Help needed please the three guys doing our speeches are hopeless my oh is very quiet and hates speaking in front of people but he's wanting to do a speech at our wedding but doesn't know where to start what should his speech contain.

Same with my dad and bestman what should there speeches be about. Bestman has asked me to help him write the speech and I can see me doing so for my h2b and my dad.

Any help much appreciated x

Will follow this with interest. My OH doesn't like speaking in front of people either and if I know him like I do, he'll leave it until the last minute!

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Great thread.
I have nobody to make a speech on my behalf so i will be saying a few words.
Cant wait to see some ideas hints and tips on where to begin.

Speeches should be personal to you and your families. If you don't feel comfortable then don't have them!

My friend didn't have speeches and they weren't missed, I've been to other weddings where the speeches and gift giving took over an hour. Both were perfect for those couples.

We decided to have speeches but kept them minimal. We gave the gifts privately in the morning before the wedding.

My husband said a short "thank you" to everyone and said how stunning we all looked. I stood up and said a short but heartfelt toast to absent friends (mentioning my mum, uncle and husbands aunt who we lost).
My dad stood up and said "everyone Leasa loves is in this room" and he sat back down.

Less than 5 mins and it was over!

Do what is right for you and what your wedding party is comfortable with...just remember that long nervous speeches get boring and people will get restless. It might be better to just say thank you, and get on with the celebrating.

At my first marriage my Step-dad was adamant he wasn't going to do a speech, right up until the day. Then after the other speeches (groom, best man, father of groom) he decided actually he will. He did it all completely off the cuff and it was the best speech out of all of them!

My new H2B is very shy and a bit of an introvert so we've decided that we're going to say a few words together to thank everyone for coming etc, we're then having other speeches as optional as my son is determined to say a few words, and the best man might have a thing or two to say, but it is totally fine if no one wants to say anything either.

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That's lovely Emma!

My OH gets very nervous but I said it woukd be nice for him to say a few words :-)

He's hinted that he might do something like a pre recorded video or done thing- I am happy with what ever he wants to do and knowing me I'll probably jump up,and see a few things on the day!

Yeah it is OH is really good at video editing and that Dort of thing so will be special :-)

Hi, I will be doing the traditional "grooms"speech on the day, I have soooo much I want to say, a couple of funny stories, and plenty of people I want to thank. I have just timed my speech and it's 10 minutes!!! I'm worried that this is too long to go on for, as we'll still have the father of the bride, plus our best women speech. I've cut out everything I can bare to cut out. Do you think that this is just too long to expect the guests to listen ?

Usually at family weddings we've done a sweepstake on how long the speeches take, but I think this is taking it a bit far lol

I think if you're throwing in a few funny stories too it should be fine. We went to OH's cousins wedding last year and she made a speech followed by her lovely new wife and between the 2 of them, it took around 10 minutes but it was so lovely listening to the stories etc that it didn't matter how long it took.

Thank you, that's very helpful, will stick to the 10minutes

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