Plus, my dress has amazing boning that gives me an incredible waist lol you just need to find the right dress for your body shape, whatever your shape may be. Even if your a size 10 not all dresses look right on you, so no one should feel bad if they have to try loads on to get it right. And your h2b is marrying you and loves you and every lump bump curve and bulge! xxx
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
5.11.11
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CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
You look like a princess in it hun, you look really comfortable and confident in it. Perfect!
Getting married is such a big thing, we have to wear amazing dresses, tidy up our hair, have decent make up, pose for pictures, we have to look good, granted but we don't have to big ourselves in to a pit trying to do so :-)
xx
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
5.11.11
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CommentAuthorMummy Geri
ALL brides are beautiful :) xx
bride-to-be Geri
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
We need like buttons like facebook! x
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
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CommentAuthorMummy Geri
was thinking that when I was sccrolling down some of these comments <3 x
bride-to-be Geri
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I wonder if my h2b would still love me if he walked in and saw me right now..
His rugby shirt, my wedding shoes, hair in a pineapple lol and no make up.. awesome! x
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
5.11.11
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CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
well said! all brides will look lovely! its not every day we all step out in some make up and a big white/ivory dress! lol
Im a bit worried cos i dont have it in my budget for someone to do my hair and makeup but then who better to know how it all works than myself! i have bad skin and frizzy thick hair and a belly from having 4 children but i love me and so does my fiance and thats why we r getting married, not to show off 2 everyone how good i can look if i put myself through hell 4 a year! lol thats just not worth it 2 me!
its all about playing 2 our strengths and like gok says dressing for our shape! im a pear so A line it is! X
As the beatles say, Love Is All You Need x
CommentAuthorParisianbelle
Also I think we'll all be so happy on the day that we won't care that whether our hair stays perfect or if our bums look big lol We'll just be happy that we're marrying the men we love! I also find that a smile instantly makes people look better :-) I'm soo excited for my wedding!! x
CommentAuthorMummy Geri
I have went down from a 36dd to a 36c after having my 2 kids and they are really the only thing that get me :'( . cant afford a boob job and h2b doesnt like fakies (so he says :P) . sorry just thought about insecurities. padded gel bras ladies :P x x
bride-to-be Geri
CommentAuthorloustew2012
awwww just got a soppy comment from h2b there...
told him roughly what we were talking about and he said "listen ive seen u at your best and ive seen you at your worse, end of the day if i wasnt happy you wouldnt be lying there and we wouldnt be planning our wedding!"
i told him stop being soppy and get in the kitchen and make the tea pmsl!!!!!
All the ways of my life id rather be with you.
Theres no way without you.
10.11.12
CommentAuthorFutureMrsPite
i hate bras that r too padded as it makes me feel like they dont fit properly and i might fall out! lol i dont have big/pert breasts but i always find that wedding dresses have the curves there in the right places and always make u look quite well rounded in that area! just get a good bra and a stunning dress and dont be ashamed of what u have, be proud of it x
As the beatles say, Love Is All You Need x
CommentAuthorMummy Geri
aww thats a nice thing to say :) . yeah or could always wear my....night lingerie, underneith xx
bride-to-be Geri
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
My fav saying
"if you dont love me at my worst you dont deserve me at my best"
xx
All of my dreams come true the day I married you, Mr Walker
5.11.11
Remember Remember The 5th of November
CommentAuthorMummy Geri
thats what marilyn monroe (kinda) said aswell- "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." — Marilyn Monroe
bride-to-be Geri
CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
Fabulous post Melody. Like you said, why change for the wedding when they obviously love you the way you are.
Our wedding day - 6 October 2012
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
am not too bothered about loosinw eight just need to tone my back up cos i have back fat wen dress is tight lol
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorRoxy
Lovely post girls, and well deserved too! We are women, just human at the end of the day, and we have a man, who has chosen us to want to spend the rest of thier lifes with! And that's after seing us first thing in the morning, acting like crazy women at 'that' time of the month, for me and any mummy brides out there, my fiance has seen me give birth! and he still wants me after seing that, if anything he loves me more after that! I fret about losing weight, growing my hair etc and my fiance always says don't be worrying about it, I KNOW you will look stunning. And you know what he is right, I will becuase I will be grinning like a cheshire cat :D I want to lose weight but I'm doing to for myself, I have lost 10 pounds so far and feel so amazing for it. And my fiance is happy that I'm happy, and have just that little bit more confidence about myself :)
CommentAuthorOct12bride86
I have horrendous self confidence issues and body image issues; always have since being 13. I have always been on the chunky side except just before I left school I dropped to about a size 6 and my prom dress had to be taken in 3 days before prom... disaster...
I know for a fact I will hate the wedding photo's because I am not photogenic in the slightest. I always seem to have a bouble chin or something. I know what Im like and I cant win; I pick faults all the time and it upsets H2B because to him I am perfect the way I am. Jokingly he said I could do with bigger boobs (im a 32F lol how big does he want them).
Kirsty xxx
Was 14 st now 11st 10lb
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
well dont laugh girls i was a size 26 got down to a 12-14 but since meetin h2b gone upto a 14-16 thtas why i need to loose at bit
Engaged 27th November 2010
Hen Do Newcastle 2nd June 2012
Marrying the man of my dreams 11th August 2012!
Honeymoon To Jamaica 14th October 2012
CommentAuthorRoxy
Well done for losing the weight in the first place, just shows that if you really want something you can achieve it :)
32F sounds big enough to me lol! Certainley bigger than my 34B's :( I wish they were bigger but h2b loves them and says they are a a nice handful lol!
CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I didn't manage to lose the weight I wanted before the big day due to lots of stress I was under and I had a pre shoot and hated the way I looked. On the day non of that mattered and I didn't think once anything bad. I just enjoyed myself and got married to the man of my dreams. It is so easy to get wrapped up in things that don't really matter and on the day you just don't care or think about them. You are right though they already asked you to marry them so you shouldn't have to change as they love you for who you are already.
