I have pale skin and dark hair and i dont like how it looks at the best of times, never mind how washed out I'll be with a white dress on!
Should I try and tan and run the risk of lookin too 'overdone' and unnatural or should I just do what I always do and just bronze myself (although it never shows well enough in pictures) or should I not take any risk and go for the pale Mortisha look!? (the 3rd option is not a favourite lol)

Yeah i would say bronze too, if you dont normally get a tan then you may look a little strange and too different to your family and friends lol xx

I've thought about this too. I have a photo of me trying my dress on and I joke that I look like corpse bride lol!
I'm just very worried that It will stain my dress :/ xx

Hmm I've thought about sun beds too *shhh* my dad would kill me if he found out. I'd have to start using them now though and slowly build up because I burn so easily xx

i would get a spray tan but ross from friends put me off.. are they all like that!?

I'm going to be using the sun bed.. I have awful skin and I always look better with a tan, don't notice it so much.. unless h2b wants to treat me to a holiday before the wedding lol

Speaking as a Photographer, I would suggest looking at your partner, and trying to stay similar to them re skin tones.
Much harder to match colours when one partner is pasty white and the other is bright orange!

Haahaaa.. h2b hasn't got much of a tan but there is no way I'm looking like the ice queen on my wedding day

what about if you are different skin colors to start with? I'm going to go and have a couple of sunbed sessions. I think I look so much better with a tan and don't want to risk anything coming off on my dress. I've never done it before, and I won't again, but for a special occasion it's ok?

I would say get an ivory dress not a white dress as they don't look so harsh on you. I'm pale but the dress looks fine on me. I wouldn't go on a sunbed again. I never used to tan at all even when I went abroad to hot countries. I went on a sunbed a couple of times and now I do tan in the sun. You may think that this is a good thing but it is just a sign that I have now damaged my skin :0(

Personally I'm not a big fan of sun beds or fake tan so I would just learn to love the way you are.

I would get my skin bronzed slightly. I am pale but a redhead and I don't suit being tanned, lol, but I am ok in that my dress isn't white and it actually suits my skin tone. But after watching Gypsy Wedding last night, I would advise if you are wearing a proper white dress then it can wash you out when you are pale and dark haired. Either way you will look fabulous though! :)

I have an ivory dress (which helps) and im going to go on a few sunbeds, i always feel so much better when iv got a tan and obviously want to feel my best. My oh has a lovely skin tone and after a couple of sunbeds we usually match lol x

My friend had a spray tan done before her wedding and this had put me off. Although she looked lovely...her dress didnt. orange streaks going down either side of her dress where her arms were resting and brushing the dress all day!!!NONT a good look, so i'll be doing the same, just maybe going for a couple of short tanning sessions, as i'm very pale, to get a bit of a glow

Tanned doesn't really go with a white dress from my experience, I'm naturally quite tanned, so I went for an ivory/cream dress x

I think Im going au naturel. and ive got dark hair and fair skin!

As long as its not a cold day - because if im cold i am in danger of turning a wierd purple/blue colour!!!

hopefully the adrenalin pumping in me will stop that from happening though!!

If you're worried about the tan going wrong go for test runs before the wedding well in advance!! try it out - and if you get an experience like Ross in friends then at least you have time for it to wear off before the day.

if you go bronze careful it doesnt stain the dress!! eeeek!

R xx

now this may shock some people but i will tell you anyway.
i have heard horror stories about sunbeds and all the damage they do to your skin about cancer and everything but here goes

my mum has had breast cancer 3 times and cervical cancer last year, she was very ill and at one point i wondered if she was going to pull through. my nan has has a cancer lump taken out from her nose. my grandad was full of cancer and died to it and my grandma had breast cancer and had a breast removed!

now when my mum first got told she had cancer she was very young to have it. this was about 15 years ago but was told that everyone has the cancer gene in their body. some people are unlucky and it comes alive others are lucky and it stays asleep!

i however do use sunbeds which is what i think may shock some people. the reason being is that because the number of close relations to have cancer if i am going to get cancer then there is nothing i can do about it and i am going to do the things that make me feel better like sunbeds and lying out in the sun when on holiday.x

the way i look at it is most of my immediate family have had it so chances are higher for me. i cant do anything to stop it so i might aswell just enjoy my life xx

seeing my mum so ill last year really did teach me to enjoy life as you never know what can happen xx

she is ok now. all the cancer has gone but she still has to have check ups. she lost a lot of weight so is slowly trying to put it back on but that is taking ages. apart from that you cant tell just how ill she was not even a year ago which is good xx

Thats really sad Mrs baker to be.

But what does your H2B think? i know that my h2b wouldnt even let me be out in the sun if it meant reducing my life by just one day.

If he is happy for you to live life to the full like you do then thats cool. And its a terrible thing to have to live with knowing what could be round the corner and I admire your attitude.
do you have kids though!? because it would be a shame for your H2B and (future) kids miss out on having you around should the worst happen (and i really really hope it doesnt!!!!)

xxx

thats really sad and Im really sorry, anyone who has to go through that with their family and have the risk of having it themselves is a very brave person!!!

i have had a scare in the past - but go for regular check ups and am not really worried about it any more, but of course when i first got the scare i was shocked and everything was a blur. i had a small operation over a year ago now and have been fine ever since.
But we dont have a family history so im hoping that i'll be ok.

I cant imagine what it feels like for you - but to be honest if you do it 3 weeks before holiday and not every week then thats ok i think as you say you gotta enjoy yourself sometimes, and if we never did something we shouldnt really then life would be very dull!

:) I really hope you never have to experience the worst yourself!!

And you go for your 7 mins of tan

xxx