In a pickle where we don't know who to have on the top table. We have so far me, h2b, My Mum and his Mum on a table for 10. Is anyone else having their bridesmaids and best man etc sitting with them and if yes are you having their partners too even if they aren't involved with the wedding (i.e bridesmaids, usher etc). Just can't decide if it would be rude to have my bridesmaid sit with me and have her partner who I barely know???? or do I send him off to another table and think oh well it's only for a couple hours??...help
CommentAuthorMrs Joyce
i had trouble with my top table h2b didnt want his mams new bf on our top table she huffed and said if he wasnt sitting next to her she wasnt coming to wedding so we have tuck away the top table have 6 round tables and no long top table and we are sitting with moh and best man and their partners and best mans kids
sisters partner is best mans bro and best mans kids are h2bs god kids! means we sit with people we want to aswell!
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
We have parents, us, best man and CBM.
CBM is single, but the best man is married (his wife is one of my best mates and another bridesmaid but can't fit all bridesmaids and ushers on the top table)
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorfester
Same problem, mother in law to be is going through divorce so the Dad of 22 yrs isn't allowed to sit at the top table my step Dad isn't even bothering to turn up with my Mum, there is only 6 places left but 8 people i want....doing my brain in now!!! ours is a round table too so that we could fit more in the room and more people on more tables
CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Siblings, grandparents etc?
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
i havin parents, chief bridesmaid who is my sister, and the best man. h2b want 2 hav the 2 babies as wel who wil b 2 &3 but then we wil hav 2 hav my eldest 2 as wel. i not sure wot to do about the kids x
CommentAuthorfester
I would've had my twin brothers but they have wives and 2 kids each then we'll offend his side lol. Flamin weddings, reckon I'll have a table for 2 please!!!!
CommentAuthorfester
We were gonna have our kids with us but then decided we would seat them with my brothers and their kids as they are complete moaners and I don't want to end up throwing my kids out of my own wedding, so putting them with their cousins :o)
CommentAuthorJoolsy
I'm having both sets of parents the best man and chief bridesmaid and obvs me and the H2B!! xx
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CommentAuthorMrs (Dove) Pidgeon
Have completely random people!
Now a extremely happy German housewife and now a Mother!!!!
Islay Jean born 24th June in Hannover.
CommentAuthorkem
im havin me,h2b,moh,bm,1 usher and 1bm x
CommentAuthorfester
Dove when I first started planning I did that and evertone got the hump and said the point of a wedding was to catch up with people youm don't see often so why not seat people togther who know eachother...nice... not to come and see me get married, sorry it's bridezilla week, doing alot of ranting and stressing lol
CommentAuthorDiana89
Raffle off places? Pick names from a hat? Sorry I can't really help duno who I am having yet, if it comes to it it'll just be a sweetheart table but I'm thinking: mum, dad, 3 bms, 3 groomsmen, 2 ushers, page boy and flower girl, mil, nil and us two. Not sure the flower girl will want to sit with us though and I'll feel bad leaving her out so it could end up just mum, dad, mil and nil or again just a sweetheart table
CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
us, my mum and dad, his mum and dad, bestman and maid on honour. rest of bridemaids and ushers sitting seperatley x
CommentAuthorJenni
erm.. we are havin a pickle over this. me and h2b, my mum and dad, his mum... and now it gets confusing- do we have his step dad who has basicly raised him.. or his biological father who was more of a part time dad than anything.. and then if we have his biological father should we also have his step dad- and his fathers wife there just to make things "fair".. and also best man and chief bridesmaid.. no partners of theirs because then it gets silly! h2b suggested not having parents at the top table but my dad would be crushed if he wasnt sat next to his lil girl.. and i dont see why my folks should miss out because his parents split up lol!! good luck tho x
CommentAuthorNicci
Were having Usher, BM, H2B, Me, Best man and MOH on ours. Im not having any of my family at the wedding so it makes things a little easier x
CommentAuthorkirsto
Talk to your venue and see if they come up with something.. we were in a pickle aswell cause I am having 6 bridesmaids and H2B 3 yes you read it right 3 best men....just trying to bloody please everyone so if we had everyone at the top table we would be going out the door. So we are having H2B, me, both our parents and H2Bs daughter (bridesmaid and soon too be step daughter woop woop) then the bridesmaids, best men at another table just off ours but still apart from the rest. Venues apparently have this type of problem all the time..but I wouldnt have their parnters there cause it's meant for the bridal party only...however in saying that its your wedding and your choice who you have ...xxx
CommentAuthorGeordie_Nikki
We're having family at the wedding but both our mum's and dad's have new partners so we'd need some size top table to fit them on lol
We're just having us 2, my MOH and partner, his best man and partner and possibly both our son's
CommentAuthorohfiddles
Well traditionally i have found out that it goes CB,GF,BM,H2B,B,BF,GM,BM. But alot of the time there are seperations to think about, like my h2b dad prob wont be at top table as he is not in our lives enough. Its whatever feels right to you, like if your mum has remaried you can have your dad instead of her new husband. dont feel you have to fill the seats up. i have been to a wedding where just the bride and groom had the top table, so i think anything is possible.
CommentAuthorfester
Kirsto I feel your pain lol, I've got 7 bridesmaids and h2b got 2 best men too, It's so hard when it comes to it as so many families are split...why we getting married again haha! My partner has his biological dad coming too and the Dad who raised him since 2yrs but has now left the Mum, it's all too confusing. I've thought about it and I'm going to have both Mums maid of honour, adult bridesmaids, best men and that's it....I think, maybe I'll be asking again in a few months x
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
Im having us (h2b and me) his parents, my parents, best man and our 3 kids (bridesmaids and pageboy). The ushurs and the other 3 bridesmaids will be elsewhere, not decided yet lol
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CommentAuthorsbride
We are just having ourselves, both sets of parents and our 2 daughters, ushres and bridesmaids will all be sitting together on 2 tables next to us.
I am now Mrs Stacey Stiles and loving it!
CommentAuthorTinsel
We are having FIL, my mum, H2B, me, my Dad, Step-MIL, MC. No BMs - all have partners, no Best Man as his Dad is Best Man.
Go with what you feel comfortable with and if people say they wont go to the wedding, do what you want anyway - they'll get over it. :o)
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CommentAuthorHoxxyhula
I am intending not to have partners of bridesmaid's and best man on the top table. They can all look after themselves for a few hours. My problem is that I really don't want my stepmother, but there is NO WAY I will get away with that one, and don't want to upset my daddy bear!!
CommentAuthorfester
Hoxxyhula do you get on with her though? I got married 12 yrs ago (1st time) and I didn't have my Dad's girlfriend on top table I made my Mum and Dad sit on top table, luckily they were divorced a long time!
CommentAuthorHoxxyhula
We really didn't get on at first, partly because of a personality clash but partly because it was so soon after my mum died. A bit better now, but if I could choose I would not have her on the top table.
CommentAuthorClaire Sky
were having- bridesmaid cheif bridesmaid groom bride best man bridesmaid
both our familys are seperated so it is easier to leave them off the top table xxx
CommentAuthorCeCe
Bl oody 9 of us on the top table .. too many IMO but the Porky Prince does not want the BM's on their own table...ah well!
CommentAuthorMrs Daltry
ours was easy,me glenn,alisha,cam,sarah (bm) her husband,john (best man) and his partner, and my mum and dad
CommentAuthormichellew312
not having a typical top table, just H2B and me.
CommentAuthoremma1234
im having me H2B, BM, BM.BF.GM,GF, BM my 2 children but we have 1 space left but the question is do i have the best mans partner .........as they put me on the top table when they got married and my partner was their BM, my partner does not want her to so.....should it be my nephew who is a usher or one of the bridesmaids my sister is CB but wants to sit with her family what a pickle
CommentAuthorb2bnicola
We're having.....
Best Man His mum h2b me dad mum moh
Its uneven - his dad passed away 2 years ago :(
We do want it to be even tho but we dunno who to put there.....
Happily Married! :) xxx
CommentAuthorSuzi
We are having Me, H2B, Best Man, My dad and his wife, my mum H2B's dad... x
Do not disturb... Already disturbed enough!
CommentAuthorfoolsapprentice
We're having .... Best Man, Father of the Bride, Father of the Groom, Pete, Me, Mother or the Bride, Mother of the Groom, and MOH
It's the traditional people just not in the traditional order. Just hope no one moans about it lol. Blooming families are hard work sometimes lol
Cx
CommentAuthorClareandBen2010
we're not having the traditional order either. the best man is sitting in between grooms parents as they are divorced and dont get on and my parents dont get on with grooms parents so they're sitting next to me with MOH
CommentAuthorKizzy81
We're having:
Maid of Honour - My sister Grooms Father Brides Mother Groom Bride Brides Father Grooms Mother Best Man - Grooms brother
CommentAuthorlizzyleek
Were having - us, maid of honour, bridesmaid, bestman and our eldest (who's pageboy) and that's it! x
CommentAuthorcatch
my table can sit 10 but l'm haveing 7 me, h2b, his mum&dad, chief bm, bestman and my son who will be giveing me away, l thought about bm but then thought again as it would mean leaving out their partners so l have made thier table putting them all and ushers together in front of top table x
CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs Nicol
We are having us the best men and bridesmaids... it stops arguments between families for us... :)
CommentAuthorrainykins
I think were having the two mum's my dad (as his dad passed away) us and the BM thats it, although i do have my 2 nans which would be nice for them to sit with us, but got to think on who will keep an eye on the demon spawn of ours lol
CommentAuthorSid
Im with Michelle, think we will have just the 2 of us, might push to best man and chief bridesmaid as well not sure yet. its not that its arguments more awkwardness, both sets have parents have split up and don't see each other, some have new partners so its just easier to sit people with who they are comfortable with rather than trying to follow tradition!
