I've just joined (got engaged on Friday!) and there's already one thing on my mind that is stressing me out.
My step-mum and I have never fully seen eye to eye on things but she shall of course be invited to my wedding. However, what do you think I should do about the top table? My partner is adamant that my step-mum is not sitting at the top table (and I'm inclined to agree with her) but where do I sit her without causing offence to my father (he's footing a good chunk of the bill!!!)?
How do you think I should broach the subject with them?
Grace
CommentAuthorKaya
I only had my mum and eldest brother at the top table (in fob place), sat my mums partner with my younger brother (his son) and other relatives, so he was still on a front table and near my mum x
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CommentAuthorRoxy
You mention half siblings, coud you possibly seat you step-mum with your half siblings, that way it doesn't look like she's been demoted from the top table she is simply sitting with her children?! Tricky one
CommentAuthor
If it weren't for the fact that my half siblings will be at the time aged 11, 8 and 7 then I probably would but I'm having an allocated children's table and hiring in some nursery staff to look after them. I don't think she'll appreciate being on the snotty, grubby kid table ;-)
CommentAuthorKaya
The 11 year old may think they're too old for kiddies table so could perhaps sit her with the eldest? I had an 10yr old having a right strop at my wedding cos she'd been given a childrens meal!!!
we are having only 1 table so everyone is sat together, if this is not suitable have you thought of a sweetheart table instead of a top table.. this is where just you and your OH sit then a smaller table next to you for your bridal party, this way she wont be sat with you but wont cause a bad atmosphere on your big day x
CommentAuthorSweetchilli
You could sit her at the table next to the top table with the 11 year old? Surely she can't expect you to have her at the top table if you aren't close? Speak to your Dad about how you feel, he will hopefully understand your feelings?
CommentAuthorflutterbybutterfly
As your Dad is paying towards the wedding you really do need to speak to him though do remember its your wedding! Do not do anything you think may spoil your day xx
CommentAuthorEmbbem-MrsW
my parents are divorced and mum remarried and dad has a partner I have arranged the top table to seat my step parents but my step mum has said she doesn't mind not sitting on the top table. We haven't always seen eye to eye and have had our fair share of fallings out over the years but things are better now.
I must be crazy giving myself only 6 months!
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Wedding 21st April 2012
CommentAuthorsussie
I was planning on sitting OH's step mum with her son and his family. when we saw them she asked who she was sat with, so she wasn't expecting to sit on the top table.
CommentAuthorMrsCaitiClarke
I'm sitting my step-mum and step-dad on a table next to the top table and they're sitting with my grandparents etc so they're on a "family table" rather than feeling they've just been demoted to a regular guest! Oh and congrats on the engagement :) xx
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CommentAuthor
Thanks for all the advice, ladies.
My family is so complicated. Argh. Basically none of the relatives are particularly keen on my step-mum. She doesn't speak with my paternal grandmother and my maternal grandparents are Chinese and a bit hard of hearing! Might stick her next to my sister and brother in laws to be so that she feels she's on a family table too, although she's never met them. Good idea?
