Awh hunni......wait until your mum comes round its amazing how you can cut down on costs, is there nothing you can make yourselfs that you arent already....ie flowers, favours, table centre pieces.
Fingers crossed you don't have to post pone it chick xx

cheers kirsty, there isnt anything else that we can cut have us being short that amount is with cutting as much as possible, if we cut any more then we wont be getting married x

slap the deficit on a visa card, then pay that off over the year after the wedding. Try and get a new card that does 0% on balance transfers about the same time, then just transfer it all and pay no interest!

i know it gets you into debt but it would be worth it?

thats what we are doing for our honeymoon, because we cant afford that on top of the wedding costs.

roxy have already paid deposit for the venue, so would lose £750 we are already keeping it as small as we can for the breakfast with close family and friends, and i have already picked the cheapest menu that they have for the sit down plus have cut the budget for the buffet in half, the money that we will have cant do both, its either the church etc.. or the venue etc.. x

I'm abit on the fence, postponing it and paying for it all yourself, is better as no lingering debts, but then it happens sooner, I paid for a large part of my first wedding on a loan, and paid for it for 2 years after!

So I just think, you know what works best for you both.

x

thats a good idea nicola. And a lot more sensible and responsible than mine!

just wish that my mum would get here now so that we can atleast start looking at what there is that needs to be paid, think the worst at the moment it the not knowing what is going to happen, think i will tell her about having a later ceremony and just the buffet and see what she says xx

cheers lemondrops wouldnt that be lovely if the numbers did come in lol, still havent checked mine from last night u never know stranger things have happened, hopefully my mum will come up with something as she doesnt seem to think £3000 is a lot of money to be short and doesnt warrant pos poning so god knows xx

Hey hun, I know this sounds harsh, but the wedding is not worth putting yourself into debt for. Remember it is one day and I personally think that the money is better spent on making sure you have a secure future.

I'm having a church wedding, sit down meal for 60 and an evening reception for 100 and its coming it at about £6000 so shop around, I'm sure you can cut things down a lot. maybe look for another venue? I would personally say either downgrade or postpone it. I know its not what you want to hear, but you need to put your and your families wellbeing first and make sure you arent massively in debt for it xx

Fairytale I totally feel your pain, I've been in tears to 2 days running day and night!! last night we decided to cancel the wedding as we are £3500 short too. Mother in law said she was paying for wedding the said she had no money due to reasons, it's been so hard. So up until 9am this morning we were cancelling as me and h2b were arguing so much and decided it wasn't worth us stressing. But I've been in bits. MIL came this morning and said she has the money after 2 months of pure stress and now it's all full steam ahead. I so hope it works out for you as I know how heartbreaking it is. I'm suposed to be at work but I've been crying too much, feel a tad better now. But the girls are right sit down with Mum and see what you can figure out. Really hope it works out for you and you find a solution x

aww hun i hope you work it out soon xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

We spoke to our venue and told them we couldn't afford what we had originally agreed on and the chef came up with a different menu at a price we could. Talk to your venue about what alternatives they can suggest. A friend of mine had basket meals at £10 a head and actually put on her invites join us for lunch after the ceremony, meals available at £10 and then come and dance the night away at our evening buffet reception. That way you don't have to change your ceremony arrangements and your guests have a choice to join you or not. Nearly everyone my friend wanted still came. I recently saw a wedding party in a toby carvery £7.95 per head, do that then just have your evening do as planned and your deposit can go towards that and isn't lost. I think it is just so traumatic and you panic and feel like its all ruined but there is always a way round everything its just that sometimes you have to be a little more creative than others. There are no wedding musts nowadays just remember as long as you are Mr & Mrs ? at the end of that day then it will have been a perfect day....thats what it is supposed to be about not what you had or didn't have along the way, we get so caught up in it all because from little girls we are told to expect the fairytail, well as long as I get my prince charming thats my happy ever after. Love and best wishes x

i really hope it works out for your fairytale and i'm glad you agree its silly to get in to debt just for the sake of one day. I don't think you should feel bad about accepting your mum's help thats what parents are there for (amongst other things x) good luck xxx

hope everything works out babes. xx

I hope it works out too hun. I had an image of a big fairytale wedding and realised that I had to cut so much down. We are getting friends to do nearly everything.
again I hope it all sorts itself out hunny xxxxxx

I know how you feel, I have spent many nights crying, shouting and even worse because of our budget. At present we are £1000 out and I have no idea where that will come from as we are completely stretched. I was going to postpone ours and my mum said the same as yours "its not worth it for £1000" which got me angry because £1000 is a lot to me! I feel disappointed that we have received so much help, as we did want to do it ourselves.

cheers girls feeling alot better at mo, has have now managed to find a stunnig white chocolate 4 tier cake for £199 which has saved us £215 MIL2B is hopfully paying for the church as we have cut the chocolate fountain as it not important and that was what she was going to pay for so it going to be the church instead which she will be happy with as she can then tell people that she paid for us to get married and she loves bigging herself up x

cheers hun, it doesnt matter how old i get my mum always knows how to make me feel better and see the other side of things xx

yw hun glad i could help xx got to love mums xx

yeah me to hope my kids will be able to come to me for everything just like i can with mine xx

cheers kimi funnly enough was only thinking about something like that yesterday, but will have to wait till she is back before i speak to hr about it as she is back in spain at mo xx

cheers hun, look luck with your one as well xx

cheers kerrylou, i am feeling alot better today has helped coz have paid and order my engagment and wedding band xx