Can someome advise if its ok to sit Grooms parents at either end of top table. And i mean END! Dont want my toddler daughters there or bmaids or best men (2) - will they be offended?
J xx
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
I think you can sit whoever you like where ever yo like hunni they are ON the top table, that in itself is an honour so if they do complain they are at the end just say well I could have not put you on the top table at all??
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CommentAuthorJacquirose
Thanks Hails - everyone IS saying that, but I feel guilty! Maybe becoz I really dont get along with the mum-one (heehee) and i cant be bothered with her moaning as she'll think i'm being mean firing her on the end!. Shes so good at the moaning! !
CommentAuthorSelinaK
If I had my way my own mother wouldn't be on the top table, but I couldn't handle the ear ache lol!! It doesn't matter what order they are in, if they're on the top table they should be honoured x
I thought that was the "traditional" way anyway, the brides parents on either side of the bride and groom, then the groom's parents either side of the brides parents. I'm also not having any b.maids or best man on the top table, and I won't put my partner through the torture of having to sit next to my mum haha (I feel the same as you SelinaK!), so my parents are next to me, and his are next to him. I don't think it'll matter to them though, like many people have said they'll be happy that they're on the top table anyway - just do it how you'll be happy on the day x
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CommentAuthorJacquirose
Thanks guys! Appreciate ur replies! My mum and dad have passed away so its
me, h2b, my uncle (giving me away dads bro), 2 bmaids, 2 best men, my son, my 2 daughters and 'the inlaws'!
Ooooft I cant stand her, another 'wedding' issue today - nightmare - shes so 'trying to be invloved' i'm not letting her. At the reminder of every 2 mins 'but u havnt got a mum.....' really - u think i forget that????? Now f off!!!! HEEHEE! Sorry rant over!!
J xxxxx
CommentAuthorsarahjo89
Wow that's a tad insensitive for her to keep mentioning that your mum is no longer around! like you say, thats not something you're going to forget overnight! I dont think it's harsh at all if you have them at the other end of the table. I'm only just in the beginning stages of planning everyting and MIL2b is already showing she isn't happy with several of our decisions. You just have to put your foot down and do things how YOU want it done, this is your day - do what will make you and your h2b happy. If she sulks, tough...she'll get over it :-) x
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CommentAuthorMrs D-2b
we are having my parents my side and his parents his side then on end of my side my grandad,, we have just lost my gran and wanted to make my grandad feel as comfortable and wanted as we can and the the best man in the end of his parents!! the top table is there for the most important people of your life!!!! so you have who you want hun, dont let her make this even more stressful than it already is...... remember loved 1's for the top table so f her right off xx
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CommentAuthorJacquirose
Thanks again for ur replies - yeah, sarahjo89, thats nothing - shes a nightmare!! Never mind - happiest day of my life n that! Shes very mouthy and WILL moan about the food, decor, heat, crowds, music, expensive drinks, blah blah blah - meaking me on edge but at least im aware of the possibilities. My MOH is great - she says it doesnt matter, if she says ANYTHING about anything i wont know as thats her role as a MOH and SHE'LL deal with it head on - and Christina doesnt mess - YAY!!!
Thanks Mrs D-2b - great way to look at it - mine and his loved ones there at the top table thats all that matters - although no love lost between his mum n him either - thought we'd just give her her place iyswim?
xx
CommentAuthormadhen
I think you should have it just as you want :) We will have top table issues...firstly because we're not having a long table with everyone on one side but an oval table in the middle of the room. Secondly as I have to figure out what to do with h2b's divorced parents, and how to get round the fact that neither of my parents are too keen on h2b's dad....should be fun :(
CommentAuthorfiona
Madhen that sounds familiar, my parents are divorced and ohs parents (&oh!) dont like my dad! So we are probably having girls one side boys the other.
CommentAuthormadhen
I feel your pain....
CommentAuthorMrs B
Whilst were on this subject (sorry for hijacking) my sis is my cbm, do you think her OH should be on the top table too? I have him seated elsewhere at the moment but h2b said they should sit together even though hes not part of the wedding party and the wedding party apart from parents and cbm/bm arent on the top table..............
CommentAuthorPB
Non of our parents are on our top table at all,just having best men,moh and our children.Whatever works for you x
CommentAuthorfiona
Mrs B2B traditionally you are right to put him else where, but it is completely up to you there is no right or wrong.
CommentAuthorMrs B
Thanks :-) ill stick to my original plan in that case!
CommentAuthorJacquirose
Good query Mrs B2B, Ive got their OH's sitting elsewhere but at the front table! Interesting to see what peeps will do re this!
poulton bride - tried that - MIL wasnt happy, called me for everything, then said 'and while we're on the subject of the wedding, I'm not happy about a few things.....!' proceeding to list 5 things SHE wasnt happy with - ARE U FOR REAL MISSUS - go f yersel!!! sorry, and i'm away again heehee!! I can see the point if she contributed financially (which i would NO WAY accept) but shes just been a hindrence. Most recent thing is she cant get to venue (they have car but to be fair her hubby has sore leg to drive), venue is an hour away - shes happy for us to pay for a taxi £170 in total both ways. Shes upset we're getting married 'so far away' in fact 6 of her family cant drive from Glasgow to Peebles as its too far?? Ive got 12 coming from Mnachester and 2 coming from Australia - kinda puts his side to shame eh?? J xx
J xxx
CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
Were not having everyone sitting where there ment to be, Even though some of the family are not happy about it! But were just putting our foot down and having it how we want to!
This is how were having ours
My mum - My dad - Usher 1 - Bridesmaid - Me - Our daughter - H2b - Best man - Usher 2 - Mil2b - Fil2b
x
CommentAuthorJacquirose
YAY! Mrs brown to be, parents on the end - makes me feel better as per original post! Nice touch - ur daughter in between - very sweet! J xxxx
CommentAuthorMrs brown - 19/08/12
We put our daughter inthe middle becuase her grandmas and grandads always touch her food or keep pushing her to eat (Drives me nuts) She a slow eater but then shes only 22months old. I like it with parents onthe ends x
I feel your pain....
