We went to a wedding at the end of August and haven't received a thank you card or note. Now, I'm not normally a stickler for etiquette and I know they fed us and got us drunk (lol) but we travelled to the other end of the country and paid for two nights in a hotel as well as buying them a dinner service from the registry. I just thought that it would be polite to send thank you cards or notes - we haven't even had a text!
Are these now a thing of the past? I always thought that it was a given that you sent out thank you cards after the wedding? I'm not particularly upset about it but just thought it was a bit odd...I will certainly be sending them, but is anyone else not doing?? Xx
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CommentAuthorNicsquared
I have just ordered mine to send out (got married 1st Sep), they may just be a little late..... I dont think they are a thing of the past although I didnt get them from two weddings we went to last year, but the other 4 we did!
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CommentAuthorLinzi-jo
I will be sending thank you cards and to be fair I don't think you are allowing the couple enough time. They would have been on honeymoon during that time and sorting other bits out after the wedding, so may not have got round to it just yet xx
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CommentAuthorlizzylou
I don't think they are a thing of the past. I think it's really important to send thank you notes. I certainly will be doing it. Some people just don't think that way though, my BM got married early this year and nothing from her... I never expected anything though, i've know her for years and she is the most terrible hostess! You'll be at her house 2 hours and she won't get you a drink unless you ask if you can have one! lol! Just her ditsy way.
I definitely think you should do it though. I'm going to make my own and have factored them in with the stationary supplies I 've bought for the invites to save a few pennies. I've bought a rubber stamp and i'm going to make thank you "postcards" to save on envelopes. There are lots of good DIY sites online that can give you a few ideas.
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CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Yeah, you might be right...mind you, I don't think they've been on honeymoon, although I'm sure they'll have had lots to sort out after the wedding. How long do they normally wait until they get sent out?
I was just a bit surprised as they don't strike me as the sort of person to overlook something like that.
ive been to 4 weddings last year and didnt get one thank you card but i am sending them as think its nice for people to recieve them xx
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CommentAuthorLaura JaneW
I will be sending them. Ive received them at most weddings ive been to!
CommentAuthorx~Hails~x
My friend sent her's out as anniversery thank you's! Was lovely and so different I thought, they had a little news letter type thing's in it telling everyone what had happened within the year and how much they appriciated us, the guests, being there on the day they started their journey as a married couple!
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CommentAuthorSam
As a general rule they have three months to get the notes out. Most people I know have sent them out within a month of coming back from their honeymoon.
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Oh that's a lovely idea hails! Xx
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
i think that the ettiquette is 6 months but i've done mine and there are in the post already as i wanted to get them done but also get them finished as i made them the same as my invites so that they matched
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CommentAuthorkrazykitty
aw hails that's really nice x we have been to 3 weddings in the last 3 years and we didnt receive one thank you card although for one i didnt expect anything and they have now split up so yeah! but we will be sending ours out definitely! we were thinking of having a picture from our honeymoon (if we get one otherwise a nice pic of us) as a postcard and a thank you! x it just polite! x
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CommentAuthorOfficially Mrs M
exactly! mine were all handwritten and had personal messages in to make it that little bit more special, i'm a stickler for the finer details
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CommentAuthorCatrinaP
im sending out thank you cards ,a few weddings iv been to i havent recieved any cards but its realy nice when you do get one so mine will be in the post as soon as pos after the wedding x
CommentAuthornatalie2614
I will be doing them, I havent received any thank you cards from the weddings we went to this year, although one of them i got a thank you text.... but i suppose its each to their own, I like the idea of the anniversary ones thats lovely x
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CommentAuthorKristina
I dont think they are a thing of the past either. When i get married in 2014, i am planning to send out Thank You cards. I might be doing it sooner then anybody else, due to not having a honeymoon. :)
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CommentAuthorGlitterfairy
It's not much to say thank you, I shall be sending out thank you cards after the wedding.
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CommentAuthorHelenW
We are planning on using a pic from our honeymoon as we are asking for honeymoon as a wedding present, and making it like a postcard (as others have said). Think its a nice personal touch then! xx
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CommentAuthorPrincess2be
I'l be sending a crad to say thanks, even if its not a really fancy one, the thought is nice. x
CommentAuthorAlexK
Some people use one of their wedding pics as a thank you card, maybe they are still waiting for pics back.
CommentAuthorPrincess2be
Good point AlexK, never thought of that
CommentAuthorbarbie86
It's very early days yet IMPO for an end of August wedding.
My OH and I will be marrying beginning of August 2014, we then plan to go away on honeymoon for about 3 weeks the following week, so won't be back until September. We hope to move into our first home together after we're back from the honeymoon, which will keep us very busy for several weeks. At that point, I'll also be in my last year of my research degree, so very busy with my studies.
We will definitely be sending out thank you cards, but I'd like them to be personal and hand-written, so realistically, I can't see us getting them out until late October/early November.
I think etiquette states 3 months, though I might be wrong; if I didn't get one within about 4 months I'd probably feel a bit miffed, and I do think it's bad etiquette not to send them at all; but I wouldn't judge someone for not having sent them within just 6 weeks.
CommentAuthorJoanna
We went to a wedding at the start of august and haven't had a thank you card. I'm really annoyed about it to be honest as I think it's just manners. I will definitely be sending thank you cards. This same couple didn't give gifts to the best man or bridesmaids either, so I don't think we'll be getting a thank you.
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CommentAuthorAmyP7
I will be sending them out, but I think you need to give them more time. They will have been very busy I'm sure x x
CommentAuthorLauraJo87
Ah, I'm not annoyed or disappointed about it, was just wondering what the etiquette for it was, as another guest also commented on the fact that she thought it was odd not to have sent one, we will be doing it certainly. Xx
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CommentAuthorKat
I've only just sent out the first of mine and I got married 21st July. However not everyone does send them
CommentAuthorRosyF77
I will defo be doing thank you cards asap after the wedding...if not have them there ready to hand out as people go home xx