At work on friday i looked at my phone and had a message from my friend which pretty much said 'sorry i can't make it next weekend (when i had arranged to meet with all my bm's to try on and order their dresses) but me and ***** have already been to try them on and I need a size 12.' I was SO annoyed! how dare they go behind my back and try them on without even telling me or inviting me? its my wedding! grrrr. anyway have spoken to them both about it and they said they thought i would be pleased (no idea how they worked that one out!) but they have both apologised. am i over-reacting or would you be annoyed about that too? I feel bad for my sister and my other BM as well as they were left out too x
CommentAuthorlinzi
I would be annoyed. I mean ok, if they had said we cant make it next weekend, but then ASKED if you wanted them to pop in whenever they can and see what size they need. I would be fine with that. But not even telling you?? yep, I would be annoyed! cause you want to see all your girls in their dresses, to make sure you like them on!
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CommentAuthorJill
Thats sh!t really isnt it! Like you say it's your wedding. Even if they'd told you they couldnt make it and asked if you wanted them to go try them on without you, but not just bashing on with it. It's rude! x
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CommentAuthorx ashlil x
I would be fuming hun. That's bang out of order x
CommentAuthorJilly17
I would be really annoyed! That is very rude as they should at the very least asked to go seperately from the other bms and it would have been a given that they should go with you! It is all part of the experience of being a bride / bm and doing these things together where possible. Hope they work out a way to make it up to you!!!
I'm a bit torn on this one to be honest. If she couldn't make it I think it might actually have been her trying to be helpful and making sure that you both knew what size she needed. But I can understand you being upset because you wanted the experiene of going shopping with them all. Look on the bright side - dresses sorted! You can still go shopping with your other bridesmaids, she is the one who will be missing out on the whole dress buying experience then.
CommentAuthorxox-Zoeee
i dont think she ment any harm just tryin to help but i can see why you are annoyed.
CommentAuthormcquire81
I can totally see why you would be annoyed, but looking at some of the BM's nightmares on this site i think you may have got off lightly, they probably were just trying to help. But now that you have spoken to them, hopefully they wont presume again and you can do the rest together xx
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
hmmmmmmm where u gettin them from? i wud be annoyed cos u want to see them in it before buyin to make sure they luk how u want them to
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CommentAuthorFreyFreyMrs.Carney2B
I agree with nini, although I would prob be annoyed, just make the shopping trip with the other bridesmaid a day to remember. X
CommentAuthorRachie :D
My best mate went into debenhams to look at the dresses tried some on and sent me pics but I had asked her to go and look at them. There's a few hundred miles between us all so logistical wise it was easier. I've been today & tried them on myself and they are lovely.
I do however think if she had done it & we hadn't had that discussion I would not be happy at all xxx
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CommentAuthorSian-Louise
I agree with you hun...that isnt fair at all as you need to see them all in the dress to make sure you like it on them all. I would not be happy at all!!! Your rite to be annoyed hun xx
CommentAuthorsuzky123
everything wedding related should always go through the bride first
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CommentAuthorMel D
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Totally agree with everyone else, they were out of line to go ahead without running it past you first. At least you can still go with the other two BMs and try them on. But you still want to see them all in the dress so that you know how they look in them. Maybe you should pick a different dress so they have to go back
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CommentAuthorSian-Louise
I agree with MelG....pick a different dress so they have to try them on again and you can ensure all your BM's are there together x
CommentAuthorMrsMelodyWalker
I'd be so annoyed.. dress shopping with your bridesmaid's is meant to be a big thing. They've ruined that for you! xx
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CommentAuthorlouise
I wouldnt be very pleased about not being there x
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CommentAuthormrs pinkalice
the dresses are from bhs, i would look for different ones but they were the only ones i could find in the right price range. im makng them meet me before i order them so i can see them on first to make sure they look ok. i know they were trying to be helpful i just wish they had stopped and thought about it! x
CommentAuthorKatkin
I'm not having any bridesmaids (unless you count my best friend james, who will be signing the register for us), so I don't have that problem, but I think I would have been quite hurt if my BMs had tried their dresses on without me. I guess they thought they were being helpful but they should have checked with you 1st. I'm sure feel really bad about upsetting you.
CommentAuthorLaticschick Holland
think that is very very wrong and quite sad really. think they are very out of order
CommentAuthorJane
It was bit of thoughtless thing to do but most probably no malice was meant, I shouldnt take it too personally. She knows she has upset you and I'm sure she will be more thoughtful in future, people do things sometimes without really thinking of the effect.
CommentAuthortweedwedding
I would be REALLY angry! I think it's so rude! Hope you've sorted it all out with them hun and made them realise how wrong it was x
CommentAuthortoni400
i would be annoyed like you...but looking at it from the outside im sure they didnt intentionally mean to pee you off, their hearts were in the right places and they thought they were doing you a favour x apologies done now go forward xx
CommentAuthorluvlifejen (mrs berr
i'd be fumin!!!!!!! x
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CommentAuthorSuzie Bear
I would be really cheesed off!!
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CommentAuthorKimi
My niece will do it with my sister but she's in america and im not, neither of us can afford to visit the other right now and I don't need to worry about matching colours as she's my only BM plus my sister is very kindly paying for it.
They've said they will keep me updated when they go and will take pictures for me so I'm happy with that.
But I don't think I'd appreciate it if they went behind my back and bought something especially if I thought it was horrible.
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CommentAuthorSoon2beMrsHall
I would be so angry if they had done that to me. You have every right to be angry with them
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CommentAuthorfuture-mrs-watson
I would be fuming. But at least they've apologised! x
CommentAuthorMadam Butterfly
Yes I would be angry too. You had already arranged a day to go. You want to be there as its your wedding..you have the final say. Glad they apologised though x
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CommentAuthorGemmagem1987
I would be soooo annoyed, they probably thought they were helping out, at least they have apologised now though x
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CommentAuthorNishaVyas88
It was nice of them to take initiative when they found out they couldn't make the original fitting BUT it was a bit rubbish of them not to run it by you first. You don't go around the bride!
