Perhaps you should ask them when they are going away, then you'll know for sure. Also, have that actually booked anything...you need to speak to them sooner rather than later. Perhaps when everything is booked on Monday you could call them personally and let them know the date before sending out Save the Dates.

I really hope it works out for you in the end....fingers crossed x x

I'm just waiting on a phonecall to let me know when they're planning on going. I don't know if they've already booked it or not yet, I was too shocked on the phone to think of anything to say other than 'Oh...really?' and I'm scared to book now, in case they turn round and say 'Oh, sorry we're away then!' and it'll be too late to change the date. The weirdest thing is that they too are supposed to be getting married sometime soon, hence me and my auntie talking about weddings, and going on a megabucks holiday to Disneyland doesn't seem like something you do when you're saving for a wedding, we're only away this year as h2b got a job out here which is all to help our wedding budget!

Part of me feels like I should have been more obvious in my planning, maybe put giant flashing lights saying 'We're getting married in summer 2011!!!!' all over my fbook, and had our date tattooed on my face or something :( but we're trying to keep it small and simple - just family and close friends - so we didn't want to scream it at everyone as we're both quite low-key people... we're excited about our day, but keeping it as that...ours. Just thinking if I had been less reserved about displaying it then maybe this wouldn't have happened :(

We're getting married in Spain, and yes, it's only a small hotel so we only have enough rooms (just 4!) for the bridal party. We're researching accommodation at reasonable rates for everyone else and it's only a tiny village miles away from any touristy areas so it's all very reasonable (I'm not demanding everyone save £1000s for 5* hotels) but they still would have had to have a little bit of money for flights and things like that.

yeah, I guess the downside of marrying in June is generally people doing the holiday thing but honestly didn't think people would book before we did!

Wishing I did get that tattoo now - would ruin the wedding photos but at least nobody could have had an excuse for not knowing!

If they are planning to get married out there I will actually lose it - I know they have the right to do whatever they like but they've had their eyes set on a place near their town for months now... and that would totally be unfair seeing as I did set my date first and I am actually officially engaged (full package, date, ring, going dress shopping soon) whereas he hasn't actually asked her yet... they're just sort of planning a wedding for when he does ask her and she assumes it will be soon... as far as I know they don't have a date yet! We've been engaged for ages, been planning officially since November so tbh, I'd be really annoyed if they just whisked off to the States with my cousins and my nana (who is the only candidate to give me away, I was going to ask her a week on Monday when we go dress shopping), stole my date and basically ruined my careful planning!

Oh now I'm even more worried :(

I'm with Hails, maybe they are getting married in Disney?

Even so this is very very unfair to you and your h2b esp as they have asked your nan to go as well. They really should have asked you when your wedding date was and left their holiday until they were sure everyone could afford to go to both your wedding and their holiday.

Hope you get it sorted hun x

I think you are being acceptable in being upset about this situation. Ok so you can't expect everyone of your family to drop everything for your wedding but there are limits and I believe that family (esp if they close) should be respectful and thoughtful to your wishes. They must realise that this is a very big and important day to you x

Hope you get it sorted out, just relax until you find out more info x

Thanks everyone for all your replies :) You're all so lovely and helpful!

We've told pretty much everyone the date we wanted, which is the date we've asked for... we were going to wait until everything was definitely booked and we were definitely having that date before telling everyone just to avoid confusion.. and that day is Monday! I should have known that something would happen this close to having everything sorted. I know that the news has gotten around because I've had lots of people who we didn't tell congratulating and asking about the wedding on fbook.

I'm trying to get more information and trying not to flip out too bad just yet - it's just really worrying me about all the 'what ifs'.

I got my exam results back today as well, haven't had time to feel good about that yet as I just want to know what's going on and will have to chat with the h2b about possibly changing the date... I'm sure he'll be fine with it, but we picked the day we did because it's the best time to do it - after h2b's birthday, after I finish uni for the summer, after we move house, before the summer months and resit periods at university and best weather for a wedding at that time of year and everyone's kids will be finishing school so we know they can bring their children and it's the cheapest summer month to travel. We could probably move it about a week back, which could make a lot of difference but could also be no better seeing as their holiday is 3 weeks long!
We can't really have July as it's just too hot here by then and August is when the village fiestas are on in this area so we won't be able to use the church and chances of booking a florist or dj or anything like that becomes impossible as they are all booked up for fiestas (up to 2 yrs in advance) or not working during the month as that's when the Spanish usually take their holidays.