Hi ladies after much thought I'm thinking of suggesting to h2b that we should put of wedding for a bit. I'm just fed up of not getting anywhere when I talk to him about his divorce!!!!! He needs new parts on his bike which will cost quite a bit so won't be able to save this month! Just feel fed up now. I also want another baby and we said after the wedding so feelin pretty low at the mo. Sorry to have a moan ladies x
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CommentAuthorCharlie
IF you want the wedding make him listen most guys r the same my H2B is just like u do all the booking just let me no whats what.. itsp to you im stuggleing to save as well we want to get married next year and we thinkin of movein it to 2013 :( xx
CommentAuthorGregorysGirl
Is he not divorced yet then? It can be frustrating when the money side doesn't come together each month. I have worked out that we need to save about £200 a month til the wedding but sometimes it doesn't happen which causes me to panic and want to call the whole thing off to save disappointment that i am convinced will happen. If you really want a baby but have agreed to wait til after the wedding then try and focus on getting married for when you have planned it, otherwise it is possible that years could pass, let's face it, who of us can really afford to get married in the present climate, but we get our heads down and go without certain luxuries so that we can finally marry the man of our dreams. I wish you luck in your decision huni. xxx
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CommentAuthorlovelylainee
awww ladies don't postpone just yet
mrs prestleton2b i think you should tell him how it is making you feel - if the thought of it all is upsetting you then it is better to get it off your chest and try and make him understand that his disinterest in sorting his divorce and marrying you is making you feel low. You shouldn't feel that way hunni and if it can be resolved by something simple (ish!) then the least he can do is get proceedings underway or start tying things up with his proceedings.
As for charlie i think you need a good chat with your h2b and let him know you want him to be involved because its not easy doing it on your own sometimes and it may help if you sat down and looked at what you both want for your big day so if there is any way you can cut costs you may have a better chance at saving up so it all happens when you would like it to
Best of luck and don't rush to put it back just yet xxx
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CommentAuthorCharlie
Your totaly right lovelylainee the only thing his like its to ealy but time soon flyss!! that why i want to start getting idesa and prices noww:) See what i mean :D xxxxxx
try and talk to him again. you have a long time till ur wedding, even though it will fly by. we have to save £600 each month and am really struggling. put £340 yesterday deposit of suits. my h2b didnt seem interesterd for agaes and as soon as the year turned and he though oh i am getting amrried this year he has wanted to be involve. i think it it is because men think it is so far away and they dont need to worry about it yet!!
part of the reason we are getting married this year and not next is becasue i wanted to be married at 23 and because i am desperate for a baby. xx
CommentAuthorCharlie
yeah i think your right :) its jsut we not thikin bout kids yet.. coz he got son already so i reli wanna get married he does wanan but still thinks its so fair behide... :( xxx
CommentAuthorlovelylainee
well i am getting married similar time to you charlie and we are doing it now - a cuz it is cheaper to do it in advance as you get good deals doing it early and b you have better chance to save and get offers on booking things at 2011 prices. I'm sure you will be able to convince him and i hope mrs prestleton2be has as much luck with mr prestleton in convincing him to get his backside in gear with the divorce xxx
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CommentAuthorCharlie
THanks girlies:D xx
CommentAuthorkrisw86
yh try talkin first. does help alot to get feelings off the chest x x
CommentAuthorRags
Good luck at sorting your other halves out, I am falling out with spending money everyday, at the moment I am thinking of not having this and that and having a really basic day, but one that is more special to us.....but in a couple of weeks I'l want everything all over again.xxx
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CommentAuthorUnknown
i was originally thinking of having a cheap wedding but we added it up the other day and including honeymoon it is about £11000. never thought it would cost that much!! xx
CommentAuthorMrsPrestleton2be
ive tried several times to get him to do it and even got the papers for him! he keeps sayin he'll fill them in but he hasnt. id do it my self but dont know all his exs details. so frustrated about it all its like he proposedto keep me sweet if that makes sense? x
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CommentAuthorMrsPrestleton2be
Think I'm gonna talk to him about it later as I'm sat here thinking bout it and it's driving me crazy?
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
I have physio later on tomorrow afternoon but if you need a moan I can always pop over. x x
CommentAuthorMrsPrestleton2be
Thanks Hun will drop u a tx tomoz xx
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CommentAuthorXLittleMissMe!X
No problems. In the mean time try not to upset yourself. There are ways of getting around the problems :)
CommentAuthorSherah
I think that's just men in general, us girlies are better at planning. We put our wedding on hold, was due to Marry next year, but h2b's brother has decided to Marry the same year, also abroad so the inlaws can't afford 2 weddings abroad the same year with only 3 months apart, so we have postponed ours, on the up side, more time to save for them added extras we want. X
CommentAuthorljeh92
My H2B wasn't divorced when i met him.. after 5 years of being seperated! he still wasn't divorced when he proposed in april last year.. i had to push and push because he just couldnt be bothered and didnt want to spend the money for the divorce.. i looked it up for him and it turned out it wasnt that much.. he finally got divorced in December!! Took a while but it finally got done.. Maybe you just have to push him like i did? when i told him i wouldnt go through with the wedding if he didnt hurry up and get divorced he soon shifted his ar5e! Men are just lazy and things like that are boring to them and they dont realise how important they are to us? i deffo think you should talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel... Good luck hun xxx
