my in laws dont seem at all interested in our wedding! when we told everyone we had set a date my family were so pleased for us but his just dont seem bothered, no congrats or anything. we have been together for over 10 yrs and have 2 children together so surely they dont think we are rushing into it or making a wrong decision? h2b's sister got married a while back and their mum and brother paid for catering and other bits yet we have had no offers at all for ours (not that i expect anything but its not fair that my h2b gets treated so differently to his sister!)
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
hunni we had the same thing in fact MIL said " ohh you didnt tell us" .....wehn we went round on jan 2nd ....mr lala has proposed 12.05am jan 1st .... when did she want telling ? his 2 sisters have never said anything at all ,
Funny thing is now that MIL has said she isnt coming and we have had a few events recently which will mean that they wont even get an invite
Im in a similar situation to you, my inlaws are not interested in my wedding at all they say wouldnt you prefer to have a small weddign and a house deposit and im like well if we were saving for a house the money ive been given for me to get MARRIED wouldnt have been given to me, so im using it on my wedding like my family want. BUT also my mother isnt interested in anything to do with wedding plans either. i think mine is just because its so far away but maybe it is just because they are just not interested at all. i hope its because of the time but im not sure. i dont think they will be any more excited about it if it was 2 days away instead of 2 years so i feel your pain.
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CommentAuthorlisa123
maybe i am not the only one then! lol
hopefully your MIL will see how silly she is being and sort it out before your big day :)
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CommentAuthorKaz
Their loss hun, they'll miss out on all the planning, offering you advice, the dress shopping, the lot and they'll look really stupid when people asked them questions eg. where's the wedding etc. And I know that because I have the same problem except it's my Mum! xx
mrsowen2b, hopefully your mum will get more excited closer to the time, should be the best thing in the world for a mother and daughter to do together xx
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CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
My sister said to me last week to come back 6 months before the wedding and she will be more excited for me???? I know its a while away but i still want things sorted to spread the cost and even when the date was for this april i still had the same response from everyone, not just the inlaws...............truthfully I actually think the in laws are more excited about it then my family??? At least every now and again they ask how things are going, which is more then my mum does.
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CommentAuthorlisa123
maybe its a jelousy thing in some cases? x
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CommentAuthorMrsSaraParry!
mine are the same as yours Hails, Adams side of the family are so excited for us and want to talk weddingy things all the time. My mum is apathetic, I've told her its hurtful but she says its still a while away and can't get her head around spending thousands on one day. As it is we're doing it on a relatively small budget, but she just can't understand me getting excited about little things like favours and making napkin rings etc. xx
CommentAuthorstar12345
We were exactly the same until recently, and it's still not perfect yet. My family are so excited and in to it all - I think they will actually die if they get any more excited! H2B's family, hmmmm, not so much! They're pretty much refusing to talk about it. It was really really upsetting for months, but now we're thinking "get on with it, it's their loss". They'll definately be there, it's not that serious, but I do think it's a shame that they're missing out on the planning, especially MIL2B who just loves weddings! x
CommentAuthorMrsowen2b
No I don't think my mum will she is not a mother she would be all excited if it were my sister or brother but not me :( I hope. They get more interested because otherwise they will have missed out as we are hoping to have paid for almost everything next year. So we will see. X
CommentAuthorWifey2be
i know how you feel my mum has been great paying for little bits here and there (as she would love to pay for the whole wedding or even some of the expensive bits, but she just cant afford too) which is fine me and my partner are happy to pay for the wedding however my partners parents are not sly of a few pounds! yet they havent even said congratulations to us really, even though they turned up in malta in the same hotel as me and my partner when he asked me!! and they knew he was going to ask me there!! anyways they ahvent even offered to pay for a thing (not that we need them too its the principle that my mum whos not got much money is paying for things, or offering to pay and they havent even offered!!) yet when my other halfs brother got married they paid for it all! ohhhh and another thing that really annoys me is they say at least your not spending too much!! we are spending about 10,000 thats a lot! (thats without the honeymoon~) we have even told them how much we are spending and how much its costing per person to be there all day and they just said we will bring our sandwiches would save you 100 pound then!! arghhh lol
