I have a little problem with my mum, I know she means well and she is only trying to help but I honestly feel like she is trying to take over the wedding. She has recently come into some money and has offered to pay for some of the wedding which don't get me wrong I am really grateful for but now because she is contributing I think she thinks its her wedding too lol. I am trying to think of a way to tell her basically that although I like her to have an input cause shes very logical about everything the final decision is mine and my H2b's but I really don't want to hurt her feelings or upset her. I just don't know what to do.....

Yeah, that sounds about right I'll-be-36. She has already mentioned she doesn't want to lose me (I'm moving to the other end of the country in May) I think she's just getting into a mad panic really, bless her x

Awhh bless you Barbra, I wouldn't tell her either! Lol. When I get married I'll only be 21, I'm more grown up than most 21 year olds though, I think so anyways haha x

We don't have a cupboard under the stairs :/ dammit! I'm one of two daughters but I'm the eldest and the first to get married, I can imagine my little sister will have a much easier time x

Oh gosh, I don't think I could deal with that! I'm the first of my friends to get married too so it's all very new and exciting x

Thank honey :)

Barbara my younger brother was the first to get married there about 7 years ago and one day before the wedding my sis in law said to me im asking your mum to organise the bus. I said seriously dont she will be telling you what to do over everything if you do that.So my mum comes into the room and she says "I want you to organise the bus" I just stood there and dragged my fingers across my throat as a demonstration lol. My sis in law says to me afterwards "What's the problem with me giving your mum something to organise?" I just said "because pretty soon she will be taking over your whole wedding and I'm not joking!"

Next day my mum calls her and says come down I want to show you the bus prices. so my sis in law comes to the house. My mum has all these material samples on the table, pictures of cakes etc and she says "Now I've decided that I don't like your choice of cake so here are cakes that I think are better". I just walked off saying "Goodluck!"

I have three brothers and I'm the only girl myself but I know for a fact that I can't let my mum book one thing as she will take over. Yeah I agree though that sometimes they are right, but just sometimes :-) by the way I'm 34 and will be 36 when I get married hence the name and my mum is still trying her best to have control and we live in two separate countries so I don't think it's an age thing at all.

Hey cheeky my son is older than you in fact I have shoes older than you lol x

couldyou give her something that she can make the decision over ..... favours maybe ?

Oh dear Tatty I do feel for you, but I do think you need to just gently remind her everything has to have your final opinion. I had the same with future in laws thinking they could take people off my guestlist as they are contributing to the reception. Fiance just told them no it's not happening and they seem to be ok about it now :) Everything will sort itself out.

Yeah, when my fiance said that to my future in laws his mother didn't talk to us for like a week or so, then she calmed down and now we are fine x

I had to say this to my mum - I said: "Mum, I love you and I REALLY love your input but when it comes to final decisions, I will have what I want to have! Stop fussing me woman!" It was polite but I tried to make it into a bit of a joke. She didn't take it too badly all things considering and she has been much better recently :)