Wow I didn't realise this was an issue... TBH I have never given anyone else's budget a second thought...each to their own and if you can afford to have a big wedding good for you regardless of who's paying for what.

We all want the same thing, to be married to the man of our dreams and have a bloody good party to celebrate - and as others have said, if this costs £1k or £25k, it doesn't matter as long as it is what you and your H2B want.

As far as I'm concerned no one's upset me by having a bigger budget. We're paying for everything ourselves and I know what I can afford and cannot afford which is why I appreciate EVERYONE's advice and tips on planning our wedding (most of whom are on this thread!)

Girls you shouldn't feel uncomfortable in discussing your budget, you know how nosy we all are and love a good wedding (as well as pinching ideas! lol).

(sorry to geg in there!)

I made that comment about women with Bigger budgets having a bit of respect but you've taken that totally the wrong way. Why I said that was because someone with a huge budget was commenting on a thread where someone was asking for tips on saving money and they were going on how they had this and were spending that so I think your well out of order making this thread and making me feel like a bad person. I've never judged anyone on there budget and I never would! I don't have a budget!

i hadnt noticed this as being a problem. and i can truthfully say that i have never felt that anyone has looked down their nose at me being on a small budget. i say each and everyone of us on here has their own right to spend as much or as little as they like and have what they want for their wedding day!!! it doesnt matter how much or how little money you are spending you can still advise others and ask others for advice xx

Aww honey. I think the term 'having respect' is what may have upset people, Melody, but I don't think you meant it the way some have read it and I don't think this is aimed at your specific comment.

Don't worry - we all want the same thing in the end. He liked it and he put a ring on it xx

I haven't read every single post on this thread so apologies if I'm repeating anything but here's my tuppence anyway:

We don't have a massive budget but we have a reasonable one. We both made the decision that personally we can't justify to ourselves spending huge amounts on 'one day' (or in our case two due to the party in London after returning from Vegas), no matter how special it is to us. We have to consider the future - saving for a deposit on our home and having children are our priority.
However, if we had these already, I'm sure it would be a slighly different story, but probably not that much.

I think one reason that budget stuff is so often talked about on here is because all the bridal magazines (which cost a small fortune in themselves) and wedding fairs often are marketed towards bigger budget weddings.
Personally, I think it's great that there is a place for us to share where we got our bargains from and to bounce cost-saving ideas off one another. Even if I had a budget of £100K then I'd still be looking for bargains, but then that's just what I'm like to be honest!

I don't think it's anyones place to make anyone else feel bad about the amount you are spending on your wedding, whether that be £100 or £100,000! It's a personal thing and as we always say - your way, your day!

I also read the post where it was frowned upon if you had a 'bigger' budget, but to be honest I took no notice. I am extremely careful with money (my h2b describes me as tight), but we do have a bigger budget. I'm not going to get myself into debt over the wedding, but we have tightened our belts big time so that we can pay for everything that we want.

Lisa - I think a lot of people on a bigger budget are doing the same, scrimping and saving as much as anyone else. Heavens knows we are!

We're spending based on what we can actually afford and I run our spending and saving constantly to make sure we're not biting off more than we can chew.

This wasn't actually meant to be a spit in the face, but an opening for people who are on a bigger budget to be able to be a bit more open if they want to.

havent we had a discussion the same as this before and im sure it ended up closing lol im having a tight budget dont bother me how much anyone else is spending! we could have a bigger wedding if we wanted but i dont see the point not about the money and how much is spent its about the vows !

Jill - I can totally see that, ours is coming up to £10k (without honeymoon) which is more than we'd originally wanted, however, on knowing what we know now, I can TOTALLY see how a wedding can cost £20k+ And I can tell you now, if something happened to us over the next which resulted in us getting a cash injection our budget will be getting increased lol.

SS - I don't see it as 'a spit in the face' at all - I agree that you shouldn't be ashamed of your budget. I think some people get really hung up on it and think it's all a personal attack. But then that's just me and it really doesn't bother me what others think of my budget lol x

(sorry - another geg in!)

lmao at sijen lmaoing at jaesin ....lto geg in i love it am a pure geg!!!

sijen..... were having ceremony and reception in knowsley hall the stately home one

Hahahahahaha JaeSin! Brilliant! It's geg IN love...not geg head! LMAO -

Croc - wow gorgeous venue! Congrats love !!

Herehere penny!

* Thought I had better get my lyrics in order as I am up in Liverpool on 15th May for the footie and staying in Albert Docks!

i think just close it now !!

It one person sinks a discussion, it sinks for all of us x

Do it SS...just call a thread 'Big Budget Brides', I think it's probably the 'stigma' part of this thread that's caused so much unease with peeps - it makes people defend themselves automatically (well some anyway).

Croc - ;o~ Would never have thought that...hope it's not too many don'ts

Ah JaeSin that's my bro's birthday.

Every time I see 'Big Budget Brides' it makes me wanna sing "I like big budgets and I cannot lie, you other mothers can't deny, when a girl walks in with an itty bitty waist and a big budget in your face" hahahaha sorry!

Forget BBB where is the BBW post for us larger ladies ;-)

PMSL Lisa !

You can however try to deal with there being a culture within the forum where people feel that they have to hide their budgets if they aren't on a very tight budget. It isn't blaming anyone in particular but encouraging people to come out of the closet and to feel safe in doing so.

That said, this thread has once again ended up with quite a lot of very negative comments about bigger budget brides (and how they should keep quiet), so things have scarcely moved forward.

Hi my name is Caroline and I'm a BBB x

There were comments to that effect, actually, although not worded identically. I have read the thread carefully.

u knew that posting this thread would cause some negative comments. everyone has the freedom of speech but be civil and not jump to conclusions i have not seen anyone say anything about bigger budgets or smaller budgets until now!!