As some of you know when my H2B told his dad about us getting married he asked was a pregnant and then he calmed down, well yesterday me and the H2B had an arguement about christmas and stuff and his dad decided at that moment to come to the door to deliver our daughters birthday card, and he heard the tail end of the arguement.
He then text the H2B asking if he was really going to marry someone who gets stressed over christmas and that he no longer is willing to help us with costs to the venue for the reception. Im a little upset because chistmas isnt a good time for me and everyone gets a little stressed. i understand that his dad had 2 failed marriages and domestics but it wasnt like that it was literally an arguement about the cost of things at the minute. I cant understand why hes so hot and cold at the moment, one minute hes happy for us next hes trying to put martin off the idea. And now because martin told him hes marrying me his dad isnt talking to us. I sent him a text saying "im really sorry about today we were stressed and things were just getting ontop of us" and his reply was "oh well maybe you should spend awhile apart" i feel like crying now because martin wants his dad to be happy for us and i dunno what to do.
should i just leave his dad to it or speak to him or something, i dont know what to do, =(
CommentAuthorAntonia9
perhaps both of you go over to FIL's house and sit down with him, i dont see why its such a bad thing - all couples argue, its part of being in a relationship and lets the tension out. Just go over and just explain this to him and that things are fine between you and h2b
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CommentAuthorHeLz
FIL is being silly. It's nothing to do with him anyway, he's not the one getting married. Agree with antonia, maybe you should both go and see him and see what is bothering him xx
CommentAuthorClareS
Not that it's any of his business but as already suggested, both of you go round and talk to him about it over a cuppa and get things out in the open. All couples argue and just because he's had 2 failed marriages doesn't mean that you two will end up that way. Sounds a bit harsh to be withdrawing his support like that on the basis of hearing the end of an argument. Tell him you two are still getting married with or without his help/support and although you'd prefer it if he was a part of your big day, him having a tantrum like that is not going to stop you x
CommentAuthorsamwiseheart
were going to go round in a day or so, leave him to calm down at the minute as martin is furious, and im not in a great mood. i know hearing his son in an arguement isnt a great thing but at the end of the day we have 2 kids and christmas coming up with no jobs and a wedding to plan. and FIL has 2 jobs and himself to deal with so he might not get stressed over xmas but i did, i just think hes having a paddy atm but hes almost 55 he should of grown up lol xx
He should understand as kids are expensive and he is a dad himself!
CommentAuthorfairy-cakes
how weird... sounds like he's been reading same books as kerri's mil!! i agree with the others though about having a chat with him, you never know though, could be something else going on with him if its out of his character x
CommentAuthorFutureMrsClarke
Wait! You have 2 kids already? And he's being an ass about you getting married?? You guys couldnt be more a part of each other if you shared a kidney! The wedding is just gonna be the icing on the cake! Sounds like his dad doesnt like the idea of anybody being happily married. Just coz he was crap at it!
CommentAuthorJanie
aah everybody has arguments, and as you say christmas is a stressfull time and so is planning a wedding. I can undersntad why you would be upset though, you just want people to be happy for you, especially family. Maybe things will calm down by the time you go round and chat, but just stress to him youre both happy and this is what you want,
at the end o the day we all have to live own lives, make our own mistakes (IF they are that, not saying your marriage is but i hope you know what i mean) and learn as we go.
Remember : To the world you may be just one person,
BUT to one person you may just be THE WORLD x x x
CommentAuthorbecky -mrs firth
any news hun?
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