well as the title says ive had enough of my htb being loving and amazing one minute and cold and spiteful the next as much as i love him i just dont think i deserve someone who cant give me 100% love i want it all not half arsed pick and choose kind of thing he hasnt kissed or hugged me for a week now i feel cr@p.
we have had a huge fall out after last weeks weird questions on what if hes seen in a bar with a ex or what if someone kisses him etc. yesterday hes decided to plan a night out with his best friend tonight as shes only free then and in a week a messy night with his bro i told him its ott as whenever ive asked him to take me out recently hes said we cant afford it but now he has the money when other people ask. last time i wanted to go out (feb) i was told we couldnt afford it so i had £20 limit inc fags drinks and taxis so you can imagine im fuming. he does as he likes and went out anyway he asked if i was going to be stressy at him i said yes so he said he isnt coming home and have fun by yourself. havent heard from him since and that was about 4pm.
im so angry just because im not working as im at home with a 6,5 and 1 year old he thinks its fine to make the rules and then they never apply to him.
last week he told me marriage is stupid and he wishes he didnt ask me. i also suffocate him dont know how as between his job and police training were barely ever together anyway.
im thinking about selling everything i have for our wedding now cuz whats the point the guy doesnt want any ties and cant take my opinion on things hes clearly a lost cause grr 3 years wasted on someone who wants to live the young free and single lifestyle i dont think i want that anymore :-( xx

i hope things work out hun

I am not suprised your angry, I had an ex who was just like that. I would suggest speaking to him, and seeing what he says about how you are feeling and how close you are to calling it off, but given his behaviour i am not sure he would even take you seriously.
I think you could perhaps try writing him a letter, explain exactly how you are feeling and hope it gets through to him. Maybe if you had somewhere like a friends house or something you could take the kids and go stay there for a night or 2, shake him into giving a reaction.

Failing all else you need to consider whether you really want to spend the rest of your life like this, forever. Because the wedding planning and newly wed stage is supposed to be the best and most romantic isnt it? With things settling down and real life kicking in afterwards..... so if he is doing this now i would be very concerned.
I hope you work it out hun.
Big hugs.

big hugs hun i agree with tweedweddin to he is being unfair you deserve better than being treated like that hope you get sorted im here if you need a talk just pm me xxx

hi hun just seen this so thought id post, first of all im so sorry to hear this and yeah you should be angry men do tend to think they can do whatever they like while us ladies sit at home with the kids, but after recently going through this myself hun think carefully before making any decsions, its such a big one to make and you could regret it if you just make a harsh one hun, i do feel for you sometimes i regret the way things worked out and wish i hadnt been so hasty as we may have worked it out, but you do also need to think about the future and if this is what you want for the rest of your life, im here if you need to talk as i just have been through this and still going through it now im here to try and help hun

i really do hope you work this out hun and please think carefully before doing anything xxx hugs xxx

Im sorry to hear this hun, id be feeling the same. I hope everything works out for the best. Thinking of ya, big hugs xx

Aww hun I'm so sorry, what's he thinking about? You dont deserve to be treated that way, esp the horrible things he's saying! Hope you sort it out x

Maria how are you doing hun? x

thank you all its good to know people are here who dont know him and wont say no stop worrying he will come back like my mum did 2 hours ago and still nothing.
i hope you ok now maria?
i dont know if i should be upset or angry, how can he walk out in such a rage and not even text or call? he just doesnt care aslong as he gets his night out with his bumchum who only wants to know if shes got nothing better to do men suck they xx

awwww, i feel for you i really do . my ex husband was just like that too....you have to do whats best for you and your kiddies :) sending massive hugs your way xxxx Some for you aswell MariaLouise xxx :)

My ex husband was like this for a few months before i found out he was having an affair!

Youve changed the door so he cant get back in personally I would put some stuff in bin bags and leave those by the door so he gets the message.

You deseave so much more then this hunni, stay strong and do whats right for you

hails ive put the chain on the door so he can use his key but not get in lol hes not going to be happy if he does come home is he but then im not happy with him so he can stick it x

Hugs hunni.

Better now than once your married though.

hope things work out and you either sort it or find mr Right

xxx

It's devastating, but I think you can see the truth. Even if there's no other woman, he's not treating you right.

I think when there's trouble in a relationship the last thing you should do is get married or have another baby. Call it off, give it time - if everything blossoms again, you can always get married later.

Chin up hun. I'm beginning to think we cast too much of our well being on whether we're with a man or not. I'm happy with the man I love, but I'm definitely stronger and life runs smoother when I'm on my own.

Oh hon :(

Although, when I read he'd called you a moaning little bitch, friggin' heck, if my man did that (he wouldn't dare!) I think I'd have belted him one, cheeky git, hope you're ok x

How you doing sweet??
Did he manage to crawl home last night, what time?

hope you never let him in hehehe

Hey hun, hope you're ok!! What's the latest news? xxx

Did he not come home last night then? aw hun, im so sorry to hear he is being like this. I hope you're ok. If he is not going to treat you right then you are well rid of him hun, best to find out now. But then again, it may just be major cold feet and he might be coming back to ask forgiveness. Whatever happens, I hope that you are ok.

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Big hugs hun, sorry to read this! From what you've said I think you know the answer here!
Can't believe he threw paying for college at you, when, if it leads to a job, it will benefit you all! Best of luck for tonight, stand your ground though, how you expect to be treated etc. and make sure if he gets a night out, you get a night out! Did this with my ex, he cut his down from 6 nights to 2 then!

Hope it goes ok hun. Can't believe he didn't come home last night or even call/text to let you know! Shocking. Thoughts are with you Hx

Aw, good luck tonight, hope it turns out for the best xx

You alright hun? x

big hugs hun hope it goes ok xx

aaarrrhhh, bless ya, gotta agree with earlier post! if he gets night out you get one as well!! sounds like you need a break babes xx

still have no idea whats going on he says he needs space for a couple of days to see if marrying me is 100% what he wants so hes staying at his dads bloody men sooo confussing so hard when i love him and we have the kids. its all or nothing now so he better think hard xx

Best of luck if you are trying to patch things up but he sounds like a terwat to me. I would get rid and find someone who treats you with some respect - what sort of role model is he for your children when he treats you this way? Plus, you deserve more! Kick the bugger out! xxxxx