Well my Fiance's dad is awfull. he calls me fat and comments on my appearance and hair everytime he see's me. I am so scared for my wedding day because i think he will do the same things again and ruin my big day. Does anyone have any advice or at least been through a similar thing. It seems everyone else gets on except us!!!
CommentAuthorEnny
hi hun maybe u should speak to your h2b that he talks to his dad to leave those mean comments about u! Or another way either ignore him and be strong no matter how hard it is! or tell him for once what u think... or be the clever one and actually confront his dad why he is like this...
if he doesn't leave it and even your h2b cant help it i would just not invite him ppl. like this dont deserve to be at ur big day if there is a chance that they ruin it!!!
HUGS xxx
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
oh my word!!! i cant belive ure h2b aint aid owt to his father!! thats is so not his place to say anything! how old is the fil2b? bit immature if u ask me!
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CommentAuthorlala "mod" bunni
the facr is babe it doenst matter what you Fil says bc his opinion really doesnt matter .........your H2b loves you .... he loves your hair ...he loves everything about you that is why he is MARRYING YOU .
the nest time he says anything i would just front up to him and ask him what his problem is ... my bet is he wil back down , thats what bullies do when confronted
i would have a word with him alone and call him back and tell him if he continues to to throw names ya'l call him a lot worse and bar him from comin to the wedding x good luck hun and don't let him keep puttin you down xxx
thats awful, i think your h2b should sit him down and have words with him, i dont think its at all fair on you :) x
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CommentAuthorKylee27
Thats shocking!Has he done it in front of your H2B and if so why hasn't he defended you?
Is he the type of person who thinks that he's been funny and it's his way of trying to 'bond' with you or is he saying it in a nasty way?
If it was me then i'd make a comment back such as "you look like you could do with losing a few pounds yourself haha" or "ooh your hairline is receeding more every time i see you!" said in a joking tone and if he gets offended then you can point out that as he'd offended you with his comments then you thought that comments like that were acceptable! :0)
Get tough and let his comments just slide off you. Like Lala said, your H2B asked you to marry HIM for a reason. Good luck.xx
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CommentAuthorMel D
What a horrible man! Your h2b definitley needs to speak to his dad. My mum doesn't like it when Dan shaves his hair off, and has made comments in the past which he didn't like. I told her to keep them to herself or he will be rude back to her and she's not said anything since. xx
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
how awful! thats really out of order! why hasn't your H2B stuck up for you, if he hasn't done it in front of him then he should be still defending you by going to his dad with what you've told him and telling him he's out of order!
hopefully you can get it sorted before the big day! :-)
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CommentAuthorA.Bird2b
I know what you are going through, unfortunately for me my nasty one is my own mother, she calls me fat, smelly, ugly, stupid, there is no end to the put downs with her. Luckily my sister has said that if our mother starts anything on my day then she will take her to one side and slap her until she bleeds ( it sounds harsh and I doubt she means it literally, even though she's promised to wear red so that the blood doesn't show!) My advice, tell your h2b and on the day just have someone standing by so that they can take him off to one side and have a quiet word about his behaviour if he does say anything. Other than that what can we do eh?
CommentAuthorLaura
Hi, i am having a big problem with my in-laws aswell....
Sister-in-law fell out with me about 12 months, HSB still speaks to her and he takes our daughter down to theirs quite regularly, at least once per week so that she can see her 3 kids who she adores, especially her niece.
I have been asking and asking and asking if i could see her kids, and stupid excuses are made all the time "oh there not well today" "there tired today" "we are going out today" so i give up asking in the end.
They are in the process of moving to a new home so mother in law had her 3 children whilst they were moving etc. So H2B said we will call down to his mums for half a hour on Saturday. I was pesimistic about it but still went ahead with it as havent seen the kids for a long time. Gets down there, and the kids were overjoyed to see me i was showered with hugs and kisses and we had a brill time playing outside in the garden with the football! Even if it was only for half an hour.
So anyway, later that afternoon we were in the park with our daughter when his phone rings. Its his sister.....kicking off because nobody had told them that we had called down to see the kids. Well........i felt sick and couldn't believe she could do such a thing. Mother in law is currently depressed following the death of her husband 2 years ago and she is still greiving and little things like this really really get to her. So anyway, sister in law saying that they should have been told that we were going down and asked first of all if it was ok and she has now fell out with mother in law, H2B and brother in law. What the hell did she think i was going to do to the kids? You would there was a paedophile in the house or something i used to have a brilliant relationship with her kids and i even took the day of work unpaid and stayed in their house overnight even though my own daughter was unwell at the time, whilst she was in labour with her third child.
Everybody keeps saying its jealousy......i did fall out with mother in law late last year and we have recently sorted things out. H2B asked me to try and get her involved in preparation etc for our wedding so i invited her down to my second trip to try on my wedding dress, and she was bit down last week as it was her wedding anniversary so her some flowers....I dont know if it is jealousy or what but she needs to get a grip and stop using the children as a weapon. I havent ever stopped her from seeing my daughter because my daughter adores her and the kids and its unfair on the kids. I work in family law and see these sort of things day in day out and its so upsetting......
I was going to ask for their kids to be BM and pageboys but im thinking i wont bother now........
Sorry for the such long moan......had 2 get it off my chest! xxx
CommentAuthortwestwood
Hi
I am also having some trouble with my MIL, I thought id be nice and ask her to come to look at dresses with my sister and mum, she kept on pulling out fishtail and red dresses, i told her i didnt like red and i dont have the figure for a fishtail gown, she then scowled at me and said well i sincerely hope ur planning on loosing alot of weight before this wedding!! i was that upset it ruined the experience of finding my dress especially when she looked me up and down and said is that it!!
Not only has she just done this but she has been pestering me pretty much every day, she has also invited 17 of her friends to the whole wedding day! my H2B hasnt seen them since he was a child so y should we have them at our wedding let alone paying for their meals! Also as my H2Bs brother couldnt make our engement party they have asked us round for an engement meal next weekend, I've just been informed by my SIL2b that the MIL has booked a photographer to suprise us at the meal! we dont want that we have only just got engaged, there is no need for it!
She is also inviting herself round to our house and demanding scabble nights even tho i said no, She already labels herself the mother in law from hell but i really didnt think she would be like this!
If anyone has any tips on how to deal with her then please let me know too!
