Ok so I initially we booked 10 rooms at the hotel for guests and we have also arranged a coach there and back. NOW the hotel is fully booked and the only people with rooms are one of my bms and her man and the rest is H2Bs family....who stay closer than all of my family..... I dont understand why they are all staying over.
They have taken up the whole room allocation and theres none left...I have friends coming from England and a good 2/3 hour drive from the hotel who will have no room now....there is a hotel over the road but its £139 a night as opposed to £90....
Panicking and a little bit disgruntled that his family (who actually arent his family at all - just mums friends he calls "aunts and uncles") have all the rooms. I didnt realise they were all stayin over!! If I say anything to my man he'll get ar5ey with me because I cannot dare mention anything even vaguely derogatory or vaguely negative about these people without him going nuts. Most of the time it is fine but now there are no rooms I am worried some of my guests wont come to the wedding. HELP!!!
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CommentAuthorHa_x3
Hmmm cant you try compramising with your H2B hun? Surely his 'family' could give up 1 or 2 rooms for your family/friends? xx
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CommentAuthormillz090
Did you specify who the rooms were for? You cant really blame them if they didnt know not to book them. Can you other guests stay at the hotel over the road?
We only have 21 rooms at our hotel and sending out invites to family first then sending it out to friends a few weeks later so family have a chance to book the rooms first but it will be first come first served as im doing getting involved in the politics of organising them all out xxx
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Its hard because if I say even the tiniest little thing about them he goes nuts. He is really over protective because he only has his mother and no other real relatives in his life so he counts these people as family, but theres hunners of them! The only room I have booked is for me and my bms :-/
I phoned the hotel and apparently there is a group provisional booking - so that is still to be confirmed, Im first on the waiting list for anymore rooms so its not too bad. It is annoying though, we are going to be constantly surrounded by this lot who to be honest are really really decent folk but incredibly pretencious :-/
It might not be so bad if everyone can fit on the coach theres cheaper hotels elsewhere too I suppose. I just am a bit peeved off theyve taken all the rooms and havent even thought about me.
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CommentAuthorPB
O'h thats a tricky one-i know with our venue we only have 12 rooms but most people live locally so shouldn't need one.However to make sure excatly this doesn't happen our venue asks guests to book rooms through me so that i can make sure those that need one get one.Its a shame your venue doesn't do this. I think if your guests really want to come they will pay the extra although i can understand why you are worried as £139 is quite steep on top of everything else they will have paid for.Maybe if there is a few of them you could negotiate a discount with the other hotel for a block booking? How many are likely to be affected if it is just a few is there any way that the money can be found in the budget to pay the difference yourselves? Do these 'unwanted guests' live at the coach drop off destination? If so i think its a bit off them taking up rooms when some people have no choice but to stay over.If i were you i would contact them and say that "Due to oversubscription you are going to be moved to the other hotel and i am afraid its going to be more expensive.We quite understand if you feel that is too much to pay and we can arrange for transport back for you on the coach".Then reallocate the rooms to your 'prefererred guests' xxx
See the thing is we booked 10 rooms when we booked the venue but H2Bs mother has been phoning and booking them for people who I had no idea would be staying at the hotel - they live closer to it than we do! So now the allocation of rooms is full and no one told me. I only really need 2/3 but she has booked 9 of them and phoned to tell H2B the hotel is full. Nevermind telling us that the nine rooms were taken (I knew about the one my bms took and I booked a triple for the night before the wedding)
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CommentAuthormillz090
Im not sticking up for them as fell sorry for you honey but they probably didnt realise how many rooms there were and how many they were allowed to book.... they have thought about you as coming to YOUR day but maybe didn't realise about the rooms and im sure if you mention you are some rooms short they may change?! xxx
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CommentAuthorkrissy905
what about asking the hotel over the road about discount for large group booking i have worked in a few hotels who would do things like that if they know the rooms will be booked and payed for inadvance . xx
CommentAuthorCaitlinD
I would just tell him at least 5 of the rooms you are entitled to as you have equally important, if not more important people coming too that deserve a room! xx
CommentAuthorKat
is there not a travelodge, or something similar close by that would still work out cheaper, even with taxi fairs?
CommentAuthorKaz
I'm afraid I'd stand up and argue the fact!
If they live closer than others they shouldn't get first choice of rooms, end of! Can you not say anything to his Mum? Check how many you need first, then say to her that you were very hurt that people who live miles away can't come as the those closest have booked all the rooms and you're having to share your bridesmaids!!!
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
We've just had a big argument cos he says my people should've phoned and booked. He doesn't see it the way I do, he is angry at me because his mum is cryin now apparently, nevermind me. He just shouted and said he is havin no more to do with it. I feel so shitty cos I don't have anyone I can phone about it and he is in a foul mood now and acting as if it's my fault. This is so rubbish, I've been so excited all week and now we've had a row for the first time in ages. I don't even want to sit with him now and he hasn't bothered to see if I'm ok. Not amused at all :-(
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CommentAuthorJanie
sorry to say it nut i get the impression that she DID know how many rooms there were! Yup, i would say very pretentious!
as for not being to able to say anything to hubby to be - hmmm that doesnt sound good at all!
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
It's horrible cos we never fight these days and everything has been good for ages but when it comes to his family, I can't say a word without it turning into a massive argument :-(
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CommentAuthorJanie
me and my ex hubby were just like that, his mother wa the worst woman i have ever met in my life, tried to take over EVERYTHING, even used to phone at 9 am sunday, with no notice, and say "we're all coming for dinner have it ready at 12 prompt, we want beef, carrots, peas, gravy etc"
I couldnt say a word against his mother or other ffamily, they were so rude and arrogant.
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CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
He is reasonable and supportive over anything else but his family are right all the time and I'd better not argue with that. Well I might just go to sleep tonight and not speak to him. I'm not going to try and make up with him. He isn't makin this fight my fault.
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CommentAuthorlows
Hun, did you send out invites with the hotel info in it? if so I'm really sorry but your family should have booked sooner, however if your h2b family have gone and booked all the rooms prior to the invites going out and they havent gone through you then you are perdectly entiltled to flip out. If the 2nd is true and the invites didnt have the hotel details and they havent paid a deposit just cancel their rooms and explain to h2b family that you needed to spilt the 10 rooms equally between bride and groom. End of story!!!!
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
wen i book my venue i told them i wanted at elast 20 rooms, u need to tell ure venue ure weddin shdu cum first!!!
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CommentAuthorBrideInTraining
aww :( hope you sort things out maybe when hes calmed down he might see it from your point of view xx
CommentAuthorRockabilly chick
Hey we sorted it out, he apologised and made me feel better :-) apparently there are 3 twin rooms available still - she booked them just incase they were taken?!! Hmmmm possibly not the case but hopefully 3 rooms should cover it. If not then the hotel over the road will have to do for someone....
