Hiya everyone! I just haveing a bit of a blow out on here! I just getting sick and tried of people judgeing me! treating me like a little kid! Most of my family and mate are dead excited bout my big day! But when some people found out , they said i was to young! :s I am 20 years old, My h2b is 22! By the time our wedding is here i will b 23 year old! Hows is that too young! I think me and my h2b are thinking bout it a lot more then couple older then us are! We no rigth now we can afford it, so it woth the wait and save up! By doing this, it more grown up then rush in to it! errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr some people do piss me off! :S
I feel better now i wrote it all down lol xxxxx
CommentAuthorUnknown
i got engaged when i was 21 and my h2b with 35 at the time and nobody said anything about our ages really. well apart from 2 sisters that said it was too young! i will be 23 and h2b will be 37 when we get married. as long as you love each other and you know it is the right thing to do ignore everyone else. it isnt any of their business! xx
CommentAuthorPrincess Sarahbelle
i dont see how thats too young i got engaged at 18 nearly 19 and i will be 21 when i am married and h2b was 20 nearly 21 when got engaged and when we get married he will be 23 so....
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CommentAuthorkimi1987
my mil2b and fil2b got married when they were 17/18 and my parents got married when mum was 19 and dad was 22. as long as ur happy and know its the right time for you then who are they to judge?
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CommentAuthorMrsStone2b
I got engaged when I was 22 and will be getting married when I'm 24. As long as you know he's the right man for you, age isn't an issue!! xx
in the olden days it was commen to get married young and nobody batted an eyelid then it started to change and people got married later and now i think it is going back the other way!
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CommentAuthorMagicFairies
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This really makes me mad! We have exactly the same problem, we've been engaged for nearly 2 years now but the amount of hassle we've had from family, friends and even people in shops is unbelievable! We are 20 and 19 at the moment, and our immediate families have always been ok with it because they'd known us both all through our relationship so my mum and his mum are dead good about it. But my grandparents have caused nothing but fuss, they say that we're too young to make this decision and are treating us like kids, same with my real dad (who i only see about 3 times a year) he phoned my mum and asked her to stop me but wouldn't speak to me himself! (my mum just laughed at him though).
People in shops have been especially rude making assumptions about us and judging us. We are not accepting this anymore though - if someone makes a rude comment we put the right on them first instance, after that we complain to management because it is unprofessional and plain rude. It is ageism to make such discriminations and judgments against us, we wont stand for it and neither should you. Wow you got me started on a rant there! Good luck xxx
CommentAuthorclaireandpete
I would have loved to be engaged at your age! As long as you guys are happy together thats all the matters. We've been engaged 18 months now and have another 18 months until our wedding as we to realised we needed to save. We got a lot of comments because we got engaged after being together 3 months, but some many people seem to forget we had known each other 10 years, and had been together previously when we were younger. i know it is incredibly hard, and i still jump to the bait when some people coment about us, but its no ones business, if your happy together and its what you both want no one should say anything other than be excited for you!
CommentAuthorUnknown
claire- i get comments all the time about moving too fast! i moved intogether properly after 4 months but was there all the time after not even 3 and got enagaged at 4 months. but we had known each other before aswell. just tell people to butt out! xx
CommentAuthorAtaraxia
I'm 21 and h2b is 20 - when we get married he'll be 21 and I'll be days away from my 22nd birthday. A LOT of people say we're moving too fast and we're young and all that malarky but we don't care!
We'll have been together 2 and a half years when we get married, and have known each other for nearly 4 years. We've given up a hell of a lot for each other and we've done a lot of things fast. We moved in together after just 3 months and were engaged after just 6 months - we could wait but why should we? The way we see it, yes we could wait but we wouldn't be reassuring ourselves of anything...we'd be putting back -our- wedding day to make other people feel better about it. And from what I can tell, there's never a right time to do anything... the transition between 'Gosh you guys are getting married soon!' and 'When are we going to have a wedding for you two?!' is so fine, it's barely there! And it changes all the time anyway.. some people think getting married after 5 years is the way to do it, some people think it should be ten years. We're doing what's right for us as a couple.. and what we want in OUR relationship... if anyone else has a problem with that then it's their fault :)
Sometimes when people get quite narky about it, I just tell them I'm getting married young because I want to be young, thin and sexy on my wedding day and that's all I care about :D soon shuts them up - I don't care what they think, if my h2b wants to marry me and I want to marry him, what else is there? :P
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CommentAuthormelvis
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huni im exact same age... im 21 in two weeks, and ill be 23 when we get married, (h2b is 26 at the mo and will be 28...) his mum thinks im too young because she got married at 34 and had him at 37, my mum and dad however were engaged at 21 and 24 respectively and married when they were 23 and 26 so they never batted an eyelid. my mum is quite traditional and would rather i was married young haha!! his mum however never put much emphasis on marriage. Its just everyones individual choice isnt it... i mean my gran was engaged at 19 and married at 21... look at the end of the day ive noticed that by taking an active stance and being assertive with people, and shop assistants and venues im being treated with respect and not like a silly child. People can see im serious, im organised and i know what i want. so keep to your guns huni, dont let anyone put you down... its wht you wan, you love each other...and what would they rather? that you just wait for 20 years to please them!! if youve found the one at 19 or 90 it makes no difference! rant over phew haha xxx
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CommentAuthorMagicFairies
Some people will try to make yo feel bad about anything. I think it's great that we're all so settled young, it means that we can get on with our lives and not have to worry about dating/ finding the one. From my point of view, people judge you if you are single and they judge you if you are settled, but as long as you are happy why should it matter what miserable, judgmental people think? They are always going to be the unhappy ones because they spend so much time worrying about what other people are doing. xxx
CommentAuthormelvis
hear hear! :) x
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CommentAuthorMrs.Laura.Rudge 2b :
Thanks ladies i feel a lot better that i not the any one! :) Like every one said, at the end of the day iam happy, h2b is happy and the close family and mate that i really care bout are happy! byy the time i get married,(on the date we 1st got together) it b 6 years! I think family that moan bout it, really should get over it! At the end of the day your happy, if they loved u they should b happy too! I given up caring what people think now! i would happy get married tomoz! but i wnat my fairy tale wedding! lol xx
CommentAuthor*Vixie*
Thats all that matters then hun, as long as you love each other who cares about your ages. I was only 20 when we got engaged, Im 22 now and h2b is 24. When its right you know it :D xxx
CommentAuthorljeh92
Im 19 and getting married at 19!!!! And people say stuff to me all the time, i realised who my true friends were after this engagement! I am so happy and i no longer care what people think! Just ignore those who complain, they're probably only jealous! Congrats on your engagement and im very happy for you xx
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
people are so judgemental.... it doesnt matter what age you are when you get married as long as you love the other person and are doing it for the right reasons. Ignore everybody else hun and don't let it get to you x
CommentAuthorK8tie90
I Get this too, Ill 20 when i get married, h2b is 23... And Ive never lived with him!!... I get criticized all the time. Alot of people dont think we will last cause ive never lived with him ect ect... The first time we live together will be when we are married as he is in the army. What people dont understand is I respect the time I have with him always!! So living with him will still be the same as I dont know when he will have to go away!.. :) x
CommentAuthorButterflyDreamer
We've been engaged for a year on Sunday, and together 5 years December. I fell pregnant (2 h2b) when i was 19, had first baby at 20 then i got pregnant again at 20 had baby at 21, i used to get awful looks from people and i still do now when we are walking around town with the our girls, people say how young i am and to have twins was unlucky for someone my age (My girls aren't twins there is 11 months and 9days between them but they are very similar in height and everything!). I got id'd in icelands for a chocolate bar that contained baileys liqure in it. The woman was really really smug and said to me you can't have this you aren't 16, Out came the pink driving license! She soon swallowed very hard and apologised!
H2b will be 28 and i Will be 24 when we get married and we are being told we are rushing! As long as you both love each other and it's what you both want sod everybody else hun.
Unfortnately We live in the most judgmental society in the world! People speak before they think and act before they take in to consideration the consequences and how it affects others.
Congratulations on your engagement Babe, Just remember it's you and your Hubby 2 b's day don't let people ruin it for you! I did and it was the worst thing i ever did! xxx
CommentAuthormcewan07
some people are just ........me off It wasn't all that many years ago that women were brought up to "find a husband" and "keep the house" and they were often teens to early twenties when marrying. I remember a conversation with my gran when i was pregnant with my second child( i was 20/21) and she had been saying i seemed so young, and her friend piped up and said, she isn't that young i was married with 3kids at her age. So dont listen to them, if you can afford it then go for it, you are not rushing into it. I will be 26, 4 weeks after my wedding, and my OH has just turned 43.
CommentAuthorFuture Mrs Doublé
Don't let people ruin your happiness if you know what you want, they should just be happy for you. It is true now the rate of divorce is higher, but for example my mum was not even 18 years old yet when she married my dad, and they've been happily married for nearly 45 years now, so don't worry about it.
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CommentAuthorkisseymad1
Normally i was the one saying some people are too young like 18 yr olds -i do see that it doesn't matter about age now, if it's right it's right- but you don't sound young, you sound intelligent, those people making you feel like that don't matter, just enjoy yourself and keep happy :) x
CommentAuthormcquire81
Ignore them all, they are judgmental people who have forgotten that in the past it was considered perfectly natural to get engaged and married before you were 21.... infact by the age of 30 if you werent married you were almost considered a spinster!! Only you and your h2b know how you feel and do not have to justify yourself to anyone.... best of luck with your big day :-) xx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
if u know its right then its right and ignore what everyone else is saying hun.
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CommentAuthorKimi
Well my response to being too young - stick two fingers up in their general direction and tell them to stick their nose elsewhere.
The days are flying by, can't wait :)
CommentAuthorSian-Louise
Babe dont worry about what other people think.....you and H2B feel your ready and thats all that matters...
I had my son at 20 with my H2B and will be getting married at 24...people do say to me dont settle down to young or you should live your life first...but I dont care what others think..its my life and I will do what I wish lol!! and my family are very supportive and my good friends xx
CommentAuthorTotallyLovedUp
haha kimi took the words right out of my mouth! how dare they pass judgement on you like that! i was 17 when I got engaged and I am sure people had their doubts that we wouldnt last, but in june it will be 10 years since we got engaged and will get married when i am 29. ignore them and do what makes you both happy xxxx
CommentAuthorsarahwasabride
dont think thats too young at all im getting married at 22. ignore what anyone says as long as ur happy its no one elses business xxx
CommentAuthorSophieb908
i feel the same! Especially people in shops who are always dead snotty! Im 19 at the mo, was 18 when we got engaged and will be 20 when we get married...we moved quite quick, moved intogether after 6 months, got engaged after a year but we started off with a long distance relationship and it felt right to move in together quickly. We will have been together 3 years by the time we get married and will have loved together or 2 and a half. I think that as long as you love each other, and you know you can live with each other and you are happy together then why shouldnt you get married whenever the hell you want! xxx
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CommentAuthorFruity_pops
am 20 (21 next month) and h2b is 19 (20 when married) and i got it off a few people but i know it what we want. we love each other enough to know its right for us and we stand by it and we goin to prove them wrong. so hun just ignore them and do what u think it right and what u want
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CommentAuthorEcoFreak
We're both 20 at the moment and will be 24 & 23 when we get married (I'm a couple of months older) but we'll have been together for 6 and a half years! In that time we'll have lived together for 4 years (as we were still at sixth form in the beginning, before uni) and even moved to Australia together for a year! As well as graduating from university and being out in the real working world for almost 2 years. If anyone told me we were too young I'd give them a slap lol! I'm sure there are couples twice our age who haven't done as much together.
Age doesn't matter - whether younger, older, or one person being twice the others age! :) I'd be more likely to have doubts if I were getting married 6 months after we met - but again I know couples who have moved that fast and tbh if you know it's right then why not?
People who say such things as "you're too young" are either (overly) concerned and are looking out for you (in a misguided way) or just plain jealous lol xx
CommentAuthorGriff
I am 20 by the time I get married I will be 21 and so will h2b I get fed up of people saying what are you getting married for? You're too young! It makes me so angry, I love my h2b despite our age we are completely dedicated to oneanother xx
CommentAuthorRachie :D
My question to you all is are you happy? If you ate then why listen? It's only over the last few years peoples attitudes have changed. My parents were married at twenty. The have been together for 37 years and married for 34 xxx
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CommentAuthorTrish Goddard
I got married the first time around when i was 19.... (It lasted 15 years) Age is JUST a number... if your in love and know you wanna spend the rest of your lives together WHY NOT!!
Go for it and be happy!! xx
CommentAuthormegs
we got this all the time to begin with...especially from family as me and my partner moved in together after 3 months and got engaged after 6...but once they had seen how happy we made each other everybody soon stopped we wont be getting married for another 2 years (so we are hardly 'rushing' things)...i did have one 'friend' who constantly tried to put doubts in my head etc...needless to say we no longer speak (she began to spread rumours around our circle of friends about myself and my partner, very negative lady is she!) anyway i agree with the above age is just a number...i had my little girl when i was 19 and even though i had a lot of people telling me id be a bad mum because of my age and countless amounts of funny looks when pushing my buggy around around i know iv done a blooming good job! myself and my partner have been through so much in the past, and even though when we first met marriage was the last thing on either of our minds we soon came to realise how much we loved each other and didnt want to loose each.. take no notice of these people who judge you as iv come to find normally the people who make the biggest noise about other peoples lives just aren't all that happy with their own and do this to make themselves to feel better good luck and congratulations :) xxx
CommentAuthor~*~ Becca ~*~
dont worry about it hun..just ignore them all
i was 21 when i got engaged (proposed on my 21st birthday nearly 3 years ago lol) and i was 23 when we got married in september
i hate how judgemental people can be re: ages...just like i was 19 when i fell pregnant with my son and 20 when i had him...some people were like ooooooooo your young
well at least i managed to live my life and tbh im not fussed about clubbing etc and glad i had him..wouldnt change it for the world ..and at least i wasnt 13/14
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i know a couple of people...well they are my nans friends and are in their 70's now but they met when they were in their late teens got enagaged after 6 weeks and married within 3 months of meeting! nearly 60 years later they are still married! unfortunatly they dont see each other now as he had a stroke last year so is in hospital and she has alzimers(sp) and it is too upsetting for them both but it just goes to prove it doesnt matter how old or how long you have been together if it is right then that it all that matters. when they were still going out togther before their health affected them you would always see them hug, kiss an hold hands and it was so nice to see that! xx
CommentAuthorCroc
as long as you know it right and hes the one then should it matter if you get married at under 21 or over 30...
i have a friend who married at 19 and it only lasted a yr... wasnt because she didnt love him... it was because she realised that she wanted different things to her hubby and he didnt he was happy with the same thing every day
i have a friend that was married at 37 and lasted a month... she cheated on her hubby on honey moon... hubby found out when they got home and looked at the pictures from honey moon...
so age is just a number... its what it feels like inside that counts and if you know its right then it rights
"better a witty fool, than a foolish wit" shakespeare
CommentAuthorDeeC
I would try an just ignore them Hun. Me and h2b have been together 7yrs and only just got engaged, we also have a two yr old. I find myself in the same situation. I am nearly 26 and h2b is 27 but I look a lot younger and him older. We are getting married next july. I get sick of people looking at us funny or commenting on it bein too quick to get married. The same when we had our little boy, I was even called another young s*****r whilst out shopping with my baby!! I think people forget we will have been together 8 yrs when we get married, what does it matter that we have not long got engaged!! Just remember why you are getting married and ignore them xx
CommentAuthorVicky
Just ignore them all it is what is right for you two. I met Joe when I was 19 and we spoke about getting married back then but couldnt afford it. 8 years later we are finally taking the plunge.. Married is so individual I really wouldnt worry, as Croc say ages is just a number
CommentAuthorAmy112
I say ignore them too, look at the amount of people who have commented on this thread under the age of 25.....Loads of people still marry young like they did in the 'old days'. I think there are a lot more 'career ladies' out there today that make people think that is how the world works these days, women go out to work and then marry in their late 30's. Well I believe there aren't any rules to when people marry/have babies or move in together - Make your own life, don't follow these busy bodies 'rules'.
I'm 23 and will be 24 when we marry, we have been together 5 and a half years and I have no doubt we will have many more happy years to come. Luckily all my family and friends can see this and everyone is very happy for us. xx
CommentAuthorSteffie
YOU KNOW WHEN IT'S RIGHT BABE!!!! don't let other people put you off xxx
CommentAuthorCheryl22
ive only just turned 20 on Monday and H2B turns 21 next month - we will be 21 and 22 when we get married but we will have been together for over 4 years and will have known each other for over 6 years. When we 1st got engaged some people did make the odd comment but it was mostly from people who barely knew us, both of our families are happy for us ( apart from H2Bs mum but thats a different story). If you know that he is the 'one' for you then it shouldnt make a blind bit of difference what age you are.
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CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
We got engaged when i was 22 and will be getting married at the age of 27. martyn was 24 when we got engaged and he will be 28 when we get married
Cant wait to to marry Martyn
Wishes the wedding would come faster
XxX
CommentAuthorExcited_bride_to_be
My husband to be and I will both be 23 when we're married. I agree that age is just a number, however I will say you need to be prepared for marriage before you go into it, it's not something to be entered into lightly, but I'm sure you will be if you're not already. :) Wisdom of parents and grandparents is good, it just needs to be weighed up. Xxx :)
CommentAuthorangeleyes
hi everyone, just thought i'd give a few words of encouragement. PEOPLE LIVE TO JUDGE, it really is as simple as that. If its family or friends you have two choices, just laugh it off or put them right and in a way the people who think you are too young probably dont know you as well as others when people said we were too young it turned out that they just dont trust my judgment and had no idea what our relationship was like. So basically ignorance.
With people who may or may not be providing you a service, complain to management, its unacceptable and plain unprofessional for a retail assistant to make judgments like that. All they need to know is what you want and what you are going to pay.
and i say that people who find the person they want to live with for the rest of their lives at such a young age are blessed, they have so many years of happiness ahead of them.
CommentAuthorMrsB
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I got engaged at 18 i'm now 20, personally I don't think it matters as long as you look past the big day to your future together, we have a daughter so people don't say a lot to me although my dad said it to me not so long ago he got married around 27 and after 17 years decided he fancied a younger model his marriage didn't last my MIL & FIL got married at 18 there still together in there 40s so whats it matter? I'm grateful i met Aaron at a young age knowing I have lots of lovely years with him, be happy and tell them to **** out xxx
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CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
I'm in the same boat- the two of us were 22 (well, I was a week and a bit from 22) when we got engaged and we're 23 now and 5 months from our wedding. When we first got engaged we didn't get many comments because everyone expected us to have a long engagement because of our financial position. Then, my h2b got a full time job that, paired with my part time work, was enough to get us a flat so we started househunting and moved up the wedding.
For AGES after that, we got so many "you're too young to get married", from both sides. Although my MIL2b calmed down after a while because we get on really well and consider each other family anyway. My sisters, both older than me, didn't let up, especially the eldest. It's so bloody patronising! Even my mum does it from time to time until I remind her that she was my age when she got married. Plus there's the fact that the h2b and I have known each other since we were 17 and started dating at 18, and knew we wanted to get married by age 19 (we held off engagement because of university and the fact that his brother got married).
What really peeved me off about the whole thing is that my second older sister got engaged to a guy she had only been dating for 2 months and, before then, told us she had no interest in him. And all my other sister had to say about it was "ah, well, when you know he's the one, you know". But my partner of 4 years at the time of getting engaged? No, that was just me being young and not thinking it through. It's amazing how ageist people can be- just because you're older doesn't mean your decisions are more valid than someone who's younger.
CommentAuthorsavs
Ive been with my h2b for nearly 5 years we have 2 little boys and I had my 1st at 18. We've booked our wedding for 2 years time on the 19th May 2013, and that date is also our 7 year anniversary of being together. I will be 23 and he will be 25. Some people think I have done things to fast BUT I am so happy with my life and love him so much why cant I marry him. I hear everyday of people getting married in there late 30's with people they've only know a year or so!!!! If you look at old old couples most of them were all married by 21 and most of them are still together, Thats because love was love then and people didnt have to be earning mllions so they can have a wedding to keep up with everyone else, They just did it coz they loved eachother and if more people were like that nowdays I think there would be a lot less divorces!!!! Good luck and just be happy!!!! xxx
CommentAuthorheidianne
2 of my friends were 20 years old when they married. they are still together. You'll be fine honey x
