Ok so heres the story, my daughter was born in 2008 and was 13 weeks early. she tragically passed away at 8 days old from being premature and having problems. The date we are thinking of is her 5th birthday which only leaves us with a year and 3 months to plan and save. The family say its totally do able and we can pull off an amazing day for me and h2b. Is It wrong to want my special day on her birthday? I think its a great tribute to my little angel. What does everyone else think? Am i being selfish by having my day on her birthday? xxx
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
I'm sure your daughter will love to see her parents celebrating on her 5th birthday- I think its a lovely tribute. You could even tie it in with charity favours for a premature charity/ special care baby unit at a hospital.
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CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
I think that is a wonderful idea.
Cant wait to to marry Martyn
Wishes the wedding would come faster
XxX
CommentAuthorNuttytart
Yes a nice tribute, wonderful idea.
CommentAuthorMrsNorton-Cuthbert2B
my h2b isnt my daughters father lol, i had alot of problems with her dad and we had a difficult break up but now ive found what i know is the person im going to spend the rest of my life with. i suggested it to both familys and they both love the idea, i just wondered what everyone else thought and i wernt too sure xx
we also do alot of charity work atm for premature babies at the hospital where my daughter was and are in the process of setting up our own charity to offer support for parents who have had premature babies, things are going well with it and hopefully things will be up and running soon xx
CommentAuthorshellay
i think its a beautiful idea, i know you dont need anything to remind you of your daughter as you will always remember her, but do dedicate your wedding day to her is a lovely idea, and i am sure she will be looking down on you on your day, enjoying the day with her, there are so many things that you can do to make her part of your day too, i think its lovely x
I have know my soulmate for 27 years and on the 6th August
I married him and became Mrs Garnham.
It was most definitely the happiest day of my life.
I love married life !!!!
CommentAuthorlinzi
I think its a great day to have your wedding! it will turn what is normally a sad day into a celebration, to celebrate your daughter and your wedding. I think its lovely.
My H2B's neice was born at 5 months, and weighed 1lb 4oz! We were lucky though. She is our wee miracle girl. xx
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CommentAuthormomari
i cant do like that .too much mixed emotions on this day.i not so strong.(my son died from cot dead 3 weeks old)
CommentAuthorMrsNorton-Cuthbert2B
im sooo sorry to hear that momari. its tragic losing a child. I know there will be a couple of sad moments i.e wishing that my little girl was here to be apart of my day but i also know she will be looking down on me and be proud. xx
CommentAuthorprincess_alicia
so sorry to read that momari xxxxx
Mrs Norton-Cuthbert2 i think its a fab idea bless you xxxx
CommentAuthorMrsNorton-Cuthbert2B
Thank you so much princess_alicia, it means alot xxx
CommentAuthorangelan1986
Aww yeah I think that is a lovely idea but only if you feel you will be strong enough, as momari says it can be pretty horrendous coming up to anniversaries but if its something you want to do then why not, and your h2b sounds so supportive too, your very lucky :O) xx
CommentAuthorMrsPink
I think its a very fantastic idea what a way too celebrate her life... She would be looking down so proud that you and your h2b are becoming husband and wife. What a fab birthday present <3 x
CommentAuthorMrs Steer
sorry to hear that momari xx
im sure ur daughter would be so pleased to see u happy and i agree it will be celebrating her and ur day :) its a lovely idea xx
Is now happily married to my gorgeous man
11-06-11
CommentAuthorMrs fairytale
i think that it is a lovely idea hun, she will be with u every year when u celebrate your love for each other (i know she is with u every day as well) i got the shivers when i read this post xxxx
cant wait to renew my vows, love my hubby sssssooooo much xx
CommentAuthorloubie100
That is a lovely thing to want to do x
CommentAuthorgrumpyoldmoo
My daughter Fiona was born on 7th August 1988 and passed away to Cot Death on 1st December 1988. When I married the first time we got married on what would have been Fiona's 3rd birthday I think its a wonderful and loving tribute to your angel xxx
CommentAuthorRoxy_Blade
I love that idea. You could also have birthday balloons at the ceremony and instead of a wedding cake make it a birthday cake :)
CommentAuthorChrissy
So sorry to hear about such a tragic loss to both you ladies but, I think a tribute to her is a wonderful, loving and really meaningful thing to do. What a special birthday/wedding memory xxxx xxxx
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CommentAuthorRachie :D
Im so sorry to hear about all your losses and hope that what ever day you chose it will be magical xxxx
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CommentAuthorCowChop
I'm so sorry to hear that. I think it is a lovely idea hun. x
CommentAuthorsarahwasabride
not selfish at all hun i think its really lovely xxxx
CommentAuthorlozzer50
i think it is a wonderful idea xxx
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
lovely idea :0) xx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I'm sorry to hear of your loss but I think that what you are doing is a wonderful idea and it is not selfish at all. You are thinking of your daughter and you want to share your special day with her. That in my book is more sharing and giving than selfish. It is totally doable in your time scale so stop thinking and start doing! x x
CommentAuthorsbride
That is a wonderful idea hun. Im sure you will feel your daughters presence alot stronger on your wedding day as it will be her birthday aswell. She will be a beautiful little angle watching over your day x ps we only had 1 year 5 months and we have done most of our stuff so its certainly possible x
I am now Mrs Stacey Stiles and loving it!
CommentAuthorChezza
As a mother and grandmother and working on a busy maternity unit where we see the effects of a neonatal death, I think it is a beutiful tribute and away of keeping your daughters memory alive xxx
CommentAuthorsbride
Chezza, i work on a maternity unit to, is it hell at yours at the mo, coz it is at mine?? Was just wondering if everyone is in the same position?
I am now Mrs Stacey Stiles and loving it!
CommentAuthornickers
Aw im so sorry to heat of both u ladies losses I filled up reading this I think it's a lovely idea chic big hugs to u xxxx
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CommentAuthorKerrylou
I'm so sorry for your losses ladies, I can't even begin to imagine how heartbreaking it must be for you all. I think having your wedding day on your daughter's 5th birthday is a beautiful way to honour her memory, I'm sure there's one happy little angel up in heaven ;) xxx
It's right what they say
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CommentAuthorAldridge2B
I think this is a beautiful idea and not selfish but a lovely day to remember her x x
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
So sorry about your little angels, girls <3 I think using your special day to honour her memory is a wonderful thing to do, why shouldn't you try to incorporate her into your day, she can still be a part of it even if she can't be there!
That way, she gets the birthday any little princess would dream of, and you get a wedding day that will always be doubly special for you because she can be a part of it.
Got married 27th June and blessed on July 5th 2012
Finally Mrs M :3
Love, love... Here we are.
CommentAuthorlemlau
i think that is a lovely idea! 2 reasons to celebrate a special day! she may not of been with you for long but she will always be in your heart and its a beautiful way to spend the day !!!
xxx
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CommentAuthorRoxy_Blade
I found this and thought of you:
To the Child in my Heart
O precious tiny sweet little one you will always be to me, so perfect, pure and innocent just as you were meant to be. We dreamed of you and of your life and all that it would be, we waited and longed for you to come and join our family. We never had the chance to play, to laugh, to rock to wiggle, we long to hold you, touch you now and listen to you giggle. I will always be your mother, he'll always be your dad, you will always be our child, the child that we had. But now you're gone...but yet you're here, we'll sense you everywhere, you are our sorrow and our joy, there's love in every tear. Just know our love goes deep and strong, we'll forget you never. The child we had, but never had and yet we'll have forever.
CommentAuthorshellay
thats beautiful, brought a lump to my throat reading that x
I have know my soulmate for 27 years and on the 6th August
I married him and became Mrs Garnham.
It was most definitely the happiest day of my life.
I love married life !!!!
CommentAuthorWinterrose
:( this is such a touching thread my best friend and I were pregnant together last year and sadly her gorgeous boy died 2 days before she was due to be induced it's absolutely heartbreaking and I cannot begin to feel the loss that you have and feel so blessed to be one of the lucky ones.
I think it's a lovely tribute & will mean that your day is extra special to you both xx
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Henderson
So sorry for you both. I think this would be a wonderful to celebrate your love for each other and your daughter. I'm sure your day will be all the more special for sharing it with the rememberance of your daughter. Hope all goes well for you xx
CommentAuthormummyto2
im so sorry to hear of your loss, but i think its a lovely idea and such a touching thing to do
im a married women now
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i love my hubby and my kids with all my heart and soul
CommentAuthorKimi
Not sure how I'd cope, wishing you all the best and some sort of memorial type thing or speech being included sounds like a lovely thing to do.
I'm having someone mentioning my mum and grandad who both passed away of cancer in january this year. :)
The days are flying by, can't wait :)
CommentAuthorMrs Brakes
One of Scott's friends died recently playing a stupid game that went wrong. He was just 16! I was talking to his mum but didn't realised who she was and she said that the worse thing was that other parents avoid you because they don't know what to say. I told her that for me, it wasn't not knowing what to say more not wanting to have to think what she was going through or put yourself in her position and also feeling guilty because you still have your child. I can still get annoyed at Scott and shout at him for leaving wet towels on the floor. She said she would give anything to be able to shout at Harry again. I can't possibly imagine what it must feel like to lose a child (huge hugs and sympathies to those that have) and tbh I don't want to. If you are strong enough to remember your daughter on your wedding day and be happy then do it. I don't think it's selfish at all. x
Got married 11/11/11.
CommentAuthorgrumpyoldmoo
MzEden, Harry's mum is SO right about the other parents, believe me it's horrid having to add isolation to the list of all the other emotions that you're experiencing at the time. When Fiona passed away people that I though were friends would cross the other side of the street rather than have to speak to me, also because she died of a sudden death the police were involved ... so chinese whispers began. One girl I used to care about actually accused me of being a murderer and putting a pillow over my daughters face !!!!
Thank you ladies for your lovely messages, although my daughter passed away a long time ago, she is still very much a LARGE part of our family, and always will be ... we are undoubtedly including Fiona in our forthcoming wedding.
I would also like to say to MrsNorton-Cuthbert2B if you ever want someone to talk to sweetie, just give me a shout ok (( hugs to you and your angel ))
CommentAuthorlemlau
what you could do is have white and pink helium balloons and a note on some and release them after you are married for her. so in one way she will be watching over you the whole day!
xxx
Live every moment
Laugh everyday
Love beyond words
Happily ever after
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
I think its lovely hun, and im sure she will be with you in spirit. xx
CommentAuthorlkparfitt
i think its a lovely idea xxx
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
it sounds lovely and that is definitely enough time to plan xx
CommentAuthorsabs
I think its a lovely tribute to your daughter. x x x
