Wedding Forum - Uh Oh!...

Hi girl's, I hope your all doing well and your wedding plans are coming along nicely..

H2b and I are thinking about changing our date, we are going to speak to the vicar and venue tomorrow to see what the options are but right now we are looking at bringing it forward to end of September.

We've had some real negative comments made about the date we have booked and although it's just something silly it's really knocked the confidence out of me and well, we'd just like to do it sooner anyway!

I've had a look online and spoke to a few people and from the feedback I've had the weather is always lovely at the end of September, not too hot, not too cold and not very likely to rain BUT it's the British weather you can never tell!

Hopefully everyone and everything we have booked are happy to change but if not we may end up putting it back till next April.

We'll stick with the midnight blue colour scheme but may add pink to brighten it up slightly and everything else will stay the same, we may just have to take the stars off the invites I have made and replace them with something else, maybe a butterfly but I'm sure everything will work somehow!

What do you girls think about us changing??


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I think it's entirely up to you. November has the potential for cool crisp days as much as September has the potential for sun.

Right now I really don't want to keep the date the same and if we can't bring it forward we will just postpone it. I've had some great plans for that date and been really excited about it but so many people have put a downer on things, I just can't deal with it anymore. Friday the wedding was cancelled where it all got so much! It wasnt untill H2B suggested changing the date that I decided we are going through with it still lol

u know whats best hun

We originally wanted the saturday before christmas and have the whole winter wonderland theme but the venue didn't have the dates available, the closest we could get was the 5th November or then summer.. as I love firework night I went for it. Regret it now though, it doesn't really mean that much to us anyway and I'm sick of everyone moaning. I've even been told h2b's great uncle won't be able to come as he doesn't like the cold! :-(

The more I think about having it in September the more I love idea, we're looking at either the 17th or 24th but will have to check with everyone first. I don't want to get my hopes up though!

It's not just other people moaning that's made us want to change though, I think them moaning has just made me think about it properly and it's made me realise the date just isn't right for us.

All we've had is grief from people and I hate wedding planning. We said if we change the date it'll be like a fresh start, the moaners can get stuffed and it'll be my way or the highway kinda thing

Really don't know what to do.. I'm back to feeling like just cancelling it all again. Never been so confused. Hate hate hate wedding planning

Do what you want to do = ) it'll be your wedding/anniversary not everyone elses! xx

u picked that date for a reason hun x we all have our doubts about things god i have them every bloody day, but u have put so much into it and spent so much to now throw it all away and have to start buyin and changing colours is gonna be one big pain and expense in the arse x

i would move mine forward but i would'nt pospone again. if anything happens other than death or tragic illness and we have to postpone i wont bother gettin married.
ive had a headache and stress for a yr allready and still got a yr to go no-way am i adding more time to stress worry and have others complainin for anyone x

well first off try not to worry about it anymore tonight there nothing u can do at this time, apart from go knock the vicker and venue place up lol,

so get ya self to bed and tomorrow ring them inquire if it would be possible, then take it from there. your stressin and gettin yourself all worked up and u literaly cant do anything right now.

so see what they say tomorrow if they say no can do then stick with what u have.
if they say they can pull it forward then good u can still keep planning and sorting things out.
if they say no and u still dont want that date then you'll have to postpone :-( but if thats goin to make u happier hun then thats what u need to do ok xxxxx

hugs xx

owww bless ya good night hun xxx let me know how u get on tomorrow when u ring em good luckxx

im getting married 29th of october! 2bh whether didnt even come into it for me I think if people really want to be there they will :D i live in glasgow so chance of sunny shts are minimal at any time of the year lol but you can always choose an nice indoor spot for photos... for example im hoping the city of chamber will let me get some photos on their grand staircase :D

you do what YOU and h2b want hun at the end of the day its your day xxx

i put stick with 5th November as its obvious it was the day u wanted otherwise u wouldnt of booked it do what makes u and H2B happy not what will make everyone else happy its ur day not theres x

I really don't know what to do anymore. It's 7 months away and I'm already having nightmares about it, I hate it. I hate the planning, I hate the stress. I know I can't please everyone and that it should be done to how h2b and I want it but I don't even know what I want anymore.

I think we might cancel. It's just getting too much now

we were originally going for september, as i love that month, lovely weather normally and very autumnal, but we went for august in the end, but you have to do what is best for you. :) x

woah slow down and dont do anything rash. You chose that date for a reason melody, dont worry about what others say, its your day hun x

It's not a rash decision. We've been thinking about changing, cancelling for a while now, It's all just been far too much stress. I hate it! We only picked that date because it's what they had available and I like firework night, if I had sat and thought about it I would of picked summer but I didn't think about it properly and I've just kept telling myself its what we want to make it easier x

I've just read all your posts. You must be going through a rollercoaster of emotions honey. I think max is right you need to take time out and think about it all rationally. At the end of the day all you need is you and your H2b. Planning weddings has got to be one of the most stressful things especially if you don't like planning things. I'm sure deep down you do care if it goes ahead but you sound so upset right now. I really feel for you. If its any consolation we are getting married October next year smack bang in the middle of illumination season in Blackpool and I know we are not going to please everybody but we are going with the flow.

ps your date sounds amazing! x

Take time out first, maybe you and h2b go for a walk and clear your heads! Discuss the reasons why you both chose the original date. If all the reasons for choosing that date are still there and you are only changing to please others, then don't change. However if your reasons for picking the original date have changed and the idea of the new date is much more appealing then go for it. You need to do all the pro's and cons for each and go from there.

p.s Your little girl is absolutely gawguuuus! Oh I get all clucky when I see newborns. xxx