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    • AimeeM17
      CommentAuthorAimeeM17
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2014
     
    Hi :)
    My fiancé and I could do with a little input - we are starting to think about the attendants for our wedding and are considering doing something a little different but are unsure how it would go down with our guests, especially the more traditional ones....

    I am very close to my brother and would love for him to be a part of the bridal party as my 'man of honour', similarly my fiancé's best friend is his sister, so he would like her at his side as his 'best woman'.

    We can't imagine not having these very important people involved in our special day, and would like to acknowledge their importance to each of us specifically, rather than just have them in with the groomsmen or bridesmaids...what does everyone think about them being in roles traditionally given to the opposite sex?
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    • AlisonM36
      CommentAuthorAlisonM36
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2014
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    I think thats a lovely idea :) It is your day at the end of the day so its completely up to the both of you what you would like
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    • WelshBrideBethan2015
      CommentAuthorWelshBrideBethan2015
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2014
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    I'm having a ushermaid lol Basically H2B has 6 nieces and nephews who will be involved in the day and with the oldest being 21 and the next ages 10, 8 (twins) 5 and 4 so the wedding party is already pretty full ! He has a best man and I have my maid of honour but we didn't want another bridesmaid so I made the role of ushermaid who does some of the usher jobs yet help the MOH when organising hen etc

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    • GemmaB596
      CommentAuthorGemmaB596
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2014
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    I think it's a brilliant idea! It is your day to celebrate your love and to acknowledge those who are special to you. Do what will feel special to you, don't worry about tradition! I keep being told to have a 'hen night', but considering 90% of my closest friends are guys I don't see the point of a traditional hen night if most of the people I would want to celebrate with can't be there.
    Besides, remember that the day should be a celebration. Have fun with it! Tradition can be lovely but, if it's not 100% what you are happy with, then sticking to every tradition can start to feel a little bit stuffy and restricting.
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    • KayleighS46
      CommentAuthorKayleighS46
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2014
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    i think its a brilliant idea too!! my brother is very important to me and N2b has asled him to be his Usher - he only has a best man so it means a lot to me that hes being involved with the wedding when traditionally he wouldnt be xx

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    • Velcro
      CommentAuthorVelcro
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2014
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    stuff what other people think :)

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    • JennK
      CommentAuthorJennK
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2014
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    Definitely a fab idea!

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    • Elinor Claire
      CommentAuthorElinor Claire
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2014
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    It's up to you entirely. It's a lovely touch, you'll just have to consider exactly what roles they play. For example will your brother be able to share in the dress shopping and hair trials and that kind of thing? You'll need to create a role around him. You'll also have to think about the hen and stags, maybe you want to make them mixed gender or have a joint do.

    We've done the more expected thing of H2B's sister as a bridesmaid and my brothers as ushers, as that works well for us and includes them. H2B has a brother and best mate sharing best man, and as his sister is severely disabled being pushed in as part of the bridal procession is much better for her than sitting at the front with H2B, where she can't do anything. My brothers were groomsmen for each other, and ushering suits them much more than processing in, plus they'd have no idea what was needed.

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    • *KelBel*
      CommentAuthor*KelBel*
      Got married 6 years ago
      Posted: Jul 23rd 2014
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    I think it's brilliant! I've heard lots of ppl have like moh men and best women, so why not x

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    • Flossie
      CommentAuthorFlossie
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 24th 2014
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    I think it's a lovely idea - everyone is different and families can be so dynamic and complex these days.. it's hard to stick to 'tradition' even if you wanted to! Anything goes these days, as long as you have your day exactly how you want it then that's all that matters :) xx

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    • VictoriaL46
      CommentAuthorVictoriaL46
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Jul 24th 2014
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    I say to hell with tradition and do what you feel is RIGHT! It's your day and you can have whatever you want :D My best friend who is the closest thing to a proper sister (my biological sister and I are not close at all) is giving me away

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    • JennK
      CommentAuthorJennK
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      Posted: Jul 24th 2014
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    My brother is giving me away, my Dad will be attending but has very little to do with the day.

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    • BiancaS85
      CommentAuthorBiancaS85
      Posted: Feb 5th 2015
     
    Hi guys ... just wanted an opinion

    I have 3 sisters, oldest one had me as her bridesmaid. other 2 are not yet married. H2B has one sister. I would like to include them all in my bridal party along with a friend as my maid of honour. However this will lead to a big bridal party :(
    I was thinking of having my friend, H2B sister and my little sister as bridesmaids , as i am not very close to the middle one. I mean we talk and stuff but wouldnt hang out or anything. My oldest sister has a daughter and son and i am planning on asking them to be my flower girl and pageboy.

    I am however worried that my 2 sisters will be hurt and very upset with this decision. Any suggestions ?
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    • Emily17
      CommentAuthorEmily17
      Got married 3 years ago
      Posted: Feb 5th 2015
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    Love this idea. You will both be so much happier with the person your closest toand why not!

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    • EmmaG
      CommentAuthorEmmaG
      Got married 5 years ago
      Posted: Feb 7th 2015
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    Deffo agree with everyone to do it :) I'm having a bridal crew, 5 men and 5 women, all who have a role to play , i.e. meet and greet, music, video, e.t.c and one of my friends is conducting the ceremony , which is going to be hilarious ! Its good to not be a sheep and follow what everyone else does because of tradition , make your own traditions I say :)

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