One thing I have noticed across these forums is just how many problem people seem to be having with their in-laws:(. I admit my h2b's parents can be frustrating at times, like the fact that his dad never visits his son and grand-daughter, nor lets us vist him, but I keep reminding myself that although he is only going to be my father-in-law he is still my h2b's dad so no matter how he annoy's me I just have to keep my distance and let my h2b deal with any problems.
The same works in reverse, my parents are obviously my h2b's in-laws and IKNOW they wind him up. They sent years comparing him to my ex which ended in one big arguement. It goes almost without saying how much I love my parents but again I often have to remind myself that they are my prents not my h2b's so he is likely to feel differntly towards them.
All this in mind we have agreed that the best thing to do regards our wedding plans etc is to let me deal with an problems brought on by my family and for h2b to deal with his family. Luckily we don't expect many problems to arise from parents, its our siblings that are causing the trouble. For instanse my brother has cut ties with our family recently after we called the RSPCA on him for not looking after his dogs properly (long story), and my h2b's sister is already moaning because she hasn't had a 'save the date' yet even though our wedding isn't til 2013 so therefore haven't sent any out as we feel its too early, but in her mind that means she's not invited!!!

any, I hope anyone who is unforntuately having in-law troubles manage to resolve issues enough to be able to enjoy their day......I know I will be making it clear that anyone who causes problems either before or on the day WILL be ommited, it's our day and no one is going to ruin it, TROUBLE-MAKERS BEWARE!!! :)

families hey!!!
we currently aren't talking to my brother (and his wife) and can't see his kids. We also don't talk to h2b step-mum as she's the reason we never see his dad....although its better since I stepped in and gave her a piece of my mind :)
We aren't expecting h2b grandad to turn up, even though we have never had a falling out, he just doesn't have the best memory these days and has been known to drive totally in the wrong direction to get somewhere.
One of my sisters is aggraphobic (can't go outdoors) so travelling the 100+ miles to get to us my not be possible, however she has recently got a job in a shop for 2 hours a week which is not much to most people but could be life changing for her if she can stick to it so our fingers are crossed. She said she is focussed on being with us for the day so thats really good for her as well as us.
we also have a few people who have catagorically been told their partners will not be invited. so all in all we aren't doing to badly lol. at least we are keeping the food costs down :)

My problems my mum and his snobby sister but I'm quite prepared to uninvite the lot of them and I said on another thread my new motto is "My Day...... My Way!!!"

We've had so many problems with husband's mother. In fact, she's so poisonous we didn't invite her to the wedding. Oh and because of this she decided to row with me on the phone and tell me that she wishes I would have a car crash and die!!! Lovely woman - not!!! We've now cut her out of our lives completely - but she still tries to pop up now and again. She thought it was funny on fb the other night (we're not friends with her but brother in law is a mutual friend of all of us). She tried tagging some of the wedding pics via bil's profile - by been childish and vindictive about us and her ex husband. Stupid cow didn't realise that the pics are from Gav's profile so he has to approve any tags!!! Mmmm guess what - they DIDN'T get tagged lol. I can see her been reported and losing her account soon lol. She was probably pi***d as usual.

Luckily his dad and step mum are wonderful so I've still got great in laws. My parents are okay and husband gets on with them as well

why do some parents pick favourites :( My H2B is the same....black sheep of the family. His mum even admitted she couldn't care less about him when he was a kid and let him do what he wanted. He's now 28 and is now looking to go back and do his GCSE's, only problem is that the govenment have cut funding for that so we have to pay £500 per subject which we simply can't afford but without GCSE'S he can't join the police force like he's always wanted :(
If only his mum had bothered with him more and kept him in school.....mind you tbh she is making up for it now after they had a sit down and heart to heart.