Wedding Forum - Top table dilema....

Hi :)

Im new to this but would appreciate some other brides views please.

My Fiances parents are divorced and unfortunately my future mother in law passed away last year and she will be greatly missed on our big day.

My dilemma is how to rearrange the top table, if we should at all?
I dont want to seem disrespectful like I am putting someone in her place but I also dont necessarily want to have a gap.

Should I arrange a non traditional set up?

Also I had seen advertisments for some favours where you can make a donation to cancer research and you are given a card to give to each of your guests - would people understand this or do guests expect the normal kind of sweets etc?

Thanks xxx

Hi Mez
i think you should mix it up a bit and arrange it how you want it! your day your table, also i think a donation is a great idea and people will understand it when they get the card hope this helps

xxx

Charity favours are definitely the way to go - people won't mind at all, when I've seen them at weddings I've always thought it was a fab idea :)

I agree with Becky for the top table. To be honest, I hate top tables and really don't want one at our wedding, but whatever you have should be just as you want it :)

Thanks <3
I feel much better about things after seeing your comments.

I think I will definitely look into the charity favours :)

The top table I am sure will be fine with some rearranging too - dont know why I'm always worrying about what people will say when its our day.

Good luck with all of your weddings too xx

Hey hun, first I want to say sorry for your loss. as for the top table i wouldnt recomend leaving a gap but rearrange it to include the people you want up there with you. the charity favours are a great idea and there are so many different styles of them now im sure you will find one that suits.
An idea you could have is a memorial candle or a picture of your Mil as a way of remembering her in your day. you could include other loved ones who should be there but are no longer with us too.
x

Hi,
Your idea of favours is fab, people who get chocolates then eat them and forget about them where as something like that sticks in your mind. With your top table I wouldn't worry about 'traditional' layout, how many people these days can do that? I think your top table guests can be anyone you want- no one will even think about it. Think we stress far too much about pleasing others-I know that is driving me mad!!! Good luck and just remember all the people that matter will be there : D xx