Have you got outfits for yourself and your bridesmaids sorted? That might be an obvious place to start, as it is something that he doesn't really need any input in.

You have 16 months, doing nothing for 3 months won't hurt. Just look at things you like and start looking at bridesmaid things and looking at venues you like then when he's back you can go look

Honestly Hun just look at things, that is doing something. Weddings can be planned in three weeks remember

3months isn't so long and with 16months of planning left anyway I don't think that break will matter at all, I haven't done anything major in about 6months and still on track so I don't think it's an issue...if he was literally gonna be away a year then yeah carry on but three months I'd say wait til he's bk x

I'm feeling the notepad idea. I know we have a fair amount of time, but we are very much a couple that likes to get very thing done as quick as possible. I probs should relax a bit more, I don't know if I am feeling more stressed about him just going away in general or the fact that I want to keep planning and he won't be here. X

I think you're maybe stressing more about what you're going to do with yourself while he's away more than what you're going to do with the wedding tbh and you want to fill it with the wedding cause it's going to make you feel closer to him as it's the day you become his wife xxx

my H2B is in army and he was posted to Northern Ireland at a few weeks ago 3 Months before wedding. So the last 3 months of planning etc i have to do on my own and he will be back a few days before the wedding. but ive mostly been doing stuff on my own all way through as he has always lived at camp 200 miles away and only see him some weekends. i just make sure that i check all final decisions with him so he has a say in everything as its his day too.

3 months really isnt that long it will fly by. in terms of planning over those 3 months, you have 16 months left so it really wouldnt matter if you didnt do anything for the wedding in those months as there is plenty of time. but to keep yourself busy get prices and look at suppliers and get ideas but make sure you dont book anything without his opinion. personally i did a lot at the beginning and then had months of nothing to do after so spread it out a bit x

yeah thats what i did. do all your research and narrow things down as if i give my man too many things to choose from i dont get an answer lol. make some enquiries into dates but save all the fun stuff like visiting venues etc until hes back as its a really nice thing to do together and one thing that H2B insists that he chose which was about it lol. have you got your dress yet? thats definitely something you can do while hes away and bridesmaids too! x

I was going to say the same thing as above. Write down all the things that need doing and start getting quotes and comparisons for each thing so when he's back you will have options to go through with none of the boring legwork and waiting around for quotes. You could also do little things like looking at styles of invitations, what flowers you would like and if they come in your colours, favour ideas etc, the little things men don't really fuss too much over.

And if you haven't already got a P!nterest account get one - that can occupy you for hours esp once you start looking at wedding ideas :)

It sounds like your hubby is away a lot for the same amounts of time my H2B usually is. I've got my family, but my mum is a little iffy because she still sees me as her little girl, I think the idea of me getting married still hasn't sunk in yet! My H2B family lives 3 hours away, so getting them to help will only be over the phone etc, but I don't know what they want to help in. I'm definitely going to have a big chat with him this weekend before he goes. It'll put my mind at ease a little. x

It sounds like you need to spend lots of time with family and friends while you're on your own. Maybe you could have a couple of girly weekends. Getting a spa treatment might be a nice thing to do as well. Or maybe you could spend some of the time planning a surprise celebration for when your H2B gets back.

Hey, I'm in the RAF and so is my fiancé. We've regularly done months apart, in fact, he too is set to deploy for around 3 months in the next few days when Brize sort their lives and his flights out. If it's the first time he's deployed, you'll actually find you hear from them more regularly than once a week. Plus they can buy additional minutes and data especially if they're at a MOB or DOB like kandahar or bastion. Plus there are several cafes out there that have 3 wifi inside the wire. A few times a week, there are comms shut downs, usually only if someone gets hurt, injured, sick or killed, in order for the MOD to inform NOK before they find out via the grapevine. You won't get notice of this. Use the online facility to send venues, email, Skype and plan out stuff before he goes for the next few weeks including things for his return. If you have some challenges lined up, it helps as a Distraction! Try and see if the squadron has any family events on while he's away to build up a rapport and your understanding, ask him to get his friends to make sure you're integrated and put in touch with the hive and deployed family members groups. It's only 3 months, so it's definitely other a long deployment so you'll be ok. I used the last 2 deployments to do hardcore wedding planning and get my own way with things! Any more question a fire away at Me! Or for support! where is he based?! X

That's great Valentina! He's off the other way though haha, he's off to the Falklands! He has been there before and it was for longer, I think it was more because we wasn't planning a wedding around then haha! What do you and your H2B do in the RAF? x

He's in MT x