I am trying to get started on planning the table plans etc, and when it comes to the top table at our wedding- I have both my parents, where as my h2b just has his dad as his mother is not invited. My h2b already feels a bit rubbish that I have much more family than him, and feel it'd look a bit odd that my side of the table is full and his is empty. I had an idea to just have me, h2b, his best man and my maid of honour at the top table and then just let me mum and dad intergrate with the rest of the family, and then when my dad has to make his speech just stand up where he is. Im not having a big wedding- there will only be about 35 people there during the meal, so feel that it wouldnt matter too much if we did this? Also think it would help, as me and my h2b already have a little boy, he will be 2 on our wedding day but would probably have more room if they sat with everyone else at round tables.

Do you think this is an okay idea? It just seems like the best thing to do to avoid the awkwardness with my other halves lack of family! lol xxxx

Yes spoke to my mum, and she agrees, so theres no problem on that side with doing it, my mum is relieved because the traditional top table layout would have meant she'd be sitting next to my h2bs dad, and she doesnt think much to him- it just seems unfair to make people sit with people they dont want to speak to just because its tradition! I know some people just have the bride and groom on a little table, I wouldnt want that, id feel a little out of touch from everyone, but if I have my maid of honour and then my h2b has his best man- it could work out! Families are such a nightmare when it comes to weddings! lol

Ahh I see, I will have 35 guests including us..and was hoping for round tables- I've had a go at a rough sketch of a seating plan with just moh,me,groom and bm at the top table and then 4 round tables, thing is some tables have only got 6. Theres just some people that would not be right to sit together, so its the only way

Thanks! Will show h2b what i've been working on later, and I can garantee he'll find a problem with it! lol

As long as your mum and dad are happy I think you've come up with the perfect solution. x

I think that's a great idea, I know what you mean about it being unbalanced as my ohs family make up the bulk of the wedding party xx