we booked our church last October.... from the start it was a balls up......the vicar forgot to comer and meet us at the church...we phoned him told us to go to the vicarage cuz he forgot (AS if you would admit it) so off we went and found the vicarage....told him we want to get married in the church n when etc... he said oh yes ok wrote on a scrap piece of paper our details and said "don't worry I will put it in the proper book when I go to the church....phone me a year before the wedding"
didn't say why but I imagine its to go through order of service hymns n stuff I dno n I wana ask him about photographers in church n stuff...anyway
I just tried phoning him...phone cut off... go online find church warden number....very lovely man said vicar left..no vicar yet n he not church warden anymore, someone else is...he did give me the number but they not answering...I no they might be working or whatever..
but OMG stressed :(
sorry just needed to vent..... :(
vic xx
CommentAuthorNicolaG1
Oh my gosh how unprofessional!
Keep trying on the number you have and hopefully you will get somewhere but do let us know how you get on.
I am sure the vicar will be replaces asap, who would currently be doing the sunday services?
What about contacting somebody higher up in the church? The bishop or cannon for the area?
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CommentAuthorvic:)
Wouldn't know how to.... Every search I do on Internet comes up with nothing..... I'm proboly searching wrong haha. I don't even know if he actually got round to putting the wedding in te church book.. So dno if ceremony actually booked .... Arrghhh buy its a village church so can't Imagine another wedding being booked for same day... But you never know.... Yes wil keep you updated... Going to try phoning the church warden this evening when I go to my sisters...
At least it's now I'm havin stresses about it rather than a few months before! Lol Sorry about spellings.... I'm on me phone not my laptop
Vic xxx
CommentAuthorkimi1987
If u can't get thru on phone then try popping into the church during a service the person taking the service might.be able to help. Or even.going to the church in a.neighbouring parish they may be able to give u details of the bishop or whoever is higher
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CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Gosh how unprofessional proberly a good thing he's leaving if he forgets n writes in on scrap paper ect. But still not fun that ur where u r. Have u got an email for the area dean? They book the churches for weddings. Keep ringing as might be busy like u said. If no luck turn up on Sunday for the service n speak to whoevers doing it. Usually if its a village church like ours the vicar is connected to a few so there will be a vicar around somewhere. Hope u get through soon hun and sort it all out :) x
yeh was thinking of going when there is a service but going to be working nights this week and h2b gets back from America on the Saturday... I will keep trying, they cant ignore me forever. haha we are getting married in the next village not the one where we live, but Im sure if I asked the vicar where we live he should be able to give me some advice... will try searching for the area dean...I have just emailed a website, they have a whole list of churches and plan your ceremony thingy on it, so not sure if they connected to churches or not but see what they say..
CommentAuthorMrsC2bee
Sounds like u got it all under control :D x
CommentAuthorvic:)
I hope so.... I don't feel like I have lol I just feel so annoyed about it :( xx
CommentAuthorElizabethP8
You have plenty of time to find the person you need to be speaking to so don't let yourself stress over it, it will all get sorted xx
CommentAuthorvic:)
yeh that's true... im rubbish putting things in to perspective like that....thanks :) xx
CommentAuthorElizabethP8
It always seems worse than it is! It's happening to you right now so of course you are going to feel worried and it's easy for me to say it will all be fine, just take a step back and think about it objectively :) Good luck hunting down your vicar xx
CommentAuthorvic:)
thankyou!! naa im just a worrier....and I don't have h2b at moment to put it all in perspective... I know if he not stressing I don't have to be either lol... but your right it does seem worse than it is... xxx
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
Vicars are human. I'd prefer someone who admits to forgetting a meeting than who tries to make up an excuse. I'm sure he will have written it down; walking into the vestry he will have seen the book and it will have reminded him.
As for him leaving, the Anglican church sometimes moves vicars on with relatively little warning. Sometimes it is the vicars choice, perhaps if they feel that they are no longer the right person to take that particular church forward, or because they feel called to another post, but sometimes their bishop will simply tell them that they are going somewhere else. What the Anglican church does is go into what's called an interregnum, while a replacement vicar is sought. Services may be taken by a vicar or curate from a neighbouring parish if there is more than one there, or by a retired vicar residing near by (as is currently the case in one Cardiff parish). There may also be lay readers helping out but they do not celebrate communion. It falls to the bishop of the diocese to ensure that the church is looked after, even if he has to do services himself. There will be a vicar provided to do your wedding if the post isn't filled in time.
As for the church warden, if you don't have any luck getting through, go to the service next Sunday. They'll almost certainly be there. You'll also be able to see who is taking that particular service and maybe have a chat to them about things, unless they're dashing off to another service.
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CommentAuthorvic:)
oh no I comnpletly understand that.... to bo honest I would have been annoyed if it ws the vicar or the cake lady or whoever..its not really professional but nooone is perfect and remembers everything lol
well I managed to get in touch with a church warden this morning - but turns out she is for another chuch which is linked to mine, and has given me the correct number to ring this time! lol
but he isn't in at moment, so will try him again in a while! :) feeling bit better about it today....I hope I wasn't being all bridezilla yesterday! ha :S
xxx
CommentAuthorvic:)
UPDATE....
managed to get in touch with the actual church warden explained the whole thing.. he said he didn't have the forms with him they were at the church but didn't recognise my name from when he read through them last..(my surname is spelt pretty unsusal so he would remember it) and didn't think it had been sorted before the vicar left he hasn't booked the 24th may for a wedding but someone else been taking bookings too... so he doesn't know if its taken im so upset and annoyed... warden going to phone me back over weekend, but im on nights so wont actually speak to him...so cant do anything until next week apart from keep my fingers crossed :'(
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CommentAuthorElizabethP8
At least you have the contact details for the right person now!! He sounds like he knows whats he's talking about and will get it all sorted out for you xx
CommentAuthorJenniferY90
The church where we are getting married will do multiple marriages in one day as long as there is enough of a gap between them so even if there is another wedding booked they might be able to fit you in after or before them?
CommentAuthorsarah
It really is time for you to go to a Sunday service, since playing phone tag obviously isn't working. I do it sooner rather than later for piece of mind. good - luck
CommentAuthorElinor Claire
That's a shame. You still have time though to get it all organised. It's usually the church wardens who know what's going on better than anyone else, so if he's going to look after you then you should be fine.
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CommentAuthorvic:)
evening ladies... yeh thought about going to sunday service but i'm on nights and h2b is still in the US.... i'm going to be phoning up again as soon as I have finished my nights if the warden hasn't phoned me back and left a message! i'm keeping my fingers crossed...keep telling myself that not everyone would want to get married on the same day in the same church!!...but it is a bank hol so you never know! hope these nights go super fast so I can find out for definite what's going on!!
vic xx
p.s im very jealous of all of you who have weekend off :P have a lovely weekend :)
CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
You will probably have to go and meet the new vicar before they can book you in again hun. It is down to them as to whether you can marry in their church when you are from outside the parish. Hopefully they will have you booked in and you don't have to worry about it. But be prepared just in case xxx
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CommentAuthor*KelBel*
Ahh I think I'd be upset too, sounds like the old vicar was very unorganised! And it's not fair on you to put u thru this stress! Hopefully it won't be a busy day but a way of testing it is to look at the wedding calendar thread and see how many ppl that are registered on this site are getting married that day just as an indicator of how busy(or not) that particular day is.., reason being,we are getting married in the area next to our so had to book a registrar from that area and we got the last slot of the day (for sept 13th 2014)... There are 4 registrars that work the weddings that day with 4 slots each,so u see what I mean,that's a lot of weddings for one day!x
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CommentAuthorvic:)
hellooo... well still not heard anything, not really slept much after my nights as I didn't want to miss the phone call ( that never came)
there is still no vicar at the church near by ones are going in to do sunday service, the church wardens have been taking wedding bookings apparently....I dno..... I didn't know they could..
the H2B is being very positive about it and saying that it will be booked for us because no one can forget to book a wedding in! haha..
we have links to the church so we should be ok.... hopefully...h2b's parents got married there...and im sure I read on a website that this is ok...but only one way to find out! ... :)
going to try and phone the warden again once I've woken up a bit..
kelbel that's a good idea...might put my mind at rest a little until I know for sure..thanks..
will keep you all updated....but for now need another hours sleep...its been a looonnngg night!
CommentAuthorvic:)
IT'S ALL OK!!!!!!
I'm so happy!!! :D
Thanks for all your advice and everything everyone! You stopped me stressing about it as much!
Xxxx
CommentAuthorsarah
yay!
CommentAuthorvic:)
I feel a bit silly for getting stressed and upset about it now :-S lol xxx
